<p>SD ~</p>
<p>I am a parent of a 17-year-old son, and I want to help you.</p>
<p>Ideally, you should tell your parents about the way you have been feeling. Why do you feel that they will not take your concerns seriously and seek a doctor's help for you? I believe that if you speak with them earnestly, from the heart, they will understand, because they love you. If you feel uncomfortable speaking with both parents at the same time, then try to schedule some time with the one you are best able to converse with to begin the discussion. If you feel uncomfortable speaking on home turf, then perhaps plan a quiet outing at a coffee shop or the like where voices and words exchanged tend to be more thoughtful and modulated.</p>
<p>Another suggestion might be to speak with another trusted individual, such as a grandparent, aunt/uncle, teacher, or clergyman (perhaps a leader of a youth group). If you're involved in sports, even a trusted coach could provide some assistance in the steps to take next. But, do speak with someone, and soon.</p>
<p>The symptoms you have described are certainly consistent with depression, but it would take a medical professional to confirm any diagnosis. In the meantime, it is my opinion that you should share your feelings and concerns with someone who can discuss your situation with your school, so that an effort could be made to offload some of your work stress, until you are better able to juggle it. Don't worry about the past, concern yourself instead with taking the first steps to get yourself the help you deserve. Everything else will fall in line; believe me.</p>
<p>SD, please know that depression is very common and not anything to hide or be ashamed of. I have suffered from it, and received therapy, as have my husband and son. This is a very busy and stressful world, and as a teen undergoing so many changes and planning an unseen future, you are dealing with many things.</p>
<p>Also, it would be helpful to share with your trusted one any issues or disabilities that may be contributing to your feelings. Your decision to seek help is a very strong indicator that you are trying to deal with these problems in a very mature, adult-like manner...and you should be very proud of yourself for this! A word of advice: once you get beyond this, and with help you definitely will, remember that as you move through life to always seek help at the earliest sign of trouble. When you get to college, make sure to stay in touch with your own feelings and your own academic progress...and seek help right away...no need to suffer in silence and alone. There are too many good and caring people out there who are just waiting to help someone just like you!</p>
<p>If you cannot bring yourself to talk about your depression with a trusted person, then at the very least, initially speak with someone at a local mental health hotline. However, I feel very strongly that you should confide in mom and dad, another relative, a teacher or coach, a clergyman. They have much experience and wisdom that can help you.</p>
<p>Please let us know what you have decided to do, SD. We on this board care about you and your well-being. If you ever need to PM us, don't hesitate! Best, OB</p>