College Rejections/Outlook on Life

<p>Disclaimer: Please excuse my grammar mistakes, if any, and any tense shifts. It was truly a stream-of-consciousneess</p>

<p>Hello everybody,</p>

<p>I am writing to you on this gorgeous Saturday afternoon because I thought I would go crazy otherwise.</p>

<p>Since March 19th, I have been rejected by 8 colleges, with calibers (that I personally assigned) ranging from SUNY Binghamton to UChicago. I have been waitlisted by Fordham and of much bigger surprise value, Wake Forest--only because I expected a straight up rejection. I have 5 more schools to hear from, but with names like NYU and USC headlining the list, I'd be a fool to say that I don't have anything to worry about.</p>

<p>Why have I been rejected by so many places?</p>

<p>I am not your typical CCer. From my limited time spent on here since first wandering onto here in October of 2009 in the aftermath of the dreaded SAT exams, I have seen enough 4.0s, 2350s, and Presidents of school clubs to fill a large auditorium many times over. In addition to those, I am sure there are many more, for I am truly sorry to say that scanning through credentials of fellow CCers is not a hobby I hold in high regard.</p>

<p>I have about a 3.0. With due respect to other holders of 3.0's, I do not believe that my average is representative of my abilities as a scholar. I am not stupid. What I am, however, is a victim of my own apathy. Due to a persistent combination of familial inclemency and emotional and spirtual confusion, my high school career has not been what I wanted it to be. Noooo, far from it. If anything, the direct opposite. </p>

<p>For much of my freshman and sophomore years, high school was both an asylum and a chore. My father has been unemployed and therefore has stayed home for every day of the year since 2004, so putting up with his nonsense at home was not an option. I went to school everyday, but I did not do much there. My time in school were occupied by either naps in classes despite adequate sleep, or stares at my teachers with what must've looked like a totally blank expression imprinted on my face. My ears picked up just enough information for me to maintain solid 80-85 test averages, and that usually meant I would get a 80 overall in the classes. That was good enough for me, because all it meant was that I passed. I neither envied nor was I jealous of people who scored in the upper 90s.</p>

<p>I go to Stuyvesant High School in New York City. I think it is nationally ranked; I forget the exact position because it is hard for me to take pride in personally. I got in solely because I passed the SHSAT in 8th grade, and only barely so. Stuyvesant had a cutoff of 560 the year I took it; I had a 564. It doesn't mean I was on the low end intelligence-wise for a Stuyvesant student. As much of an excuse as it may sound, I did not study for that test--a behavior that will follow me throughout my high school career. In fact, the few weeks preceding the exam were marked by an obstinate refusal to study in an effort to diffuse some parental pressure. They always said "if you don't study, you can't play video games." They still do. I have always responded with "OK I won't play video games, but I won't study either. You can't make me." I still do.</p>

<p>My indifference towards school must be at least partially tied to the enmity I have towards my parents. If I were to tell you why and what events led to the hatred, this would turn into an autobiography--the printout of which would stretch to California and back. To me, doing well in school because my parents wanted me to would have meant that they had won. Estrangement from my parents had other ramifications. On occasions, tensions were so heavily stirred that I didn't come home for several days at a time. I didn't have anywhere else to go either, so I spent my time aimlessly wandering the streets of New York. My stress levels were off the charts--and not the kind of stress you would hear from kids who complain about some English paper that their teacher made them write. I had to find one avenue to channel it all away, and school was the only other road constructed. </p>

<p>I just didn't have it in me; I hated school. I didn't care about any of the subjects I was being taught, and if I had to give my humble opinion, anybody who says that they throughly enjoyed all of their subjects is either a saint or lying. I never did homework; consequently, the few things I said in classes were almost entirely based off my own sentiments. </p>

<p>Junior year rolled around, and some people told me that it was the most pivotal year of all. Of course, my habits were inveterated so deeply that they were hard to shake free of. My Junior Year average was a 3.5 or so, which is still a considerable feat in my school. What one must understand is that about-faces are never immediate but gradual. Junior year also brought the SATs, but much later for me than for others. I did not know of them until June of my Junior Year, when I first learned of SAT II's. The day I registered for the Chemistry SAT II, I was naive to think that the SAT II's were simply an upgrade of the SAT I. I took the Chemistry SAT II, and for the first time, I studied for it only because I knew that "passing" it was impossible otherwise. I did not do as bad as I had expected considering I was a year removed from the course.</p>

<p>Further research told me that the SAT I was not only necessary, but was also given more weight. I spent my summer working, so I did not study. I signed up for the SAT I in October of my Senior Year. I knew that it must be retaken because my CR score was atrocious. After a brief intermission to fulfill the SAT II requirements of many schools by taking the Math II, I took the December SAT I. When December 22nd rolled through, I did not see the improvement I seeked/expected. Of course, by that time, I was already preoccupied with doing my college essays and applications. Nevertheless, I had an ineffable instinct that I was 2400 material, partly because I had received recent scores despite lack of studying. In fact, I have never completed a practice test and my "studying" consisted solely of hard memorization of massive vocabulary lists, and, much to my teachers' chagrin, I only read them in class. My reasoning was that I could not have done it at home. I was right. At home, the vocabulary lists looked downright hideous compared with the prospect of mircowaving some popcorn to a Martin Lawrence movie. So, to satisfy my insatiable urge to see if I was indeed capable of a 2400, I persuaded my parents to pay for the January exam for I had already burnt my two SAT fee waivers. My Jan results are not important; few schools consider them anyway. If anything came out of the 3 takings of the SAT, it was that I was not stupid.</p>

<p>Extracirriculars also did not see much of my involvement. I would say that I'm decently talented in basketball, but I never pursued it. People around me were joining this club and that club, and I wondered if I should've done the same. I just was not interested in anything. One such club was started by someone who, like me, had a lot of free time. The club had an important-sounding title--that much, I'm willing to admit. However, a sit-in on of the club meetings made me realize that the members did not do anything except discuss random things and play random games. So much for "an organization designed to help others find opportunities." </p>

<p>As such, most of my time outside of school was devoted to jobs. As a son of two parents--one unemployed and the other struggling to make ends meet--who were unwilling and perhaps unable to provide for me beyond the most basic of necessities, I knew I had to find employment, and quickly. From craiglists requests of an assistant for the elderly to tutoring, jobs took an additional toll on me--both physically and mentally.
For as much as I worked and earned, I was perhaps a tad too prodigal. Granted, I had a good cause: I had to pay a vision therapist for treatment, but service ended abruptly because I had run out of funds. I could not think of a better way to have spent my money. But I should've planned it out so I could've been more efficient. Today, I am indigent. The amount of money readily available to me is staring at me in the form of 4 pennies that lie on the table to my left. I hate not having money. The struggle to convince my parents to pay my high school dues should be an interesting one. </p>

<p>People have asked me what I want to become. I'm not sure, but I am heavily leaning towards the financial industry because its positions(most of them) are high paying. As philistine as it may be, it is also not wrong. Sure, money isn't everything, but it is definitely something. And having less money, or worse, no money at all is never better than having more of it. Never.</p>

<p>So I place going to an esteemed college up there, a task of utmost importance. In a few days, I'll know exactly where I'll be going, and that place will most likely be CUNY Baruch. The real question is, am I going there? Or will I be relegated there? Doomed there, in both senses of the word? Do not misunderstand me: I am not saying I am above CUNY Baruch, because that simply isn't true. However, I have long viewed college as a vindicator, a liberator that will free me from the tumultuous mess that I am and have been in. I have dreamt, both during sleep and while I am awake, of stepping into a conjured image of the USC or UChicago campus. I felt a sudden rush of euphoria that was too real to be surreal, too heavy to have only been mental. Then a few days ago, I set foot into the Baruch building to take its exam. I immediately felt a sense of melancholy, of hopelessness. Going to Baruch for a year will be like repeating senior year of high school: everything that can go wrong will, and every last bit of hope and joy will be wrenched out and stomped until it is no more. I don't remember September of 2009 at all. I would like to transfer, but that is never a sure thing. I might fail in that endeavor as well, after which I will probably be stuck in Baruch for 4 years. If I consider September 2009 to be a long time ago, how distant do you think September 2006 seems?</p>

<p>I would like to think I have gotten my act together. I read vocab and idiom lists not because I have to do so to study for the SATs but because it can prove to be nothing but beneficial. I read textbooks on social sciences not because I must read them in order to be prepared for the AP exams but because I truly enjoy them. But it may be too little too late.</p>

<p>Though I have applied to a bunch of colleges, there are a lot more that I would like to attend but will probably never get the chance to. I have always wanted to go to somewhere like Columbia, or UPenn, or, dare I say, Harvard. I didn't apply to any of them, because I had to be realistic. However, I have an inextingushable belief that I am destined for great things.</p>

<p>As a 17 year old surrounded by other 17 year olds, I don't think I am in a position to judge others. I have an mystical impression of a certain set of intangible that one must have to succeed at the highest level possible. I don't think any of my classmates have it. But they are in, and for the first time, I envy them.</p>

<p>Isn’t it sad that a kid’s success depends more on what money and connections they have rather than the actual merits of the kid themself?
But being on the inside and looking out, I’ll never make an effort to fix this. And thats the same thought that everyone else with money and connections thinks. And since these are the type of people in charge of the country… and even world, nothing will ever change.</p>

<p>Keep believing you’re something special. We all like to believe we are special; I do. I’m better than everyone else, I just can’t explain why yet. It’s an instinctual arrogance. But if you believe it, then you ARE destined for great things. Because believing it gives you reason and hope and will lead you to proof of why you initially believed it.</p>

<p>Your problem was that you did not do the seemingly menial things you must do to get in. Your grades mattered- if a 3.0 was not a reflection of your skill, you should have risen the grade. </p>

<p>Your classmates did have it. </p>

<p>It just happens to be hard work, and a display of interest in something, anything. Your not having extra curriculars and grades that affected your abilities did not display it. Sad, but true.</p>

<p>If all you do is think you’re really destined to be great, but never actually work at it, no one will believe you.</p>

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<p>Sorry if I didnt make it clear enough, but I did make an effort to raise the grade. </p>

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<p>I think it takes hard work and a certain something else. Also, a display of interest but not interest itself? Yes, I could’ve displayed, pretended to have interest in something. But what good would that have done? Also, how do grades affect one’s abilities? Isn’t it the other way around?</p>

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<p>I have worked at it, but the turnaround was too late to affect my college chances. I can’t really show you that I have; perhaps you will never believe me.</p>

<p>Not you you but, well you get the idea.</p>

<p>The major issue I see here is that you have a very strong belief that you can do well by only doing things you would like to do. You don’t say you’ve gotten your act together because you’re now dedicated to doing well in school; you say that because you now happen to enjoy things you did not previously enjoy. </p>

<p>Let’s skip past college for a second. How do you plan on accomplishing any great things with that mindset? CEOs have to spend time poring through spreadsheets and documents when they’d much rather be riding their corporate jet over to the Cayman Islands. Politicians have to spend time pressing the flesh and talking to the media when they’d much rather be kicking back with a glass of champagne. And that doesn’t even take into account the years of menial work that they all had to go through to even get to their position. What you need to do is not enjoy more of the things that you do, but realize that getting places in the world involves lots of things you would rather not do.</p>

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<p>It would have made you a more appealing college applicant for one.</p>

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<p>Then I have been misunderstood. I did make an effort to raise my grades junior year for the sake of doing well in school. I read the dictionary because I think it’ll help me. I don’t enjoy reading the dictionary.</p>

<p>As for the things that I actually said that I do because I enjoy them, well, what’s wrong with that?</p>

<p>There’s nothing wrong with enjoying some of the things you have to do; the problem only comes in when you think that therefore you shouldn’t have to do things that aren’t enjoyable. I apologize if I misunderstood, but you wouldn’t believe the number of kids who honestly think that it’s unfair how nobody believes they’re smart unless they do work they find boring.</p>

<p>I used “risen” as “raised” failed me. P: Ah well, I should know better. “raise” would not have worked in the sentence. </p>

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<p>Hm…I might’ve meant reflected but regardless, if you have no interests, then you appear uninteresting to the admissions folks.</p>

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<p>So I should’ve found an interest in something I may not have a true interest in, just to appear interesting to the admission folks?</p>

<p>Does work not count?</p>

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<p>It’s not that I didn’t do work because I thought they weren’t enjoyable, but I just didn’t care enough. I don’t mind boring things; many of Martin Lawrence’s movies are boring, I’m sorry to say, but I’d watch them to the end once I had started them.</p>

<p>I didn’t half-step when it came to school. I just never started, or rather, I had started too late.</p>

<p>First and foremost, I believe this post is merely a tool you’re using to fish for compliments and praise, for us lowly CC conformists to the academic status quo to laud your writing ability and academic philosophy. </p>

<p>Simply put: You’ve never paid your dues, and it’s unfortunate that you wasted so much time. Until you put in the same amount of hard work and effort as your peers, you have no right expecting to achieve their accomplishments (acceptances) instantly merely because you started to wax poetic about your failure to grow up and take responsibility for your future.</p>

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<p>Yea, that’s exactly why I posted that, with its unimportant content. Just to fish for compliments on my writing style. I do not think of myself as a great writer. I have had little experience and my keystrokes are only as good as the words that come up in my head. I have a fairly loose grasp of mechanics, as I’ve found many typo’s and grammatical errors in my writing above. It is a bit long, but I wouldn’t call it “wax poetic” simply because of its length. I think its length is a result of my having addressed many points.</p>

<p>Did I expect to enjoy some of their accomplishments (acceptances) instantly? No. In fact, that is precisely why I detest the system in which we operate, one that is both inflexible and unforgiving, one where it is easy, too easy to fail but hard to succeed.</p>

<p>What is a GPA? A cumulative arithmetic mean of one’s grades. That’s all it is. So if one were to start off bad, there is almost no hope of full recovery. It is a system that rewards those who come in with a bang more than it does those who leave with one. For example, my school imposes strict grade requirements for AP classes. If your average in one department is not above a certain threshold (I think it’s 94), you cannot take an AP exam in that department. So if one had a 90 in social science through sophomore year, registration for AP’s in that department (AP US, AP Macroecomics, etc.) may have become statistically impossible. Or close to it.</p>

<p>Oh GOD. </p>

<p><em>eyeroll</em></p>

<p>Another one. </p>

<p>In fact are you him? </p>

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<p>Too often we have these underachievers with a bent for pretentious “literary” writing style, giving their sob story of how their uber-amazing-schpecialness-ultra-awesome-unique-personal-qualities-and-unrecognised-genius-and-intellect entitles them in some way. </p>

<p>To me it performs two functions.</p>

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<li><p>To garner sympathy and to fish for compliments for said pretentious pseudo-literary style.</p></li>
<li><p>To make the poster feel better about themselves, because it’s an implicit jibe against the students who DO do well and DO get admitted. The poster will attempt to characterise the high achieving students as mindless-conformist-robots-who-don’t-possess-TRUE-genius and thus is an attempt to play down the high achieving student’s results and to ameliorate the hurt feelings of the under achiever. </p></li>
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<p>Look, I’m probably being blunt, and possibly overly facetious, but these posts are getting annoying. </p>

<p>At the end of the day, you get what you get because that’s a reflection of YOU. The amount of effort, work, passion YOU put in. It is totally in your hands to do poorly or brilliantly - not the fault of the “system” or whoever others.</p>

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<p>Agreed.</p>

<p>Okay, tons of people have a worst life than you. There are kids who run away from their parents and have to work full-time by themselves. There are kids who are drug addicts. There are kids who have their own kids and also pregnant with another one. </p>

<p>You might have to work a lot. You might have a poor family. You might have an okay GPA and might have to go to CUNY Baruch, instead of an Ivy League school. But, your life is fine. Did you know a lot kids in your situation (being part of a poor family, having to work more than go to school, etc.) don’t even have the opportunity to go to college?</p>

<p>Okay, you might claim that you are smarter than your GPA calculates. I bet you are, but you can’t make excuses like you hate school, you have procastination, your school doesn’t let you take APs if you don’t this certain high grade, etc. But you can’t make excuses like that. In the second semester of this year, my grandmother died. My mother left me with my Dad alone for a month to go visit my grandfather. In one class, I have had a new substitute teacher like every month. I got a grade drop. I don’t have this upward trend I just wanted to have. I have excuses, too, but I never tell them to people, because it makes me look like a complaining, whiny, irresponsible person. </p>

<p>I used to be just like you. Saying this and that about life. Giving excuses about how I am not good enough than my classmates. I had the SAME excuses as you. I blamed how my family was poor. I blamed procastination. Then, what happened? My friends started hating me. People on CC rolled their eyes at me. And it never helped me personally. Yeah, I might not ever get an upward trend. I might never go to Harvard, but at least, I have learned to be bitter with my life.</p>

<p>And so what your school has a requirement of a 94 average to get into an AP class or take the AP exam? I’m not saying that it is easy to get a 94 average, but since an adequate number of your classmates have gotten it, you can, too. But oh yeah, you couldn’t because you’re poor, a procastinator, a school hater, etc. Do you really think those are good excuses? I don’t think so.</p>

<p>And you probably think I am some elitist, rich New Yorker. Not really.</p>

<p>Family Income: <$20,000</p>

<p>I go to a college prep school that requires a 93, but more prefably a 97 average, to get into the honors class in the same subject. Once you are in the honors class, you get kicked out if you have an 85 average. They want you have a 93-95 average to get into a honors class to an AP class. If you take Regents, in order to get into an AP class, you need like literally a 100 average. </p>

<p>And guess what? A few months ago, I complained about this strict courseload placement policy, right on CC. This year, I took 1 honors class out of the possible 5. Next year, I am reccommended for 3 honors classes out of the possible 5. Impossible is nothing.</p>

<p>“At the end of the day, you get what you get…The amount of effort, work, passion YOU put in.” </p>

<p>That’s what she said?</p>

<p>The most important part of your application is your gpa. You have gotten so many rejections because you applied to so many reach schools. </p>

<p>"What I am, however, is a victim of my own apathy. Due to a persistent combination of familial inclemency and emotional and spirtual confusion, my high school career has not been what I wanted it to be. Noooo, far from it. If anything, the direct opposite. </p>

<p>For much of my freshman and sophomore years, high school was both an asylum and a chore."</p>

<p>Colleges want students who --regardless of their feelings about school and regardless of their home situations – are able to rise above such challenges and get good grades.</p>

<p>“At the end of the day, you get what you get because that’s a reflection of YOU. The amount of effort, work, passion YOU put in. It is totally in your hands to do poorly or brilliantly - not the fault of the “system” or whoever others.”</p>

<p>I agree.</p>

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<p>I never understood the argument that “you’re fine because loads of people have it worse.” Why should that be the case?</p>

<p>Can’t I also say that “my life sucks because loads of people have it better?”</p>

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<p>I never gave those as reasons why I hated things. In fact, I never mentioned procrastination. I don’t believe I suffer from it at all.</p>

<p>I don’t hate others because they’re rich or because they do well.</p>

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<p>And how has that made it better?</p>

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<p>For future reference, how is my writing pretentious? Maybe I’m remembering pretentious to mean something else, but I don’t see how my writing is inferior to your using of words like “facetious” and “ameloriate.” And I still don’t hate others because they are high-achievers.</p>

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<p>OK so if you had a 70 average during freshman year, how would you bring it back up to the upper 90s? I believe my main complaint has always been how hard it is to fully recover from a slow (or just plain bad) start. Do you disagree?</p>

<p>You’re past the point where you get to just start over with no consequences. If you do badly during your first two years of high school, that will follow you through the rest of high school. Just as if you do badly the first two years of college, it will follow you through the rest of college. There is no reset button anymore.</p>

<p>And that’s how it should be. Maybe you improved from a 70 average your first two years to a 95 your last two. That’s nice and all. But are you more deserving of a spot in a top college than the guy who maintained a 90 average all 4 years? No.</p>

<p>“OK so if you had a 70 average during freshman year, how would you bring it back up to the upper 90s? I believe my main complaint has always been how hard it is to fully recover from a slow (or just plain bad) start. Do you disagree?”</p>

<p>What are you trying to prove here? Or is it just a rant? Oh, and yes, there is a pseudo-reset button, its called community college, and really, it is a good option if you want to start over.</p>

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<p>That’s the problem, isn’t it?</p>

<p>Was there ever a reset button?</p>

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<p>Are we, as humans, undeserving of second chances?</p>

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<p>Are you trying to disprove something yourself?</p>