My daughter was waitlisted EA at 2 competitive schools in state - 1 was a reach but the other we definitely thought was a target so that was tough. She was very upset to put it mildly.
In any case, she accepted admission at a less selective school, but as a member of their honors college. I truly think this is a great situation where she can stand out and thrive. She seemed ok with this decision back in February. Ego still a bit bruised but we figured she would get over the sting of rejection over time.
4 months after EA decisions and it’s gotten worse in the last few weeks - now she says chosen school is definitely not the one for her, for a variety of reasons - the location, the weather…honestly the reasons change by the week and none are particularly compelling . The schools she wished she’d applied to/accepted admission to change by the week. A school she had no interest in 2-3 months ago is now the one for her. She doesn’t want to do a gap year. Doesn’t want to do CC for a year. She is all over the place with what she says. Very “woe is me.”
She can try to transfer elsewhere as a sophomore - but I guess what bothers me most is that she seems hell bent on going to this school and not giving it a chance. I understand she’s disappointed in the waitlists; she goes to a competitive HS full of indulged students from financially comfortable families so I understand my kid is a bit spoiled too, as are many of her contemporaries. She laments how “unfair” it is that she didn’t get in when Jane Doe from elementary school did. Etc etc.
Our house is very stressful right now at a time I hoped would be a happy one - celebrating her accomplishments, eagerly looking towards a bright future etc. It’s like walking on eggshells. I’m not looking forward to 2.5 more months of this; I felt devastated for her in January but I think she’s had ample time to grieve. Has anyone been though something similar? Any insights? Thanks.