Convincing the Parents.

<p>I'm leaving to go to my dad's tomorrow for a month. I plan on telling him that I'm considering applying to boarding school in the fall. I briefly brought it up when I was up there in April; but he said, "You can get just as good as an education in a private day school up here!" </p>

<p>What should I say in response to that? I'm sure I could get a much better educatio nat a place like St. Paul's, Andover, Deerfield, etc. I got SPS' course book today, then compared it to Ashbury's (<a href="http://www.ashbury.on.ca%5B/url%5D"&gt;www.ashbury.on.ca&lt;/a> <-- the school at my dad's) SPS' was much better. There were so many different courses to choose from. </p>

<p>Could you guys just give me some good reasons to go to a boarding school? What are the advantages of not going to a public school or private day? I try to say something, but he just says, "There are schools that are just as good, but cost half the price." </p>

<p>I don't know what to say to that. How should I start out the conversation?</p>

<p>Thanks for your help. :)</p>

<p>This is the page I used to convince my parents to lactually start thinking about it
<a href="http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/whyboarding.php%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/whyboarding.php&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>I don't really have any advice for bringing it up because my parents wouldn't let the subject rest, so I never had to start the conversation.</p>

<p>SPS is the best!</p>

<p>wow. from all of your threads, questions, plans, questions on boarding school life, etc i expected boarding school for you to be a set thing, but you havent even obtained your parents' permission??????</p>

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<p>I'm pretty sure they'll let me apply/attend. Thing have just been so stressful around here that I didn't want to make things worse.</p>

<p>I'm off to the airport in two hours...</p>

<p>Remain confident, do your research, the more you inform yourself the easier it will be to inform you dad. Follow through. Remember that taking your SSAT, applying and gaining admission......are the first steps. You wouldn't need to sign your intentions until May of 2007. Preparing for boarding school is a process really. Give you dad the benefit of some time. Time to think about, learn about and recognize your desire and commitment. Best of luck.</p>

<p>Thanks hazmat.</p>

<p>Make compromises.
Do research.
Don't get upset.</p>

<p>If you want your parents to consider letting you attend boarding school which is a large expense, and your parents are saying things like there are day schools which are great. Well, LOOK at the Day Schools. Don't dismiss them because they're day schools (or don't dismiss boarding schools with a larger day student population) because that doesn't devalue their education. Look into them, respect your parents, and maybe you'll find something you like. If they see you doing that, they'll be more inclined to look at boarding school seriously. Additionally, by doing the research on day schools, if you're still convinced that you must go to a boarding school, now you have more concrete reasons why it's better for you. You need to cover all your bases and be respectful in order to be convincing. When it comes down to it, these are your parents and they love you and they want what's best for you. </p>

<p>Personally, I looked at and applied to boarding schools (primarily CT ones, though I did look at Exeter and Deerfield) but I chose to stay and go to a day school. I don't regret my decision at all-- especially when for a while, I was so gung ho about boarding schools like you</p>

<p>There are only two day schools being considered. Greenhills School in Ann Arbor, and Ashbury College in Ottawa, Canada.</p>

<p>yea apply to prep skools, ull get into a better relationship with ur parents...believe me...and tell them that you're off to be independent and they're keepin u down if they dont want u to go...and apply to Hotchkiss!</p>

<p>Sunny, could you give me some more information about Hotchkiss? (I know there's a website and stuff, but I'd like it from a student's point of view).</p>

<p>Don't tell your parents that they are holding you down. That will just make them mad at you. (well, it would make my parents mad) Explain to them how badly you want to go. Visit some schools with them. Make them fall in love with the prep school idea also.</p>

<p>Another thing: Before you bring up your ideas, do LOTS of research (and i mean LOTS). You ahve to be able to defend every aspect of your issue. One of my friends was in the same situation. She got information packets off the internet and labeled them neatly and put them in a binder. She gave a binder to each of her parents and sat down and explained to them the pros (and even some cons and how to overcome them) and her parents agreed to ler her apply.</p>

<p>I agree with sugerkim. Use <a href="http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/whyboarding.php%5B/url%5D"&gt;http://www.boardingschoolreview.com/whyboarding.php&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p>

<p>It should help as one of the things in the "binder" if you decide to do that.</p>

<p>Good luck!</p>