So I’m in UF starting in summer b, and i live in a suite-style dorm and I’m just having some trouble with my suitemates. My roommate and I get along really well, and even she has admitted to me that she thinks this is a problem too. My suitemates get along with my roommate, but not with me. often, what happens is that they’ll call my roommate over into my room or invite her to go out with them and I’ll either have to be by myself or join my roommate anyways, even when I wasn’t invited. My roommate and I have very similar personalities, except I think I’m a bit more outgoing and involved than her. I hate saying it, but the only difference between them and me is our skin color. My roommate and suitemates are all white, while I’m a lightskinned Indian. I’m one of the only non-white people on my floor and it seems to be the only reason that I’m being excluded. It’s not really direct racism, as they aren’t saying anything bad about me, so I don’t think I’d be able to report it to anyone, but lately, it’s made me feel pretty terribly about myself and has definitely ruined my mood on multiple occasions. I was wondering if anyone had some advice for a situation like this.
Why doesn’t your roommate say “Sure let me go get ufgal23 too!”
she does, but you can only do so much when it’s clear that the other girls aren’t interested in having someone in the room. when only one person in the room keeps being the one asked, it’s pretty clear how they feel about the other.
I am really sorry that you are experiencing this @ufgal23. Being excluded is painful no matter the reason and no matter one’s age. I’m not sure you can do much other than look for friends outside of your suite, express a positive attitude and try, try, try, not to let it get to you. Unfortunately, in addition to the racists out there, there are many people who are superficial and shallow and simply aren’t open-minded enough to include people who are not exactly like them.
Will you have the same suitemates for the entire year or just for the summer?