<p>With the current switch in college relationship trends, lots of us are wondering if most Cornell girls are "hooking up" or actually willing to go on the classic "date", with a dinner at a restuarant and a movie. Or are most of them just willing to be friends with benefits who answer our calls to "hang out" at 2am on a thursday night? I'm just curious as to the average cornellian's mentally when it comes to relationships. So...Quick hookups or dating? Where have all the classy women gone??</p>
<p>i also heard cornell is the most sexually-active ivy.</p>
<p>Nothing personal against you, but I am so sick and tired of seeing threads like these on the Cornell board.</p>
<p>In all honesty, if you're good in some way, you'll find what you're looking for whether it is a quick fling or a long term relationship.</p>
<p>So the answer to all of these types of questions is: IT ALL DEPENDS ON YOU! </p>
<p>If you were to go to a university where 95% of the girls are ugly, stupid, mean, or whatever and the other 5% are smart, good looking, funny, nice, etc. and you are good looking, funny, nice, smart, and you've got the moves, then you are going to end up with someone in that 5%.</p>
<p>To answer your question specifically, it seems that more girls tend to go for the one night fling with no strings attached.</p>
<p>well, that seems to be the problem. I may be "good" in all the ways you've described, but if the girl would rather have me call her randomly at 2am to "hang-out", rather than formally ask her on a date, we have a problem.</p>
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<p>how long does this mentality usually last? when did girls become so emotionless?</p>
<p>Well... it appears that freshmen girls tend to be like this more so than upperclassmen.</p>
<p>I think it's because of the fact that freshmen girls either don't feel like going into a relationship (for various reasons... some feel they're not ready... some don't want to commit just yet) or get caught up in the college atmosphere, 'cause I mean, there's almost no chance of your parents walking in on your if you're having sex in a dorm room.</p>
<p>My roommate started dating someone who lived on our floor in October and they're still dating. That was right for her, but there are others who prefer hookups.LaptopLover has it right...it definitely depends! It's a big school, chances are you'll be able to find what you're looking for.</p>
<p>I feel like upperclassmen are more inclined towards relationships; two years of drunken hookery is enough (it gets old after a while). The freshman/extended freshman (sophomore) college "experience" doesn't really go well with a relationship. Most of my friends have been in random one/two-night-stand or long term **** buddy situations. I've seen some relationships, though. I'd say at least 80% of them seem forced and cause excessive amounts of unnecessary drama.</p>
<p>i've seen more **** buddies than merely one night stands...so i think guys and girls both want a relationship without the word LOVE being mentioned...</p>
<p>oh and please delete LOVE from your vocabulary...there's no such thing, and no ****ing way as a freshman!</p>
<p>there are definitely a couple of relationships, obviously. but yea, i agree with pretty much everyone else that freshmen/sophs are more in situations of random or repeated hook ups. also frat parties arent really conducive to great conversation obviously haha so its pretty much expected that if something comes out of meeting someone at one itll pretty much be physical.</p>
<p>By Big Red Bachelorette
Jul 2 2007</p>
<p>Lets get one thing straight: I love the guys at Cornell. I adore them. In fact, despite my stories about men in my life that dont quite do it for me, I get really defensive when girls whine about the crappiness of Cornell dating scene. It especially <strong><em>es me off when girls use their precious crossword-adjacent Sun real estate to *</em></strong> about how romance has died along with the traditional date.</p>
<p>Memo to you: your life is not a Herman Wouk novel or an Audrey Hepburn movie. Furthermore, the guys youre surrounded with at Cornell, for the most part, are not awful. In fact, Id be willing to bet that any time youre losing faith in them, five minutes of browsing the Craigslist personals section will be enough to snap you right back to reality. As a student here, you have access to thousands of guys that are mostly well-read and pre-screened for intelligence (albeit not necessarily for maturity, but you cant win em all) and theyre all neatly packed into 5.5 square-mile area for your convenience so what the hell are you complaining about? Girlfriends, lets have a little chat.</p>
<p>What ever happened to the date? Not a damn thing. Youre in college. I might know why youre not getting asked out on dates, though, so keep reading.</p>
<p>Why do guys always ask me to come over and watch a movie at 1 a.m.? Well, Im going to go ahead and venture a guess here: probably because they want to have sex with you. At the very least, it means youre a hottie. Take it as a compliment and consider it your cue to dab on a little lip gloss and make kissy faces at yourself in the mirror, you sassy minx.</p>
<p>But why wont he just take me out to dinner? Because dinner costs money, buttercup. If he doesnt ask you on a date (or at least make the effort to talk to you online for more than five minutes before asking you to come over for said movie [sex]), then hes likely just not that into you. Or hes an *******. These things happen. If he doesnt care why you chose Cornell over Northwestern or how much you miss your cat, hes not going to relinquish his precious time and money to hear about it at the Boatyard. He probably wont care about that stuff after you have sex with him either, just so you know. Well, that is unless he made the extra special effort to Facebook-stalk you to see what your favorite movie is and then invited you over to watch itin that situation, maybe hes just awkward or is acutely aware that his table manners will repulse you in a hot second so he doesnt want to eat around you. But no, in most of these cases, he just wants to eat you.</p>
<p>But take note! For every guy who asks you over for sex at 1 a.m., there is probably a guy living next door that would totally leave flowers on your doorstep just to make you smile. Or a guy who would send you a really sweet text message before a bad prelim or bring you coffee in the middle of the night just because he knew youd be up studying. Its not unheard of. Its even happened to me, believe it or not.</p>
<p>But sure. Be bitter, ladies. I mean, I feel youIve had my share of traumatizing experiences with boys here. Ive been groped like an 8th grader, Ive been rejected, Ive been stalked, and Ive been dumped in a spectacular fashion. Ive been asked into a relationship via Facebook and have been on a couple of dates so awful that Id probably rather have spent those evenings watching birth control commercial marathons with my father (by the way, isnt that ****ing awkward when you and your dad are sitting there and a Yasmin ad comes on? No? Just Me? O.K.) Ive been where you are. But dont you think the experiences Cornell guys have had with us have been just as cringe-worthy?</p>
<p>Think about the times youve rejected someone, whether it was the grad student who offered to buy you a G&T at Rulloffs or the sweet but dorky guy on your dorm floor who asked you to join him for coffee at Libe Café. How many times have you forced a guy to carry the conversation as he tried desperately to get to know you? Maybe youve led a guy on when youve had a boyfriend or hooked up with someone on a booze-soaked fraternity floor (hey, we were all freshmen once). Youre sketchy, too, you know, and sometimes youre really not that nice. For example, I know Ive been a total *<strong><em>bag for no reason. Like the time I woke up with a guy, both of us hung over with total cotton-mouth, and I refused to share my Diet Coke with him. He looked all sad-puppy at me as I guzzled the one non-alcoholic liquid in my house and I rather enjoyed it, to be honest. He did not ask me to go to brunch with him, presumably because I was a *</em></strong>.</p>
<p>Then there are the bars. There are few things more intimidating to a dude than a group of five or six of us in our cute tops and killer heels. Then theres you with your cell phone out, furiously texting someone else and looking entirely unapproachable. For that guy in your Italian class who recognizes you but has never spoken to you, it takes some platinum-grade balls to saunter up to you and strike up a conversation while youre like this. So, you know, maybe you should applaud him for his confidence instead of assuming hes a total sack of semen who just wants to splooge on your face. Maybe he wanted to ask you out on a date? Too bad you just shut him down with that half-assed smile before you turned to your friends and started throwing around some fraternity names. Come on, Cornell guys dont whine about us, and theyre generally pretty nice to us. Hell, theyre some of the luckiest guys in the world theyre surrounded by some of the most talented, ambitious beautiful college women in the country but they know that, Im sure.</p>
<p>Sisters, Cornell guys dont suck. Put down your vat of Tasti for 30 seconds and just think about what Im saying. Im certainly not the hottest girl at this school, but I have been asked out on dates because Im friendly, carry myself with confidence and I love to laugh. You cant blame them for not asking you out if youre complaining all the time who wants to be in the (sober) company of a bitter chick? If the Cornell girl whines about how the Cornell guy never asks her on dates, then the Cornell guy will spend his time not asking her out on dates because shes being a whiny *****. Got that?</p>
<p>So heres todays dating tip (something that may land you an actual date and not just some ween): put on your cute earrings and your pretty smile and try being nice, friendly and open-minded. It really is that simple.</p>
<p>standing ovation for memphismom/big read bachelorette!!!!</p>
<p>yea woah...i'll take THAT girl out on a date! haha john thomas? madeline's?</p>
<p>I can't believe I just read a post this long. memphismom ur my hero. are u really a mom?</p>
<p>yes, dearie - married my cornell bf at Sage chapel 31 years ago, four years ago dropped off my ds and in august will be dropping off dd...</p>
<p>let me clarify - i did not write this - a blogger or columnist for the Sun did</p>
<p><a href="http://www.cornellsun.com%5B/url%5D">www.cornellsun.com</a></p>
<p>I am a really mom mom - read the sun daily for the last 4 years - and have sent this article to dd who is sending it to all her high school girlfriends BEFORE they get to colleges</p>
<p>awww... memphismom, that's very cute :)</p>
<p>damn. that was fiery.</p>
<p>Incredible column...and strangely accurate, for the most part.</p>
<p>Big Red has a new column today <a href="http://www.cornellsun.com%5B/url%5D">www.cornellsun.com</a> </p>
<p>go to blogs and then BigRedBach...</p>
<p>and no, I am not her mom ;)</p>
<p>what is "ds" and "dd" ???</p>