Difficult to make friends

Hi everyone I’m new here.

I’m currently enrolled in second semester CUNY Brooklyn college but I live in deeep Queens. Via subway, 2.5-3 hours. I, however, take the LIRR which is a new set of problems cause constant delays and hour train gaps.

I’m really outgoing and it’s super easy for me to make acquaintances but it was always hard to make good friends. I can’t even get on regular texting basis with a lot of people. Now with such a large distance, it’s increasingly hard and I never get invited to places cause not only am I not good enough friends but it’s just impractical with the distance and my studying. I’m extroverted so not having a lot of friends suddenly has made me really sad and I can’t get work done. I just feel so alone the second I leave campus.

Try to find friends closer to home. Take an exercise class or do some activity that’ll help you meet people - there’s even apps that help you meet friends! I live pretty far away from my college campus too and this is what really helped me. I’m now much closer with my off-campus friends, and it’s honestly a lot easier to hang out with them since we can meet up close to home. I know you probably want some friends at school too, but at least this could help with the loneliness.

I like the advice above. I was a commuter throughout college. My social life revolved around work friends. I am very sociable and outgoing, but I literally never made a single friend at college. Tbh, I do think you might want to consider attending college closer to your home, if that’s an option. If CUNY Brooklyn is the only place offering your course, that might not work. If you don’t already have a part time job, consider working at a fun place like a restaurant or mall store where you will meet others.

Would you consider transferring to Queens College, or some other CUNY closer to home? It can’t be good for you as a whole-- academically, socially, even in terms of holding down a part time job-- to spend 3 hours a day (I assume that’s round trip?) commuting.

Or, Plan B: find friends outside of school. Do you work part time? FInd a job that employs other kids your age-- Applebees, TGI FRidays, Buffalo Wild Wings, Chiles-- they all spring to mind.

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