<p>Wow, there were so many posts today that I am catching up on and enjoying reading about. It is very late here and we leave later on tomorrow (which I guess at this point is today!), for Boston to visit Emerson (including overnight in dorms with friends in BFA program) and Boston Conservatory. From there we are heading for three days to Parent Weekend at my freshman daughter's school, Brown. We have not seen her since we took her to college, can't wait. Actually we will be attending two performances there. I will try to eventually post about those two school visits. </p>
<p>I am not going to attempt to respond to the plethora of great posts above (though love the clothes discussions) but will respond to one person (I can't recall who at this point!) who is a student (Dani I think?) whose schedule is packed with two shows, demanding classes and so forth, who wondered how my D fit in what she did, including dance classes and rep troupes, and instrument, voice and acting lessons as well. Dani, that is the story of my life, lol. Your life indeed sounds similar to my own girls' lives. Both were very involved in extracurricular endeavors, as well as rigorous curriculums. As well, given that we live in a rural area, many of their varied activities entail a GREAT deal of driving. HOWEVER, for SURE both ran into schedule conflicts OFTEN. And the coach, director, instructor of some activities would feel great ownership to that one activity (which of course kids do need to show commitment to) but some were very upset if the kid had something come up in another facet of their lives that conflicted and inevitably the kids were damned if they do and damned if they don't because one of these people was not going to be pleased. Sometimes it got unreasonable on their end (in my view) when the kid would legitimately have something like All State Music Festival (which was related to a taking either band or chorus as a school class, not EC), and it would conflict with a game or a dance class and someone would be up in arms but these are kids afterall and of course the kid should go to All States. Some were very accommodating and some were not in such situations. In fact, my older daughter switched her spring sport that she had done for about seven years to a different one as the coach of the other sport was more flexible in letting her do her yearly dance show and attend All States which she got into for music whereas the other coach would be no way. Believe me, having been a teacher myself, I very much am into the commitment that needs to be made but inevitably schedule conflicts arise in students' lives and I think when they are very valid ones, and it is not like the kid simply does not care to show up but more has something come up for another endeavor, like a school concert or some such, some of the adults involved could be a bit more understanding. Some actually are very supportive, just not all. </p>
<p>But back to the specific question you asked. The thing with our dance studio is that my D is there five times per week. OFTEN dance dovetails well with school musicals which rehearse in the afternoon and dance is later, afterwards. One major conflict in that regard is that her jazz dance rep troupe which is a selective performance group rehearses Friday afternoons and so my D has had to stipulate for each spring school musical that that is one committment she must keep and can't rehearse the school show on Fridays, whereas she may have to bend or work out other types of conflicts. She still has been cast in the school shows, even as leads so that one thing has worked out. But this semester, she is in an adult theater production about 50 miles from us and they rehearse at night and on weekends. In fact, unfortunately the rehearsals conflict with three dance classes. My D has had to take a leave from those three dance classes for two months (though is still in some others). What I have had to tell the dance studio when theater things conflict (normally not with this regularity), that it is not like a conflict with basketball practice. While my D is a very dedicated dancer and has been at that studio her whole life, her lifelong ambition is not solely to be a dancer and she is one of the only people there who is so involved in theater and in her case, she is even pursuing theater as a college major and career, not simply a hobby or EC activity. Therefore, she needs BOTH the training of staying in dance but she also must be involved in theater and productions, as she needs both. They have seemed to understand, not sure if they love it but they know about it and she will be rejoining those three classes in several weeks once again. That was a more major conflict this semester but other times, there are like one time conflicts with this or that, rather often but not with regularity with any one thing. Now, even college auditions themselves will be a conflict and again, I can't tell her activities she will miss her college auditions but it is not like she should not enroll in any dance classes or whatever for an entire semester because of a few dates she can't make it, as she needs the training to go into her field. </p>
<p>Our lives are crazy with all the schedules and while most of it works out, I would be remiss if I said they never have conflicts. The college visits themselves involve conflicts! For this visit this weekend, we had it on her audition sheet before she was cast in this musical so it was known when casting her. Meanwhile, my D is trying to fit in 40 hours of practice driving and we have to do that when she is going to her activities and such as there is no down time to work on that, not with college applications to boot. While it makes for a busy life, JUST LIKE YOU (I CAN TELL), my kids seem to thrive on and crave this level of involvement. I am not complaining (though could do with less driving) as it beats just hangin' out. Also for kids in a rural area, their activities are times when they are gathered with other kids as we don't exactly live in a neighborhood. </p>
<p>Be well everyone and I can't wait to read what all is happenin' when I get back, though it will take a long time to get caught up with how active this thread has been lately. It is an amazing thread. </p>
<p>Susan</p>