Dating at CAL: are the GUYS REALLY THAT AWKWARD as everyone says? Thanks so much!

<p>Hey everyone! Thank you for helping me with my question.
I'm pretty much ready to enroll @ Cal for the fall semester. </p>

<p>One of my concerns is what the dating scene is like?
For instance, are the guys really that AWKWARD and nerdy?
I don't mind nerdy, since after all, we're probably all a little nerdy if we're going to Cal.
But do guys have social skills and are they able to have a continuous, flowing conversation? That's the problem I've noticed in High School so far where boys literally do not know what to say.</p>

<p>Do you think my personality type would find its match at Cal?
I'm not super nerdy, my friends say I'm kind of a "pretty, smart" chick. I'm not trying to be arrogant or presumptuous in any way, but i hear that people at Cal are very stressed out all the time and people don't care about personal appearance and such. Would I still be able to find the right guys and friends for me?</p>

<p>I like learning, but I also enjoy having fun and hanging out, i'm not a hard partier but i do like music and i'm kinda strange b/c i'm into metal and hard rock bands. Lol wouldn't expect that comin' from lil old me! I'm also a pretty positive person.</p>

<p>Thanks again for helping me out.
Have a great day!</p>

<p>bump Bump BUMP</p>

<p>You’ll be fine. Live in one of the units, you’ll love college and have a social life instantly.</p>

<p>And I don’t know if you’re into sororities, but Berkeley actually has a very active Greek life. Frat parties every weekend that almost everyone in the units goes to (at least in the beginning). And I have friends in sororities who love it.</p>

<p>Nope. All guys here are strictly socially awkward. I think they actually try to find some sort social dysfunction in your personal statements. </p>

<p>Just this semester, I dropped a class because the professor told us to get int groups. I just can’t handle that level of social interaction yet.</p>

<p>(he’s kidding)</p>

<p>Yeah live in one of the Units and you’ll have plenty of social opportunities.</p>

<p>Join the CSUA (computer science undergraduate association) and you will meet hundreds of interesting people.</p>

<p>^ LOL 10char</p>

<p>Play an instrument? Join Cal Band. Not musically talented? Join Rally Committee, who cheers on Cal at football games. Or join some sort of club or group on campus even if it has nothing to do with your major. There is where you’ll find people you can relate to. </p>

<p>And as they always say: it’s only awkward if you make it awkward. Lol</p>

<p>there’s lot of nerdy guys at cal but most of them are not socially awkward at all from my experience. If you’re a girl you shouldn’t have problem finding guys who can hold conversations (unless you major in anything engineering or CS).</p>

<p>also go to the parties on the frat row or something. those drunk guys can definitely talk =)
(and/or grab your butt as well)</p>

<p>Hey! I’m in CS and most of the guys in my major are perfectly fine/well-socialized. I even started dating one before I switched into CS. The stereotypes aren’t true!!!</p>

<p>I’m a physics/math double major probably transferring to Berkeley this fall. I know I can definitely hold a conversation if you are interesting to me so I’m sure there are other people like that at Berkeley as well, if not most of them.</p>

<p>if you want to see awkward, watch quant majors talk at non-quant job fairs…</p>

<p>Don’t go to frat parties (to meet guys)… they all are dou.che.bags.</p>

<p>Yeah you’ll find guys who aren’t socially awkward in all major at Cal. Perhaps some majors may have more suave guys than others, but they is a decent amount of glib males in all fields, so you’ll be fine :)</p>

<p>A college of Berkeley’s size is bound to have significant amounts of people representing most if not all parts of the personality spectrum. We’re all pretty nerdy, and it’ll be hard to find someone who’s not if you take mostly technical classes. But socially awkward? I think not. Those people will of course exist. But so will the super extroverted people.</p>