<p>is this a good idea? i'm worried that i might get too involved, break up at the end of the year and not have any close friends because of the amount of time and commitment invested in the gf. not to mention i'm still adjusting to college life.</p>
<p>I'd recommend not to worry about dating really. Your GPA is much more important and if you get all of your emotions and time tied up into one individual, when that person leaves you, you probably be very hurt and affected, which would bring down your GPA and grades. </p>
<p>Furthermore, nah, that's another story for another time.</p>
<p>Wow...people on this website really are all about grades. </p>
<p>I don't think I've ever heard someone say that you should sacrifice a relationship for GPA in undergrad - professional school (law/med) yeah...but as a frosh?</p>
<p>I don't think it's ever a good idea to categorically deny yourself the possibility of getting involved with someone. Relationships can be random as it is. As long as you take the time to actually make some other friends you should be fine. I agree that any sort of relationship that precludes you from making other friends is bad, but if you are aware of what youre doing, you should be fine.</p>
<p>I agree with Bigredmed. Don't go out looking for it, but don't deprive yourself of something that happens naturally. If you find someone who you're really into, don't cut things short because you're worried about friendships or your GPA. Just be mature about it and you should be able to keep things balanced.</p>
<p>I actually agree more with Vail. Freshman year GPA is arguably the most important in Undergrad (internships etc), don't go and mess up your next 40 years with what is practically a short fling in comparison.</p>
<p>This mostly applies if you're thinking grad school.</p>
<p>I think if you are keeping yourself from having healthy relationships because you are too worried about your GPA, then there is something wrong. Of course, you should try to keep your grades up, but if the opportunity for a relationship comes along I wouldn't be afraid of having that relationship just because of your grades. If all you ever worry about are your grades, you'll miss out on a ton of wonderful experiences. So, I would have to agree with others on this board. Don't try to force a relationship, but don't pass an opportunity for one up.</p>
<p>Choosing not to get involved in relationships to preserve your GPA is sick. Basically, don't go looking to hook up, but if it happens, it happens. Who knows, the person you meet your freshman year may be your soulmate. But of course thinking of a relationship that way is wrong, too :P. </p>
<p>Basically, as long as you have your priorities straight (you two know when to spend time together, and know when to study and/or go out with other people), you'll be fine. Avoiding relationships b/c you're worried about getting too involved is the wrong way to look at it...instead focus on how you can have a healthy relationship that DOESN'T involve spending every waking moment with your GF and never making any other friends.</p>
<p>freshman year GPA is most certainly NOT that important(i'm refering to wayytoworried). As long as you don't get whipped, you'll be fine.</p>
<p>Just don't let the relationship take over and it will be fine. So many cynics on here. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>I'd say with grades it is the other way around. Your grades in upper-division (junior- and senior-level) courses within your major are the most important grades for graudate school, not necessarily your freshman grades. Heck, MIT and Caltech students don't even have their freshman grades on their external transcripts, and don't reflect their GPA. Graduate schools assume that most freshmen are trying to adjust to the transition from high school academics to university-level academics, so graduate schools cut applicants some slack when it comes to freshman grades. Its the grades beyond the freshman year that are the true test for graduate admissions.</p>
<p>I agree with the people who say that freshman year GPA is probably your most important one. If you get a 4.0 your setting yourself to not be so concerned the next 3 years. If you are looking at law/med school and you got a 3.2 or something your first year you will be playing catchup for the rest of your college career. I know because I did this in high school and I won't make that mistake again. </p>
<p>Also, take advantage of the "easier" classes youa re taking as a freshman and ace them.</p>
<p>College is the new high school. The relationships are almost just as fickle.</p>
<p>Some of you are psycho.</p>
<p>Regardless...just go with whatever happens. Being in a relationship shouldn't mean that everything takes a backseat to that person, but doing well in school doesn't mean that you must deny everything else either.</p>
<p>how do you have time as a frosh to be in a relationship?! I'm a frosh and I'm swamped with so much homework and reading that I don't even have time to watch t.v. anymore. I guess that's what Tivo is for. :P</p>
<p>Sacrifice everything for the high school gpa...
Sacrifice everything for your college gpa...
Sacrifice everyting for grad school grades...
Sacrifice everything for that project your boss needs, that report that is urgent, that document that needs to be filed</p>
<p>If you keep living for the future, you'll never live for now. I'm sure a corporation would love such an efficient automotan with a high gpa, but personally, taking a look at your personality and worldview I would never hire you.</p>
<p>Generally speaking, college relationships are different from highschool ones in the fact that they have the potential to be more long-term and to turn into marriage. If you do deeply fall for someone, what is more important? Your lifelong counterpart or your GPA? </p>
<p>I'm not saying forget about school, but if someone floats your way and you are interested in him/her, make your move.</p>
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<p>have you ever put time into a relationship? friendship or otherwise? This summer I "should have been" doing an internship, but instead I did what I wanted. I spent the summer touring the US, sleeping on a bus/gym floor, being outside in 100+ almost everyday for long hours. Will it help me get into grad school or get a job? Probably not, at least not much. But it will stay with me for the rest of my life. The relationships I built with people are real.</p>
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<p>This is not true at all. Was high school the new middle school? Middle school the new elementary school? As people get older, they hopefully get more mature, and therefore more able to form lasting, meaningful relationships. Of course, within any age group there's great variety, but many college friendships end up being life-long, and many college relationships turn into long-term loving relationships or even marriages.</p>
<p>i don't think you should get into a relationship during your freshman year let alone your first semester, because i think if you guys become committed, it can destroy the college experience, in the sense that you'll never get one back. And plus if it's a serious relationship, I think getting into a relationship(after just meeting someone a couple of weeks before) is way to fast. There is no way you could know that person on a deeper level in just a month or two.</p>
<p>A relationship will prevent you from even hanging out with friends.</p>
<p>Sacrifices have to made for success at times. I'm not saying everyone who does succeed in college forgoes dating to a large extent, but it's hard for you to put together a well developed resume for your Harvard Medical School application in 4 years if for alot of you it are having to deal with the ups and downs of relationships and dating. </p>
<p>For me personally I just feel that right now is not the time in my life to mess up. A few false steps in college and my dreams could go down the drain. Getting a few extra B's in some of your courses can make the difference of whether you get into this or that grad school, and it's something I really don't want to risk. When my future career is more solidified I might feel more welcome to free some of my time and energy up to other pursuits. But not right now. It's just too damn important.</p>
<p>To each his own though.</p>
<p>When I said "College is the new high school. The relationships are almost just as fickle," I was more making a social commentary on how college is really just an extension of childhood/adolescence these days. We really aren't as independent as our parents once were when they went off to college. More kids than ever are going back to live at home after college, and this shows you just how different mindsets have become. I think this percipitates down to how seriously people take the relationships/friendships they form in college. I knew that I would lose my high school friends when I went to college. And now I know that I'm probably going to grad school far far away from my current college so it makes me take my present circumstances as seemingly temporary</p>
<p>I agree with you astrife, WayyyTooWorried, you (or your parents) are paying thousands of dollars per year for you to LEARN something, not to date people. If you wanted to just date for 4 years, then drop out of college, grab the car keys, and start driving around the country visiting clubs and other social events, its a whole lot cheaper, and the space you're taking up in college could be given to someone who is there to actually learn.</p>
<p>"Well sir, my GPA wasn't too great, but I formed long lasting relationships with 3 different girlfriends throughout college that will be with me for the rest of my life...or until they change their AIM name."</p>
<p>"Sir, I'm proud to say that I graduated with a 3.5/3.9 overall/major GPA."</p>
<p>Which of these two people would you like to be come job interview day?</p>