Defense mechanism for deferral

Colleges and Universities A-Z Yale University
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<p>So in order to prepare myself for rejection and/or deferral, I made myself a little packet. I thought the other SCEAers as nervous as I might be interested in seeing this. The letter is copied and pasted from another thread.
TO DO LIST FOR YALE DEFERRAL (To be activated on December 15th, at approximately 5:30pm)</p>

<p>Dear ________:</p>

<p>The Yale Admissions Committee has completed its evaluation of this year's Single Choice Early Action candidates and has voted to defer action on your application. We will review your file again in the spring, and I will write to inform you of the outcome in April.</p>

<p>I realize that this deferral may come as a real disappointment, especially if your early application was an indication that Yale is truly your first choice among schools. I also know that our decision means you will face an additional period of uncertainty.</p>

<p>Many deferred students would like us to provide an estimate of their chances for admission in the spring. Unfortunately, we can only tell you that we expect the rate of admission for deferred candidates from the early process to be about the same as the rate of admission for all Regular Decision candidates. The level of competition for places is extremely high, but we do accept a significant number of the early applicants whom we reconsider.</p>

<p>If we require information in addition to your Midyear Report, the admissions officer in charge of your area will write or call. In turn, please keep us informed of any important new information that was not available when you submitted your original application. We know that you will be an outstanding candidate for admission at many excellent colleges, and we look forward to another opportunity to consider your application to Yale.</p>

<p>Best wishes,</p>

<p>Jeffrey Brenzel
Dean of Undergraduate Admissions</p>

<ol>
<li> Reread letter</li>
<li> Make a cynical statement, e.g.: “This is how the dream ends.”</li>
<li> Continue work on UPenn (or other college) essay</li>
<li> Write to admissions officer, admissions committee, etc.</li>
<li> Listen to depressing music</li>
<li> Work on other apps like crazy</li>
<li> Have a HORRIBLE winter break</li>
</ol>

<p>I thought people might be interested. I'm working on one for rejection. Opinions?</p>

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<p>I’d actually love to somehow mentally prepare myself for a deferral/rejection, so I’m kinda looking forward to your rejection “defense mechanism”. Go morningglory111, go!</p>

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<p>This was definitely good to read now</p>

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<p>My delusional coping mechanism will go something like this: “Your loss Yale. Harvard will be more than happy to take me if you didn’t.”</p>

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<p>this letter is just depressing… if I get one I will make sure I don’t remember my Christmas break and party my disappointment away.</p>

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<p>-.-</p>

<p>Just wanted to thank you for making everyone’s day so much better. :)</p>

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<p>Work on your other apps RIGHT NOW. Then, if you get a letter like this or a rejection, you can say, “Pssh. Who needs them? I was always planning to apply to these other great schools anyway.”</p>

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<p>I wrote three letters to myself in early November, right after I submitted my app. One to read if I was accepted, one if I was deferred, or one if I was rejected. It was soothing - I planned out my entire weekend based on what I was going to do to celebrate, move past the deferral, or wallow in self pity, and that way I felt like I was at least DOING something, not just sitting around waiting. I cannot wait to hear what admissions decided!</p>

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<p>This is a really good idea actually. I think I need more of a rejection defense mechanism, because I think I can kind of cope with a deferral. A rejection will definitely sting.
But anything to pass the time is splendid in my book!</p>

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<p>The correct defense mechanism would be to say to yourself:</p>

<p>“Okay, not unexpected. This was the much more likely outcome than an acceptance. Luckily, there are plenty of great colleges out there, and I know that on my list are some colleges that I <em>will</em> get into, and that I would be perfectly happy to attend.”</p>

<p>And if you think I’m just a parent who doesn’t understand, well, actually I saw my own daughter go through the above defense mechanism last year. Sure, she spent some time FB stalking some people who had gotten in, and wondering why she didn’t get in when those people did. But for the most part, she was pretty cool about it all.</p>

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<p>Why didn’t I think of doing this!</p>