<p>Oh-on the big tour–we saw I think 6-8 schools (I forget now)
Eliminated Univ of South Carolina–
We Drove into Columbia, I hated the surrounding area…and while having breakfast at a place with my mom–told her “no -way” and we drove home straight through–about 14 hrs!
Its been many yrs but she still likes to tell the story ;O)</p>
<p>“the more emotion people bring to sex, the more vulnerable they are to being hurt when their partner fails to second that emotion.”</p>
<p>Swap the word “dating” for the word “sex,” and the sentence is just as true.</p>
<p>A broken heart hurts whether you’ve had sex with your former beloved or not. The only reason having sex would make that pain any worse is if you internalize this vicious propaganda about how you become a less precious and valuable human being after having sex.</p>
<p>Drexel - Location in Philly
Temple - Location in Philly
La Salle University - location in an inner city area
UMBC - Focus too much on sciences
Flagler - Beautiful location; too beachy.</p>
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I don’t agree at all–and I certainly am not one of those who buys into that propaganda, even slightly, nor have I ever done so.</p>
<p>But in my experience, it’s simply true that sexual intimacy exposes parts of ourselves (not just our bodies, but our selves) that we usually keep private and protected, even in a romantic relationship that doesn’t reach that point. And this exposure carries unique and heightened emotional vulnerability with it.</p>
<p>Your experience, of course, may not be the same.</p>
<p>Well, my mileage certainly varied…
As a 20 yo at a commuter school I did everything I could to lose my virginity. Not the easiest thing to do! It’s just sex for heaven’s sake!!
So getting back to the OP, perhaps that’s why I did not even let my children entertain the thought of a commuter school…
Off the list, indeed!!</p>
<p>Hanna: I am surprised you would say that. I found that having sex with someone I was fond of absolutely created a greater bond (whether as a woman or just as a human being I am not sure). I thought this was universally acknowledged. Have things really changed that much? Then again, in the sixties we still called it “making love” (“make love, not war” etc.). Now it’s called “hooking-up.” I understand that love no longer fits in any way into the equation, but then how does this jive with recent studies which found that most women feel the need to get drunk, or at least drink, before having sex? (I’ll look up the study when I have time, but it came out just a week or two ago.) Perplexing.</p>
<p>I agree with nightchef. I hope my offspring never think of it as “just sex,” even if they don’t accept my own views on sex. </p>
<p>Nor do I think that believing that sex belongs in marriage or at the very least in a committed relationship equates with thinking that having had it makes anyone a less valuable human being.</p>
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<p>Pet peeve alert! Pet peeve alert!</p>
<p>It’s gibe, not jive.</p>
<p>Now back to our scheduled program.</p>
<p>Thank you, mantori! :)</p>
<p>I think some people have thicker skins when it comes to sexuality…I’m teaching my daughter that sex is a big deal and not to be engaged in casually. Virgin at the altar? No, not realistic, but a high number? I hope not, for her sake. Now, back to the OP’s question!</p>
<p>You gibe turkey…!</p>
<p>Oldest daughter-University of Wisconsin- guide barely acknowledged the engineering dept and stopped to talk next to a guy using a jackhammer. I wasn’t impressed as I had to pay for parking. University of Illinois- too flat and spread out with no character. University of Iowa- couldn’t see any dorm rooms as all of them were being cleaned!!!</p>
<p>Youngest daughter- Lawrence- guide barely awake and unkempt, University of Virginia- two guides that clowned around and keep the tour group standing outside, in of all things, a blinding freak blizzard.</p>
<p>DS crossed UT-Dallas of his list after visiting. At the time, it seemed to small and industrial and commutery. Since then, they have built more on-campus housing, so things have changed. DD crossed Willamete (sp?), Lewis & Clark, Univ. of Washington off her list after visiting 6 or 7 years ago. (Dang - long time ago!!!) Wilammm however you spell it, was pretty, but academically not exciting or rigorous enough for what she was looking for. She found Lewis & Clark about the same, and Univ. of Washington was just too big.</p>
<p>Scratched Northwestern (hated the architecture) and U Chicago (surrounding neighborhood)</p>
<p>Wisconsin offers a separate tour for engineering campus.</p>
<p>It’s a shame that the OP is unable to visit prospective schools. As helpful as the websites, literature and guidebooks are, they are no substitute for seeing a school in person. My daughter is a case in point. She wants to become a veterinarian. Cornell was first on her list and, following a visit, she crossed it off immediately. Kansas State University was close to the bottom of her list and we weren’t on campus for more than 10 minutes before we realized that it was the perfect school for her. She has loved it there since her first day, now refers to Manhattan, KS as her home (she grew up in New England) and she enters vet school in a little over a year (early admission to K-State’s College of Veterinary Medicine). I have many friends who have had similar experiences with their kids – you never know which school will have the best “fit” for your child until you actually set foot on the campus.</p>
<p>gbesq that is a neat story and one that I firmly happens plays out quite often. My son had an ah ha moment when he visited one of his colleges several years ago, called me on the cell phone (he did the visit alone) and said “this is it!” and he’s a very happy junior these days.</p>
<p>GBesq, it’s not a popular position with some but visiting before and during the application process beats the heck out of visiting after acceptances or not visiting at all. </p>
<p>My D had an experience at Columbia similar to yours at Cornell: #1 on paper, didn’t even apply after visiting.</p>
<p>I appreciate all those responses, wish we could have visited this past summer, but my health did not warrant the 30 hour journey!</p>
<p>Now I am telling son that we can do a quick one in Dec but he says no, that he wants to wait till the acceptances come in and then decide. Hence my thread. I love to read CC threads!!</p>
<p>My older son didn’t get accepted at the colleges he had visited, so he ended up visiting four colleges in the spring. It was doable, but I wouldn’t have wanted to have too many more! S2 could be in the same position. He’s visited 7 colleges and is applying to 4 of those. One he’s seen multiple times though not particularly recently, he hasn’t done an official visit. Four colleges where he’s applying he hasn’t seen at all.</p>
<p>Falling in love with a college after a visit can be a double edged sword if it’s a reach.</p>