I remember both of the episodes mentioned above. Classic.
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I don’t even know her an I WILL HATE HER until I die!
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This really is the question. I have definitely cried when it is inappropriate. I have cried during business hours in contexts where it would probably impact my job. For example, a few years ago when I was in the middle of a huge personal crisis and I needed relief from a deadline, I completely broke down on the phone with opposing counsel. Thank God he was compassionate about it. Admitting I couldn’t do my job at that moment was more than I could bear. Being tough and unemotional is essential to my professional reputation. I try very hard not to let emotions get out of control when I am on display professionally.
On the other hand, between my staff and I someone has a good cry it seems like every week. I see it as healthy and one of the reasons my team is so tight and loyal to each other. It’s a sign of trust.
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When I was younger I cried much more easily than I do now. I remember thinking I might want to be an attorney, and then worrying that I would cry as part of trial, and that wouldn’t be good. I think divorce “hardened me” somewhat.
Something I read up thread reminded me of my mom. I might not have cried a lot when she actually died, but I remember being in the Nordstrom PJs department and starting to really cry thinking of her. (She loved nice pajamas, robes, etc.).
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I got choked up (does that count?) while giving a speech at a retirement event for someone in front of about 70 people. Sheesh. I think I’ve gotten slightly more cry-prone as time passes…!
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Unfortunately, grief leads the way - not the other way around. The inability to control when it shows up is one of its most annoying characteristics.
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I am not much of a crier. Neither was my mom. She sometimes said she wished she could cry as she thought it would have made her feel better. I tear up and get upset, but the tears rarely fall. Sometimes, as when my parents or my good friend died, the death was expected and I felt like I had spent a lot of emotional time processing it. Watching a show I can get very emotional and teary, but not sobbing (This is Us of late).
I am very empathetic and feel things deeply. I just don’t cry. I think there is judgement. When I read my mom’s eulogy without breaking down, several people remarked that they would never have been able to do that without crying. While they were remarking on how strong I was, I felt the underlying message was also that I was less feeling.
Interesting discussion. Thanks to all for sharing.
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I’ve made that remark several times when I’ve witnessed awesome eulogies. I have ALWAYS meant that they showed remarkable strength, and NEVER that they had “less feeling.” In fact, I interpret this that not only are they strong, but they do such a great job on the eulogy BECAUSE their strong love for the person made them determined to get through it no matter what-to do right by them, to make sure they are properly honored. Which is the opposite from how you have interpreted these comments.
I hope you’ll consider re-evaluating the message they were sending you. It’s quite possible that you got it wrong.
So sorry for your loss. I lost my mother 10 years ago. I can’t believe it’s been that long already.
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@Nrdsb4 . I get what you are saying, but it is the addition of something like: You are so strong but I could never do that because I would be too upset/ crying hysterically etc. is what sounds a bit judgey to me. I think one could praise the eulogy. commenting on how it reflected the speaker’s love of the deceased, without referencing how you could not have done it without crying or saying the person is “strong”. IMHO, saying someone is strong for not breaking down during a eulogy is different than referencing the strong love they showed in the eulogy.
It really didn’t bother me as I know how much I loved my mom and how close we were, even if I didn’t cry. But I definitely noticed.
Sorry for your loss as well. Hard to lose our loved ones.
It’s always hard to lose loved ones, but I remember thinking “How WEIRD is it to say you have no mother???”
Mothers Day is coming and I know it’s a hard day for many of us. I hope you nevertheless have a good one with your family.
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Couldn’t resist. This meme came through my FB feed today. Not a new one, but it always makes me chuckle - sharing to lighten the mood. I will say, this was NOT true for me - loved math!
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i have not commented, but for people like me I just want to say that yes, I cry. All the time.
Not at commercials, not at sad movies, but I cry because I can’t get the lid open. Because the answering machine doesn’t work. Because of what’s on the noon news. Because the planter blew off the porch. Because the brakes have to be replaced. Because the grocery store is still out of chicken. Because i can’t lose 5 lbs, save my father, comfort my mom, agree with my siblings, hug my niece, see my children, or tell anyone any of this because nobody ever asks.
so yes, I cry. Just about every day, and if you cry too, I am waving at you 
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Hey I cry when I cut the cheap onions, does that count?
Ok… maybe a little bit tonight, watching This is Us. Especially in the scene with Randall brushing Rebecca’s hair and Kevin putting lotion on her hands. And at the end.
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@Colorado_mom might Need to watch this now…
ehh i do it every now And then when i’m thinking about My ex bf and yeah
I finally got to Chelsea’s audiobook in my cue. That was a great read, and yeah, every time her voice would go all wobbly and emotional, I would tear up.
Thanks for the recommendation. I’m now listening to Wildflower by Drew Barrymore, and she has a few moments as well.
Adding Drew to my list!
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@greenbutton waving at U too 
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@Hoggirl nah bro Math had me staying up till 4am Stressin me out, and for what???