Bertha, why do you say “where I failed in the past”? It doesn’t sound like you have any cause for guilt. We parents (and humans in general) can’t fix all things and insure good outcomes and happiness for our kids no matter how loving/responsible/wise we are - though we wish! I agree with those who have said that transferring is unlikely to improve things. Best of luck to you and your son. It sounds like you have a lot to cope with right now.
Thanks so much everyone. Though he still really wants to go, and thinks it will be different because it’s where he wants to be, we are pretty much sure we’ll require him to show us he’s matured and can do it at the CC. I don’t want to place him in a situation he possibly can’t handle. We have already been to the psychologist (who also does testing and evaluations) to talk to him about our son, and have a meeting with him with our son next week. When we described his issues from the time he was little the psychologist felt that it sounded like ADHD, and maybe the Aspergers too but that he’d need to meet him to know about that. No matter the label, it’s the issues we need to address. He of course felt the same as all the opinions in this thread, that he should not go yet. Thank you for your words of encouragement, they really do mean a lot to me. I do worry that I could have somehow done more in the past, but just gotta keep going forward!
Do many other students come in as Freshman in the spring? Are there any orientation activities? Otherwise he may come into a place where others have made friends months ago.
I would think supporting him at home at CC may be the best thing…You make sure there is food and remind him to do laundry and make sure he is up in the morning…at college he has to do all that and keep track of classes and homework.