<p>So i'm in my first year of my masters. I did co-op in my undergrad as well as took time off to work after graduation, i'm currently 23. </p>
<p>I joined the swimming club at my school and there are quite a few girls in it but they are mostly in their 2nd to 3rd so i'm guessing they are 19-21. Is it ok if I try to date them?</p>
<p>Um… yes?
As long as you like them and they like you why wouldn’t it be?</p>
<p>Yep.</p>
<p>When my mom was 21, she married my dad.</p>
<p>…He was 42.</p>
<p>As long as you’re all over 18 it’s all good.</p>
<p>21 years difference? that’s almost like me dating someone who isn’t even born</p>
<p>no offense</p>
<p>Not only is it OK, that would be perfectly normal. The man being several years older in a relationship has been pretty standard for most of recorded history.</p>
<p>^^Yeah. My dad is actually older than my grandmother and grandfather…</p>
<p>But my parents are still together 20 years later and I’m pretty sure that they have no plans of getting divorced.</p>
<p>So I say, do whatever floats your boat as long as it is legal and ethical.</p>
<p>Isn’t the rule “half your age plus seven”?</p>
<p>Why not ? I don’t know what the problem would be , unless you are also married !</p>
<p>Well the age difference you’re describing isn’t that big, so I’m sure that kind of thing happens all the time. Personally, I’d prefer to date people who are the same year as me. We’re still young college students, so even one year age difference makes a big difference in maturity. I’m so much more mature now at 19 than I was at 18. The difference is very noticeable. I would feel uncomfortable with people who were noticeably more mature or less mature than me, but I guess someone who is relatively immature for his/her age would do just fine in a relationship with a younger person, and vice versa. </p>
<p>Plus it’s often hard to find a person with all the right traits that you want in a partner. Sometimes you end up having to sacrifice some things for others. If her age is the only thing you don’t like and everything else about her is perfect then feel free to go ahead with it.</p>
<p>I had just started grad school when I met my husband. I was 22 and he was 30. He asked me to marry him after we’d known each other only three months (we waited a year). We’ve been married 25 years. Worked great!</p>
<p>MaineLonghorn you give me hope. I’m 29 and surrounded by 21-year-olds on campus.</p>