<p>Hey. I'm a sophomore in college and ever since the year started, I've been having a lot of emotional problems. They've gotten so bad that I'm not able to study or really do anything but just sit around feeling depressed. I've taken up binge eating as a coping mechanism, sometime destroying multiple pints of ice cream in a single sitting (luckily I'm an athlete and have a fast metabolism). Basically, I'm really depressed that I've never had a girl in my life (I'm a guy, just to be clear). Occasionally (very rarely), I'll see someone I like and then I'll be thinking about her for weeks; 9 times out of 10 I won't even know the girl's name. I feel really pathetic writing this, but basically I'll feel really happy whenever she looks at me or walks by me, but I'll never talk to her for fear of being rejected. It usually ends poorly, with me finding out that she's already in a relationship or that she likes someone else. When this happens, all hell breaks loose and I literally eat everything in sight and go sleepless for the night. If she has a boyfriend, I'll often feel really annoyed if he's bad looking, wondering what he has that I don't. I know I sound ridiculous here: she doesn't even know me and I've never even spoken to her; that's the problem. Another troubling this is that a lot of girls like me, but I don't like them. The girls I like are always the ones I don't have any classes or activities with. My friends don't really know what to say and I don't want to talk to my parents about it. Basically, I'm really selective and have no confidence since I've got no prior experience, so I'm unsure as to how to handle this. Should I try talking to my college's counselor? In the past, I've tried to prevent myself from falling for any girls for this reason, but I can't really bottle up my feelings any more.</p>
<p>Definitely. Counselors are there for you to talk to, to help. It’s their job, and most would be glad that you chose to seek their help. If it helps, I am nearly twenty-one and have never had a boyfriend, never had a kiss 
You aren’t the only one!</p>
<p>It never hurts to talk to the school counselor for any reason.</p>