Sometimes it is better to approach others as friends rather than as a dating partner.
“Met in college” is, according to a chart I saw recently, holding steady at just under 10% of couples, behind work, friends, bars, and internet. It is just starting out for you.
I am going to give you two names that can potentially change your life for the better. I wish I had the type of guidance they offer when I was younger. I’m hoping you have next week off to read, digest and implement some of this.
- Cal Newport. He has a blog with a ton of information about effective organization and has written important books on working efficiently such as "How to Become a Straight-A Student" and "How to Win at College."
- Eric Barker. He has another information-filled blog reviewing the science behind living a more fulfilled life. He has tips on making friends, attracting mates, what defines a good first date, habits for a happy life and many other topics. Read his entry on "How to Be James Bond" as an example. He also wrote a book about success, "Barking Up the Wrong Tree."
Combined, they will give you some easy-to-follow methods to reduce the anxiety in your life and achieve better results.
I had a lot of boyfriends. Places where I met them: work, bars, nightclubs, concerts, at the shopping mall. None at college, and I was there for six years. It will happen when it happens.
Is it possible to have a good relationship with someone if they are religious and/or drink alcohol (in moderation or occasionally)? It’s probably not good to be in a relationship with a current alcoholic or someone whos religion is in the top of their priorities. I just don’t wanna waste my time doing things I don’t enjoy just to have a relationship with someone. I know it’s a weird combination to be not religious and not drink alcohol. Another perspective someone has told me is that “not liking someone for drinking alcohol is just not liking someone for eating and liking a food that I don’t eat or like”.
You are putting the cart before the horse. When you meet someone you want to spend more time with, just wait and see how things develop. I know a ton of people who are not religious and don’t drink. You are over-generalizing.
I will admit that I do go to bars sometimes just because they have good burgers or catfish.