<p>I know it can depend on the college, but I'm just wondering about dating life in general. How hard can it be for a girl looking for a relationship? Not necessarily super long term or anything...basically how hard is it to find a guy if you're not interested in the whole random hookup/one night stand culture?</p>
<p>I think it depends on how much time and energy you want to spend on it. If you’re willing to invest large amounts of time you can always go on OkCupid and there will be piles of guys waiting to go out with you. Or (in the better case scenario) you could talk to random people you meet in class or through social activities.</p>
<p>But if (like most people) you’re busy with homework and your current group of friends, it will be much harder to find a guy. There will always be something else to do that doesn’t involve meeting new people.</p>
<p>It also depends on how willing you are to make the first move. Basically I’m sure you can find a guy if you look hard enough and aren’t too picky.</p>
<p>thanks (:
so basically people who don’t want one night stands aren’t doomed to four years of singledom? XD</p>
<p>Nah you’ll be fine xD especially since you’re a girl. Just remember to put yourself out there, relationships probably won’t fall into your lap if you’re always busy</p>
<p>^ Why do people act like it’s easier for girls? I’m a female and it’s NEVER been easy for me.</p>
<p>^^^
Well, to be quite blunt and shallow, looks are a factor. If you are asking guys to do things and they are saying no, maybe you need to fix your appearance (I’m not in any way insinuating that you ARE not attractive, this is just one factor). This could be anything from weight (this would probably be #1 for me personally), hair, and clothes (not necessarily expensive, just appropriate), to the way you carry yourself. It can be hard to critically evaluate yourself and I don’t want to cause you to develop an eating disorder or anything, just keep it in mind.</p>
<p>You might not be blunt enough. From what I’ve read on reddit, women expect men to pick up on subtle clues and body language. It doesn’t work ever time; you need to be blunt. To show interest, just try asking them out. Girls can start relationships too.</p>
<p>You might be asking out guys that are already in relationships. Of course they’ll say no.</p>
<p>Don’t act goofy. One girl once tried to start a relationship with me, and one of the first things she said to me was “I’m yummy.” She probably wasn’t even sexually active, but that’s still a weird thing to say to someone. Act in a way that makes you feel comfortable and don’t try to impress people with something that isn’t you.</p>
<p>I am WELL aware that looks matter, so thanks for that.</p>
<p>It’s not overly difficult. I met my boyfriend through a history class. We sat next to each other, he asked for help on something that I was good at. We randomly talked later at various points and ended up spending hours (from 8:15 pm to 2:00 am) talking before we realized what time it was. From that point, it just kind of escalated. </p>
<p>But honestly, it seems like if you’re actively looking for love, it’s probably not going to happen. Focus on being happy, doing well at your classes, and making lots of friends. Someone great will appear at some point.</p>
<p>lol just sit around and look cute, they will come</p>
<p>hue, I love your usename</p>
<p>It’s not the most common thing, although it varies by college. But dating does happen. I know quite a few people who’ve had significant others. In fact, all five of my roommates have/had a boyfriend or girlfriend in college. I’m the only outlier :(</p>
<p>thanks for the advice everyone! (:</p>
<p>Varies by college but I’ve never found a shortage of people wanting dates, relationships, or hookups. Whatever you want, it’ll be available.</p>
<p>Good luck :)</p>
<p>thank you!! this is all very reassuring to hear (:</p>
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<p>Be more flirty or outgoing. Wear more revealing clothes.</p>
<p>I never make a move on anyone (I’m a computer science major with limited social skills) so the only actual people whom I talk to that are female are just outgoing people, basically.</p>
<p>As a guy, I really don’t like one night stands. I actually don’t go after the most attractive girls because they’re used to getting a lot of attention and being able to use their looks to get what they want (awful personalities). I like the type of girl that can hold an interesting conversation and is outgoing enough to enjoy outdoors activities and stuff like that with me. And at the risk of being called out-dated, I like the nurturing type of girl that listens to me and will cook a good meal. As far as looks go, as long as she takes care of herself (healthy and not a slob), I’m happy.</p>
<p>I know there are others like me… So even if you don’t look like a barbie doll, there’s always hope. Keep taking care of yourself, make an effort, and work on yourself. Become a more interesting person. Guys will find you, or you’ll find them. Don’t be afraid to be aggressive. The types of guys you want to date won’t be intimidated by a girl that takes control.</p>
<p>^^ As rockin as my body is, I refuse to show it off just so guys will talk to me.</p>
<p>Relationship that starts because of attraction in looks usually don’t end well. People learn as they go.</p>
<p>^^ Where are the guys like you?</p>
<p>Wearing revealing clothes is generally not going to attract the type of people you want for a relationship. Just sayin’.</p>