I know most parents here are focused on college admissions, and there are specific places on this forum for scholarships and summer programs, but I thought I’d seek some more general advice.
Earlier in the year, DD applied for a pretty competitive (10%admission) summer program she dreamed about for a couple of years. Didn’t get even past first round, was rejected, devastated, but will apply again next year. Yesterday got rejected by another summer program. I can see her self-confidence plummeting - when I mentioned yet another summer program with application deadline fast approaching, she asked “what’s the point, I am not good enough anyway.” Since I didn’t want to draw similarities to college admissions, I talked about relationships - how best couples are not about stats/popularity, but about fit, common interests, etc. She wasn’t convinced.
Next year she’d be eligible to apply for a lot more “elite” summer programs (free, selective, high-regarded, very competitive) and scholarships, with some acceptance rates as low as HYPS, and I understand she might be rejected from all of them. If it was me, I would apply anyway, just because not applying means 100% of not being admitted, but I also won’t take those rejections personally. She is a different person - mainly, a teenager, insecure and thus vulnerable. She would apply if I encourage her, and spend endless hours perfecting her essays, etc., but rejection will be painful. And if I don’t encourage her, she will apply (or rather, apply again) to only one program. She may be miserable, but won’t feel her entire first semester was “wasted” and she won’t feel like “everyone thinks I am not good enough”.
So just looking for some advice - what would you do? To make a parallel with college admissions, do you encourage your kids to apply to several elites (knowing your kid has top stats but no hooks or exceptional EC’s) or let him/her alone to apply to only one dream school? Assumptions that make it a bad comparison (1) cost is not an issue in those decisions; (2) there is no question that a selective scholarship or summer program are much better than an alternative of not getting a scholarship or working at a local retail store; (3) in most cases, getting or not getting a certain scholarship or summer program opportunity won’t determine the rest of your life, so is it worth all the time spent, stress, and heartbreak?
Thanks in advance!