<p>First - thanks to all who have responded (here and in PM's) with suggestions and advice. I'll second Momrath's observation that even posts which seem contradictory to each other can both be valid - and in this thread, anyway, generally seem to me to be so. Part of the problem I feel faced with is that my daughter this year is not the same person as she was last year, will be next year, etc. I think many families face this to a greater or lesser degree; certainly my family to a greater one: they don't know who they are and what they want at the age of 17. I find this unsurprising; at 17 I was a physics major close to flunking out of UC Berkeley; at 24 I was practicing law. Not a lot of overlap there. As I mentioned, I'm constantly amazed at the focused, directed teenagers who post here on CC on a regular basis. I don't know any kids like that in real life - literally, not one. I heard a statistic thrown around at one point, something to the effect that the average UC student changes his/her major 4 times before graduation (or some such number.) That's why I don't see basing a college choice on something such as current intended career as being all that wise for the average kid. On the other hand, I do see that different schools can bring different forms of "education" to a young person beyond simple academics.</p>
<p>I don't want to impose my vision of "what's best for them" on my kids, but I do want them to have the fullest awareness of their options and the pros and cons associated with them as possible, so they don't pass up an opportunity which might be great for them simply because they didn't know about it. It would be easiest to simply direct my D to look over the various schools in California, apply to the likely ones, and pick among the ones she's accepted into. That's what her brothers did, and is, in fact, the most probable outcome for her as well. But I'd feel remiss as a parent if it turns out that, weather and travel time notwithstanding, for some reason a more distant college would somehow offer her an opportunity for growth and personal development that she wouldn't get by taking the more likely route, and she never even learned of the opportunity. </p>
<p>That's why hearing about the "culture" of different schools that I know little about is really helpful. My daughter is dubious about all-women schools based on her perception of the nearby same sex Catholic high schools, and probably would not be interested in that environment on first blush. But on second thought, would she change her mind? Well, not if she never has cause to think about it, certainly. But if she does? I don't know. I get the picture of Barnard as an "Type-A personality" school, and can pass that along. Would she envision herself in that kind of an environment? I honestly don't know. Personally, I'd love to have her consider Reed or Rice and a passel of other schools I've "fallen in love" with for one reason or the other over the years, but realize that that's a bigger task than is reasonable to undertake. She says "Big city, east coast" - and that's enough to take on for now. </p>
<p>My perception of teenagers is that they are constantly reinventing themselves - sometimes on an hourly basis. Certainly the choice of what University to attend is a big step in defining oneself and one's future. As an example, NYU and USC are similar on paper - similar size, similar academic selectivity, both "in large cities". But I suspect the impact four years at either one would have on a given California girl would be very different.</p>
<p>As far as "WAMC" - I don't know either. I think the only thing that's sensible is to apply to the schools that seem plausible and find out, without counting too much on a positive answer from anything but your rock solid "safety" (that you love.) My own kids skew "the wrong way" -- BWRK's with good test scores and so-so GPA's, so I'm used to the idea that being above the 75th percentile in some category is essentially meaningless (for my kids, anyway.) I just wouldn't want my D to not even consider some school that she might be accepted into because some form of analysis might indicate that her chances were poor.</p>