Do I ask this girl out now?

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<p>While interviewing for a transfer acceptance I met a girl who was also interviewing that day. I met her and we became good friends and have constantly talked since for a couple months. She's friendly and sociable, and we both start conversations via Facebook and texting. I really like her, and definitely want to be close with her in August when we both go to the new school. She then went to accepted transfer student days where she met some other accepte who she became close with. According to her, he asked her out to do something on campus that a lot of students do for fun and she seemed excited when she told me. </p>

<p>We still talk and are friendly and say we are going to hang out next year (not sure on the success rate of friends met before one enrolls carrying over to friendliness as full-time students, but I really like her). But should I ask her out now (for aug/sept) like thr other kid did to let her know that I like her romantically? She probably has an idea as we talk a lot, but I am honestly really bad with knowing when girls like me (idk what they usually say and do and stuff). Or should I wait until August and hope she likes me and isn't constantly dating/exclusive with another guy?</p>

<p>Thanks.</p>

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<p>How long have you known her? Does she ever flirt with you? Does she smile a lot when she’s around you? If the answer is yes, I would ask her out.</p>

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<p>Probably should do it now, although there’s a decent chance that you’ve already been put into the friend zone.</p>

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<p>Why do guys hate to be “just friends”? D had a best bud, like a brother, but after a year he wanted to date/have a romantic relationship and he issued an “all or nothing” ultimatum. Ironically D did not want to date because not romantically attracted and also never wanted to worry about "breaking up with this very close friend. So now what was a very special friendship is “nothing” and it broke their friendship up anyway.</p>

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<p>Thanks everyone. Ive known her for about four months and we talk 5-6 days a week. Maybe I should talk to her less and make her want me/not take me for granted? Or should I stay on her radar? Last time I didnt text her for 3 days she texted me. She does make fun of me a bit (I think that’s flirting) and has called me love once a week ago. Are there any other sigs to look for? I called her on Tuesday and everytime I made a lot of fun of her she jokingly hung up. When I was with her back In January she did give me a hug, probably not saying much, but it can’t be a bad thing.</p>

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<p>Eh. I say if you like her, then just go ahead and ask her out.</p>

<p>If you two aren’t good like that or if she isn’t interested in you like that, it’s still early enough on in the relationship where things might be a little awkward for a bit, but your friendship would not be completely ruined.</p>

<p>For what it’s worth, I’m a girl, and I’m not a fan of the friend’s zone either. Sucks when you really like one of your best friends and then they have absolutely no problem going to you for all of their girl troubles.</p>

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<p>thanks! Any suggestion on how to ask her out? It seems kinda early to ask a girl on a date, so how would I go about that? Like hey wanna do this with me on one of the first weeks? Or something else?</p>

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<p>Also, would it be best to do this now or wait a little until the summer?</p>

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<p>and lastly, do you think I was friendzoned?</p>

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<p>Unless he like boys, then he can have all the girl friends he wants.</p>

<p>But it is always awkward when that happens 2bornot2bivy…</p>

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<p>^ya it can be awkward</p>

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<p>I hope that was a joke.</p>

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<p>Not all guys are like that. I have a few close friends who are girls and it is great. I wouldn’t have it any other way. </p>

<p>We’ve gone on trips together, stayed over at each other place, etc. </p>

<p>Come to think of it, all of my guy friends have friends who are girls so it’s not all that uncommon.</p>

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<p>You’ve known her for 4 months. If you like her, make a move now and don’t wait. </p>

<p>It might be uncomfortable if she doesn’t like you romantically, but you won’t know if you don’t tell her. She might feel the same way.</p>

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<p>From personal experience:</p>

<p>Its always good to be up front as possible. See if your energies match up, if she responds well, begin hinting at liking her, if all goes well, then do the asking. </p>

<p>Problem is when a guy drags his feet, there is a chance that she did like him at first but moved on since he assumed he wasn’t interested. </p>

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<p>Another guy beats you to the punch. That is the thing (from the guys pov) is that if you don’t act, there is a good change another guy will act for you. Which the jealously emerges and you have no one to be mad at except yourself!</p>

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<p>Thanis everyone. So it seems like I should act now and ask her out for Sept, any advice/tips?</p>

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<p>What do you mean ask her out for September? You mean you’re going to ask her now if she wants to go out in September? That doesn’t make any sense at all.</p>

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<p>I say-ask her out. What do you have to lose? It might mean that things will get uncomfortable between the two of you if she does not want to go out. I guess if that is a concern then you should think about whether you would really regret not being friends.</p>

<p>If you think that you might not be close friends at school then you should definitely ask her out. The best couple hookups are those that start out as friends. When you are friends first, you are more knowledgeable about each other and you know that there are things that you will like about each other and the annoying habits.</p>

<p>If she has been telling you about her friends that are single and wants to set you up with a friend then she probably doesn’t want to date. But when she told you that she was excited that the other guy asked her out it could be her way of trying to get you to do the same.</p>