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I mean, let's think for a second: Suppose you get your total dream job. You are making over $100,000/year. You drive a Jag, you live in a gated neighborhood in the northeast or outside of LA. You've got it all, except a family. You're going to go home to an empty mansion every night....
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<p>Okay, if you want to play 'list the worse case scenario game', I'll join:</p>
<p>Suppose you get into a relationship while you're at college, sacrificing your GPA because you've found "that special one" and you just know that the relationship will work out. You graduate with a GPA that's not as good as what you could've gotten had you saved the dating for later, not as many classes that you could've taken, and you go off and get married. Anyway, things don't work out, you get divorced, and your partner gets the kid, the house, the cars, half or more of your checking/savings accounts, and you're stuck paying 'child support' every month even though your ex-wife/husband has already found another person who is making way more money than you are. </p>
<p>Now wouldn't you wish that you had actually showed some maturity and self restraint and got what you needed to get done in college, and saved the rest for after graduation?</p>
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My future soulmate should have a job that is just as good as mine and isn't going down the wrong path (i.e. having billions of past girlfriends, having sex with a billion girls, having a bad reputation in college for binge drinking)
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<p>Agreed. Although I've given up on the whole idea of marriage for the moment (the laws are there to punish men for trying to get married), should those laws and/or society ever change to the point where its actually worth it to get married, I would not see myself being with someone who hasn't kept them selves pure (like I have). Check your baggage on the plane, not in a relationship (or something catchy like that...).</p>
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I don't think you understand... life is not all about getting a job.
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<p>I understand that completely, next time, please read my entire post. I will quote myself (yet) again...</p>
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BP-TheGuy88, have you thought about the fact that not everybody has to get into a romantic relationship while at college? I recommending getting friends (of either gender) that you can trust and rely on, bringing "romance" into a relationship only turns it unstable and adds a lot of extra, unnecessary stress, hence all the "breaking up" that goes on around anywhere.
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<p>Furthermore, in some of my other posts on these same forums, I've listed that a positive to commuting is the fact that you're able to keep better relationships with your immediate family members.</p>
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A high-paid employee with nothing in his life besides his work or a middle class employee with a spouse and family... I'd rather be the second.
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<p>Sheesh, what's with people on these boards? So I advocate not dating while in college, and suddenly I'm advocating "nothing in his life besides his work"? I'm a Christian and I believe in God, so there will always be Someone else in my life I can turn to, workaholism isn't for me, and I wouldn't wish that upon someone I hated.</p>
<p>And given the fact that the divorce rate used to be 50% a while back (it's only gone up, most likely), marriage is literally a toss up, are you feeling "lucky"?</p>
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Also, who says that the reason they ask that question is because married men are pushovers? I might think it is because married men are more stable/dependable, for example. Or just to see if the candidate can handle personal questions in a professional way.
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<p>The question should be (and probably is) illegal. Furthermore, if the stats hold true, then half of those "stable/dependable" married men eventually get divorced and at that point, it probably would've been better off if they hadn't gotten married in the first place?</p>
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Let me make myself clear. I DO feel that relationships are a very important part of peoples life, it helps them grow in many ways as a human. BUT, I DO feel that in college, having a bf or gf is the LAST thing that should be on your mind. The relationships I have had, had made me a lot better of a person and have allowed me to grow. And none of them ended messy, I just think College is very important, a lot more than a lot of people take it for. I just feel that relationships are for high school and and after college.
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<p>You said it kenshinsan! (And BTW, I liked what you did to Enishi at the beginning of volume 28, Dragon's Howl? How awesome!) Although I disagree with your statement that dating is for high school (after all, you gotta have good grades to get into college, right?), the rest of your post makes so much sense, that I see exactly what you're talking about, so I'm not going to quibble over details. </p>
<p>Right, 'good friends that you can depend on, not fickle relationships', this'll be my third time saying it in one topic! </p>
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And I feel this goes both ways, for boys and girls. Guys I have found, are in general cheating *******s, and I'm a guy myself.
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<p>Yeah, this goes both ways though, remember that society and our courts are set up to reward women who cheat in marriage, yet punish men who do the same. When a man cheats its, "How wrong" (which it is, I'm not denying that), but when a woman cheats its "Well, he must not have been a good husband. It was her fault that she had to look somewhere else." (this may not be necessarily true).</p>