I am a college Freshman in my second week of school. I actually started last fall but due to my Cystic Fibrosis I got sick after 12 days and ended up with pneumonia and medically withdrew and spent fall semester at home after getting out of the hospital. This semester has been much much better health wise but im having a really hard time with homesickness. Everytime it hits around 6-7 at night im bawling in my room and all I can think about is missing my parents [especially my dad] and my pets. Going home is not really a option as im 13 hours away from home. last semester I don’t remember getting homesick. it gets to the point my stomach hurts sometimes. I talk to my parents everyday but I have not told them im homesick. I have confided in my friends and siblings. How long does the homesickness last? im tired of crying.
you were only at school for 12 days in the fall,so hardly a comparison. You are simply experiencing was most freshman experience when they start school. Give it a month if you are still crying seek out a counselor on campus. 80% of students settle in after a few months.
Tell your parents how you feel. You miss them for a reason, you love each other. Parents can handle it when their kids are unhappy, and they may be able to help you get through this just by understanding.
Being a new college student comes with a steep learning curve. Your student counseling center probably has some assistance for this. Don’t wait, go talk to someone there too.
I’m sorry to hear that Like you said you were there only 12 days so you haven’t been there long enough to settle into college. It’s rough getting back after a long time since being there. It will settle in soon if you give it some time. Call your parents or text them regularly. Checking in is never a bad thing. There’s so much your campus has to offer, go out and see what you can be involved in, check e-mails for campus events and the calendar for what’s going on, you will find something you are interested in, if it doesn’t settle anytime soon, see a counselor because they are there for you and all those resources on campus are all for the students that are paying to attend! Take advantage now that you are back this semester. I sometimes get lonely at my college too because its in a small town when there’s not a whole lot to do. If things get really bad you can always message me on here!
When I was a Freshman in college, I had a very similar homesickness. Curiously did you family eat dinner together? I am asking because the time that is the worst for you is dinner time. It was also the hardest time for me too. It was because our family always had dinner together an would share our day with each other. Once I recognized what I was missing, I called my parents more often to catch up, but most importantly I became more involved in activities at college. I am sure your parents miss you too, so I urge you to let them know what you are going through. My husband travels a lot for work, so about once a week he phones during dinner and we put him on speaker phone. Then we have “dinner” together. He also keeps in touch with our kids by texting. Those might be some additional strategies you can use to help you feel more connected with your family, But I can’t stress how important it is to start forming connections with others at your campus by getting involved in something that interests you. As others have said if you don’t start feeling better, you should look into the counseling options available at your college. Don’t forget about you R.A., they are there to help you adjust to college life too! Just know that others have been there too. I made it through my homesickness and now look back at my college years as some of the best years of my life.
Is there help at your college? I had a friend that struggled with this to begin with and it did get better, so there’s hope! Find someone to talk to (a counselor etc) and talk about what’s wrong
dont worry… it happens to everyone… even guys lol. wait a month and if you still feel the same everynight, then you should maybe tell your parents or something.
Thanks for the replies everyone. Just a update A week later im feeling ALOT better. I’ve made friends and have become very familiar with the campus. I still miss my family but we keep in contact everyday. In truth I think I miss my pets more! but things have become better!
So glad to hear this! Thanks for coming back to let us know,
I’m glad you are feeling better.
@Freshman202117 thanks for the update. Glad you’re doing better.
@Freshman202117 - Thanks for updating us. I’m so glad you are feeling better. Honestly I bet my daughter will miss her dog the most too!
That’s great news. If you ever feel very sad again, you can always speak to a counselor. Being away from home can be a tough adjustment so speak to someone and get your feelings out in the open. But it looks like things are getting better so that is awesome news.
Do not worry. It happens. take care
It’s a normal reaction. I cried myself to sleep every night for the first week or so. I cried a lot that first year, both in class and at my apartment. And in the car. And at church…you get the idea. I probably still cry just as much, just not from being homesick, but rather from the stress. Glad you’re feeling better now.
You might want to lock this thread. I assume the OP disappeared long ago.