<p>Is it true that freshman don't date? This is what my daughter was told - that they really don't have time to date or otherwise don't do so. She is this close to submitting her SIR however is concerned about having fun even while she plans to work very hard. She knows that there's lots to do... just looking forward to dating as part of that.</p>
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<p>I didn't date my freshman year. It was kinda disappointing, but a lot of freshmen go out with each other. I wouldn't worry about it too much. If you don't date in Freshman year, so what. You have tons of time.</p>
<p>Rumor. I know of many who do.</p>
<p>It all depends on your perspective. What certainly happens is that many who attempt to carry high school relationships into college fail after a few months due to finding a "better" selection on campus. </p>
<p>Accounting for personality, it can be dramatically easier or harder to find a partner in college. I'm in a happy relationship that started off the second semester, but I don't see any real reason to aggressively pursue one.</p>
<p>Freshman year's the time to make friends who will stick around for years to come, and that generally means investing time in your own gender (for heterosexuals, of course). We all know what most inter-gender "platonic" friendships really entail (implicit attraction), so there's no need to go into that.</p>
<p>If you can budget your time, great. Going for a very serious and exclusive relationships straight into college can damage opportunities for social networking however, so always keep that in mind.</p>
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She is this close to submitting her SIR however is concerned about having fun even while she plans to work very hard.
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<p>That's inherently a bit of a contradiction. If you really plan on working hard, you won't have a lot of time for fun. In any case, there are quite a few freshmen who date, but it's not even close to the majority. This is the case at just about all college campuses: most people tend to be single. Whether you date or not probably depends more on you and the people you meet than the school you go to. But it is true that there are many freshmen who are quite busy and aren't actively pursuing a relationship (although probably looking for one, or at least wouldn't mind one).</p>
<p>There is no problem working hard and having fun. No reason you can't work hard during the week, then go out and party/have fun on the weekends. Most people do tend to be single during college however, be it because they want to play the 'hook up game' or just dont feel like dating at that time.</p>
<p>when I went to senior weekend my host said he had 1 class a day for every day of the week and he stays up until 2am to do homework and study and such... that really scared me... if we end up like that I doubt we'll have time for anything else...</p>
<p>so, what does he do to pass away his afternoons and evenings?</p>
<p>No kidding. The kid obviously screws around during the day/evenings if he's staying up till 2am to study. If everyone stayed up this late then there would be no social atmosphere @ Berkeley....or any other top 25 college for that matter, and this is simply not the case.</p>
<p>hah, he probably just procrastinates. i doubt he means he goes to an hour and a half of lecture each day and then goes home and studies all the way to 2am.</p>
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There is no problem working hard and having fun. No reason you can't work hard during the week, then go out and party/have fun on the weekends. Most people do tend to be single during college however, be it because they want to play the 'hook up game' or just dont feel like dating at that time.
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<p>Here's a reason: you do homework during the weekend. If you really work hard (17+ units), there is no way you have enough time to finish your homework and study for exams only on weekdays.</p>
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when I went to senior weekend my host said he had 1 class a day for every day of the week and he stays up until 2am to do homework and study and such... that really scared me... if we end up like that I doubt we'll have time for anything else...
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<p>Yeah this guy obviously procrastinates a lot, but staying up until 2am is very common. Late night at the DC and a few food places are open until 2am.</p>
<p>is 2am late? haha I consider the morning late</p>
<p>My roommate and I both stay up to 2-3 and sometimes 4am daily, weekends or not. Then again, he is Engineering and I'm Econ with a minor in computer science. I had a gf in HS and we are still dating, even though she goes to UCSB (she visits every week or every other week). In some ways, its better this way, because there would be no way I can keep up with the workload if she was here.</p>
<p>Some students date- others do not. I assume by dating you mean some courtship process or having relationships, right?</p>
<p>Of course one can work hard and have fun. It's obviously not possible to only work and 'have fun' if by have fun you mean anything other than work, but otherwise plenty of hard working students aren't ONLY working with their time. Also, one can take 13 units and be working hard- working hard isn't defined by number of units. Plenty of efficient, studious, and intelligent students have time to do their work and do other things.</p>
<p>I met my girlfriend freshman year. We lived on the same floor and started dating the first year. you can date freshman year. dont worry about that.</p>
<p>i met my bf at calso over the summer ... and we started dating after about a month of actually being at school. it seems like the majority of freshmen do not date, but of my friends who are freshmen (not all at berkeley, some are at other schools), half of us started dating within months of starting college, and we're all doing well enough in school, so it's most definitely doable ...</p>