<p>Are guys mature enough at this age to want stable long-term relationships?</p>
<p>At what age?</p>
<p>Jahaba considering this is the college life forum I’d assume 18-22.</p>
<p>Most guys probably aren’t. I know I want a stable long-term relationship… and I already have one.</p>
<p>college students 18-22</p>
<p>I’m specifically thinking about Boston College and University of Virginia. I’d rather be somewhere with similiar values and/or perspectives. Are hook-ups the mode?</p>
<p>There are mature guys at 8 and there are immature males at 80. YMMV.</p>
<p>boston is a city full of college dudes. at least one of them must be looking for something legitimate. this is almost impossible to say for sure either way though.</p>
<p>I am generally of the opinion that you can’t expect much from men between the ages of 17 and like 24-25, but there are plenty of exceptions if you are willing to be patient.</p>
<p>It really all depends on the college you attend, but I’ve found that most guys in that age bracket aren’t really worth getting into a serious relationship with, and that they are just looking to get drunk and laid (sad but true), not be “held down” by a girl friend.</p>
<p>Lmao ^ But it’s better than high school ones.</p>
<p>I’ve been in a serious committed relationship with my girlfriend for the past 2+ years (since I started college), but as in most things, I’m unusual/weird, so don’t expect that. </p>
<p>It’s also worth noting that it may not necessarily be the best thing to immediately jump into that sort of relationship. Its not advice I follow, but there’s something to be said for seeing the field before you choose your horse.</p>
<p>Im 17 and I am already over the whole “getting some aspect”. I am strange however. I analyze everything someone says and look for something deep when I look for a girl. Yes I will admit I went through that phase where I just got laid and basically blowed off the girl. I have learned many lessons through life and although I am only 17 I do look for a long term relationship.I dont just look for any girl, I look for that girl that I can see myself with for a long period of time. One that although we will fight I know we will work it out. This however is hard to find when in high school and where everyone just drinks and thinks that they are kool for being total idiots. The truth is that most of us guys are idiots( no offense to anyone) but there are that 10% who we do understand, we are mature, and we do want a long term relationship. It’s just that you have to look and be patient like some of the other posters said.</p>
<p>Relationships suck.</p>
<p>Second question that should be asked: Are college girls ready for stable, long-term relationships?</p>
<p>Answer: No (not many)</p>
<p>^Unfortunately I have to agree. I have not met many women in college who seem ready for an actual relationship, and guys can be even worse. It’s especially difficult with the experimental image attached to college.</p>
<p>I think you’ll find the people ‘looking for long-term relationships’ aren’t necessarily the ones who end up in them. I started dating my gf about 5 years ago when we were 18 and we just never stopped dating. You don’t really go looking for these things, they just develop.</p>
<p>Even if people are looking for long-term, it’s hard for most to juggle school, possibly work, and a love life at the same time and have it all work out. You’ll find guys after long-term serious relationships and guys after short-term flings. The problem is experience… sometimes relationship-oriented communication experience is just so limited, making long-term, stable relationships difficult to seek out and maintain. It really all depends on the person. Like others have said, patience.</p>
<p>legendofmax, are you a DDR fan?</p>
<p>it goes both ways for real like there are guys who are just lookin to get hook up with different chicks all the time but there are also girls who are just lookin for the same thing … but either way as a freshman im just tryna have fun right now … not lookin to get tied down but at the same time if that right girl come along then why not !!!</p>
<p>btw dont get it twisted girls are 10x more complicated then men … yall never know what you want Lol</p>
<p>College is for hookups. Like Kleenex- use once and throw away.</p>