<p>Let me start by saying, this has been great therapy for me! Thank you! I have been frustrated by this for the past couple months when it seems my "common sense kid" seems to have been replaced with "Yeah But Boy".</p>
<p>I attended a large state school and not a directional one either. I had a "good time" like most college attendees. I keep up with no one from school. And I have no problem admitting that once I moved away for work, that part of my life was effectively over. </p>
<p>Contrast that with the things I read here and have experienced in my life where...people who have attended smaller schools seem to have a "connection" to the students and alums beyond "when Big state U is winning at <strong>fill in revenue generating sport here</strong>". That network is priceless as opposed to Big State U's 8,000 graduates a year!</p>
<p>So now, back to present day...</p>
<p>Son gets accepted to 4 LAC's all of which are mentioned here on CC regularly. Of those, two have already offered approximately half scholarships for his...ACADEMICS!</p>
<p>I highlight academics because he thought he was going to be an athlete! Turns out the brain works tremendously well too! Who knew!</p>
<p>One of the LAC's contacts us pretty regularly (every other week) by either mail (personally written) or phone. </p>
<p>Contrast that with Big State U which has sent a total of two mailing (form letters of course) since he was accepted in November.</p>
<p>big State U has offered zero dollars so far, though I know of course they are working hard on those financial aid packages to get them out to the MANY students thye have admitted.</p>
<p>My opinion...the one thing that Big state U has...many of his friends are going there...</p>
<p>My, and I stress only MY experience has been that those "friends" from high school will quickly disappear. I know approximately a quarter of the friends I had from high school that went to college became alcoholics within 3 semesters and never finished anyway. Half became jerks that I didn't want to deal with at all. The other quarter essentially faded into the background.</p>
<p>So...here is my bottom line brain assessment...</p>
<p>Big State U offers...</p>
<p>Friends
Higher cost
Being one of MANY (thousands) IF you even reach graduation
Large network, but not necessarily relationship based</p>
<p>LAC (take your pick of the acceptances) offers...</p>
<p>Personal experience by people who know you
Lower cost
Long term relationship based network</p>
<p>So am I just being a jerk with my assessment? </p>
<p>Oh...and just a response to the "student owning the decision". That's a nice concept, but if the parent is paying, the student has no real ownership. The student may be deciding but the parents are owning the responsibility. I think that is my real frustration...</p>
<p>If I could justify the doubling in cost, I could justify the expense differential but since I don't see the value, I can't justify in my mind the additional 70k for an inferior product.</p>