Disadvantage if I don't have any friends?

College Life
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<p>I'm just asking for opinions here, I'm not looking for anyone to 'make me see the light' or whatever. </p>

<p>Do you think one becomes disadvantaged if one doesn't make any friends in college?</p>

<p>Personally, I don't believe so. There's a difference between friends and acquaintances. One without friends could have acquaintances, which means that he or she is still interacting with people. Communication skills and all that are still improving, it's just that you don't have a friend to kick it with on weekends, etc. </p>

<p>Furthermore, life doesn't end after college. There are many more opportunities to make friends in life. There's your job, going to the gym, pursuing activities that interest you, volunteer groups, etc. </p>

<p>I don't think one is disadvantaged if one doesn't have friends, but more so just will miss out on the "friend" feel. But to each his own.</p>

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<p>I thought sadcollegestud was sad no more :(</p>

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<p>Yes, there are more opportunities to make friends after college, but if you don’t make them while in college, possibly the best time to socialize, then when exactly do you plan on making friends?</p>

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<p>it depends. if you’re the kind of person who needs some friends (most people are) then it’s a bit of a disadvantage. if you’re not that kind of person (if so you should count your blessings every day), then no it’s not a disadvantage because you don’t really need friends.</p>

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<p>I’d probably kill myself if I had no friends and couldn’t make any, so I’d say that’s a pretty ****ing huge disadvantage.</p>

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<p>LOL thanks for the respectful comments guys. I’m glad no one shouted “YOU ES A LOSER1”</p>

<p>And Ansar I’m not sad anymore, I’m just seeing if me not having friends would be so bad as society makes it out to be. I actually have 2 friends that I hang out with occasionally, but being the introvert that I am and the fact that I don’t really click with any of the students I met so far, I feel that aside from my 2 friends, I’ll just have acquaintances and no real friends. </p>

<p>It’s not like I’m rude or anything to people. I say hi/bye, smile, make small talk, but when it comes to actually hanging out and stuff, I is a loner.</p>

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<p>If you really are content with not having many friends, and as long as you’re still a civil human being (sounds like you are) then that’s fine. American society has this idea that if you’re a loner then you probably have lots of young women buried in your backyard, and it’s ridiculously stupid.</p>

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<p>Anyone who has played The Sims knows you can’t get a good job without lots of friends</p>

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<p>^ Only in the original… (or is it in Sims 2, too? I can’t remember). </p>

<p>Obviously since this is not the case in Sims 3, the idea is obsolete and therefore no, friends are not necessary. :p</p>

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<p>I’m with you, OPer. I’m not even sure how to define a “friend.” Is there a contract? I don’t view it like “having” static “friends,” but more like being friendly. so If I am friendly to someone or them to me, they are a friend, even if I never see them again, and I didn’t know their name.</p>

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<p>^^^ Also, make sure your swimming pool has a ladder, or you’re ****ed</p>

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<p>Having friends is necessary in LIFE. That means hs, college, everywhere. I’m not saying you’re a loser, or whatever, but most people need friends to keep themselves sane.
This senior year has been a little rough for me. You’d think it’d be the year when everyone comes together, but not at my school. People are still changing their ways to seem more cool, and people who don’t change for other people, like me, get left behind. I’m sticking with it though, because i like being me and not a hypocrite. I have a ton of people who I consider “school friends”, people who I am friends with in school and such, but only a few people who i hang out with a lot.
Basically, it doesn’t matter how many friends you have, you just need some, or else I believe you miss out greatly on the social aspect of life</p>

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<p>If you want to take out a student loan, you need I think, 4 references.</p>

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<p>Bdangle, thank you for replying and posting respectfully.</p>

<p>I am, however, going to have to strongly disagree. Friends aren’t necessary in life, PEOPLE are. Just because you share a few laughs, go to places with him or her, or whatever, doesn’t necessarily constitute that person as a friend. There’s a different between friends and acquaintances. I have a lot of acquaintances but very few friends (I’m 18 and the number of friends I have I can count on both hands, and I’m in college). However, the friends I do have are actual friends (there my HS friends and I <3 em, LOL). I can count on them and I know years down the road, we will still be close because we all make the effort to keep in touch with each other and keep each other in the loop of our lives.</p>

<p>I have a different philosophy when it comes to friends. I don’t just call anyone a friend, to be a friend, you have to show me over time that you are such. </p>

<p>Furthermore, I think it needs to be accepted that in life, people will come and go (I’m not singling you out, Bdangle, I’m talking more general here). One is going to have great times with people, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to keep in contact with that person forever. Relationships will fade, but the true friendships won’t fade. </p>

<p>So in all, I don’t think “friends” are needed, I think people are needed. If I didn’t have the friends I have now, my family would be keeping me sane. If I didn’t have my family or friends, I would not be sane. LOL. </p>

<p>I just think making friends in College is a bit overrated. People have told me that “you can make life long friends there” but so can you everywhere else. I feel I made life long friends in High School, and though it’s early, I don’t feel I made any life long friends in College as of yet. People have to remember, life doesn’t end after College. It’s not like it’s going to be “okay, you’ve graduated college and now you’re going to die…hope you made some great friends!”, there’s life after college. You make friends through going to the gym, friends of friends, friends of family, volunteers, websites, activities, work, etc. </p>

<p>Also, what about the people who didn’t go to College? I’m pretty sure they have friends and aren’t hermits. LOL</p>

<p>*Sorry Bdangle, I went off on a tangent. Not all of this is directed towards you, but rather me just speaking out loud in general. LOL</p>

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<p>Sounds like you fit right into the impersonal society America fosters.</p>

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<p>do you need enemies? I believe destroying your enemies in battle is the most noble and meaningful thing in life, and the only path to heaven.</p>

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<p>You should get friends because rolling deep is fun.</p>

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<p>Nah. I’ve got the friends I need back home. I’ll be riding solo like Jason Derulo at college. :D</p>

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<p>Once you reach a certain point in life, your best friends are your spouse and your kids. You don’t have time for too much else. I am very friendly with several of my colleagues; I would definitely consider them friends; yet we do next to nothing outside of work. (One friend and I like to chat in the parking lot after work, and we take each other out for birthdays and stay in touch via email, but that’s about it. Another colleague and I take lunch-time walks around the company campus when the weather is fine. And we chat at work and go out to lunch sometimes. But, again, that’s it.)</p>

<p>It’s not that our society is impersonal. It’s that we’re really time-starved. If there were more than 24 hours in a day, then I could both bond with my spouse and bond with my friends. But there isn’t, so I can’t. I love my friends, but I cannot hang out with them a lot. Just can’t.</p>

<p>Now, I admit that it’s very different in college. But, even there, time is limited (there are these things called classes, from what I’m told). And there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. Introverts have a way of finding extroverts to marry. Or, rather, the extroverts find them. (Just ask DH the Shy Guy.) It all works out in the end. :)</p>

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<p>^ I think that highly, highly depends on the family. In fact, I know almost nobody like that off the top of my head. My parents both socialize heavily outside of marriage and have as long as I can remember- and they have one of the best marriages I know of. </p>

<p>Generally, people have as much time as they make. Some people simply have more time for friends and such than others and some people just make it a priority. I have a full courseload plus a few jobs and I run a non-profit so people assume I have no social life. However, I make having friends a priority in life. I will forgo a few hours of studying to hang out with friends because honestly, it is better for me to study some and then be relaxed and have good relationships than constantly working and studying. It is what enables me to do the rest. If you can balance all that without a social life and without losing your mind, then more power to ya! I am not one of those people.</p>