<p>Hey everyone! I've been a CC member for awhile under a different name. I made up an alias to ask this question since I don't normally delve into my personal issues here, but I'm kind of curious what people here would say about this. Here goes:</p>
<p>I'm home from college for the summer and I recently met a guy who came in to the place where I work. He asked me for my number and then asked me out a couple days later. We went out for coffee last night and I had a good time. He seems like a really nice guy, but we have some serious differences. Since I'm not looking for anything serious right now, most of them aren't that big of a deal, but I am concerned about our difference in age. I'm 19 and he's 25. Is that too much of an age difference? I just finished my freshman year of college and he's already working on his master's. And I live at home while he has his own place. As I said, I'm not looking for a serious relationship, especially since I'll be leaving for school again at the end of the summer. But, at this point in his life, he might be. What do y'all think?</p>
<p>give it a try besides i'm pretty serious i'm 18 and he's 21. I've dated a 24 yr. old before and he was sooo sweet :)</p>
<p>I think it depends entirely on the person. My boyfriend is a year younger, and it's definitely the healthiest and happiest relationship I've been in. In the past I only dated older guys, and I feel like this relationship is much more egalitarian than the ones I've been in. But, I think that has a lot more to do with the guy than our ages.</p>
<p>I'd say enjoy it for what it is, and bring up any concerns you have if there is any pressure to make things more serious.</p>
<p>I will agree with the sentiment that it depends on the people involved. As a guy who has skipped a few grades, I tend to date older girls. This is just simply the way things happen. I just recently stirred up a little innocent flirting with a girl and after all the initial, goofy romance has started to settle down, I am struggling to come to terms with the fact that she is two years younger than me. I know it shouldn't be that big of a deal, but to me, it absolutely is.</p>
<p>i dont think that is a huge difference. Just be smart.
But, you are in college, and u cant exactly take him back with you.</p>
<p>I personally wouldnt do it though cause u have no intention on staying with him, so why do it for a summer.</p>
<p>age divided by two plus seven</p>
<p>I agree with the half plus seven rule. I also don't think the age difference you listed is a big deal. What matters more is where you are in life. The differences you listed about him being in a masters program and living in his own place while you are still an undergrad living at home are going to give you more problems than the age itself.</p>
<p>The half plus seven rule is kind of BS :P</p>
<p>2nd semester of my freshman year of college, I just turned 19 and the only guys I have dated since then have been between 24 and 27. They are much better relationships than I've ever had with anyone remotely near my age.</p>
<p>Personally, I could never be comfortable dating someone my own age - I'm far more comfortable with guys 5 to 8 years older than me. </p>
<p>BUT. It depends on what you're after. If you want a light, casual relationship with a guy who's still relatively free of responsibilities, you'd be better off dating a fellow undergrad. Dating a guy who's significantly older has its perks, but realize that he's at different stage of his life - he's probably working, financially independent, and ready to settle down a little bit. </p>
<p>Take a stab at the relationship if that's what you want, but only get as serious as you feel comfortable with. If it works out, great, but the last thing you need to feel trapped when it comes time to head back to college.</p>
<p>2, maybe 3 years max difference imo, when you are young.</p>