Normally I don’t go to forums like these to find help, but I really need it. Here I am in my freshman year determined to dedicate myself to school, but lo behold I find myself captivated by a girl.
As I said I’m a freshman, and the girl I like is a sophomore who is almost 2 years older than me at 16 years old. She dislikes most freshman with a passion because she feels that they’re annoying, easily buthurt, cocky, and just need to stay in their place.
She with many other upperclassman consider me to be an exception to that, because I took highschool courses last year, along with that I’m very smart and mature for my age. I’ve been dubbed a “sophman”.
I don’t know how to approach her. I’m nothing special. I’m still prepubescent and will remain that way until I am sixteen due to thyroid issues. I’m 4’11, pudgy, with brown hair and eyes. I’m an asian American mix.
We are friends, but whenever we’re not in class, she is on her phone playing puzzle games. Approaching anyone is hard enough for me, but to a girl, whom I like, who is on their phone, and who is generally apathetic to life around her, is near impossible.
The only time she holds full conversations is when she is with our friends or her best friend, but I don’t want to say anything in front of her friends.
Note I am 15, have never been in any sort of relationship before, am socially awkward, and shy.
Hey, Frogis! I highly recommend going to another forum with this. Seeing as this is an “academic” forum. I can offer one piece of advice though. Although I haven’t had a girlfriend nor boyfriend; you should just be yourself. Ask her out, or wait until she asks you out. If the relationship is meant to happen, it will happen.
It sounds like you have a nice friendship with this girl. This is JMHO but my suggestion is to keep it at that. If you ask her out and she only wants to keep it at a friendship, chances are things will become weird and you’ll have ruined your friendship. Is she giving you any vibe or signs that she would like to be more than friends? If not, don’t go there. Keep building your friendship and most likely if she wants something more you’ll get some signs from her or she might even ask you out.
In my vast experience, I can tell that you’re an open and sensitive person. You will be hurt time and again if you don’t learn now that the tension you feel about this relationship is probably your correct hunch that the romance is all in your head.
When it’s mutual you’ll know it because your emotion will not feel agonized and uncertain.
I could have saved myself years of pain if someone had pointed that simple truth out to me.
That said, if you’re already enthralled you’ll probably have difficulty detaching now.
Concentrate on your studies. People are inevitably more attracted to high-achievers.(Wink.)