<p>Donna L:</p>
<p>I completely agree that things can change for the better - and I did emphasize that this was one kid. </p>
<p>However, to me that means that if I had a gay child, I would investigate that school a little more closely than another school. I think Pug is doing the right thing in helping her son find a place where he will be comfortable and safe - and also agree with Missypie that visiting school during the school year is very important. If it were me, I contact the gay organization on campus and make a point of meeting with gay students as a part of the visit. I would have my son/daughter spend a couple of extra hours on campus in the evening, hanging out in the student union, ideally seeing the campus life with some fellow gay students.</p>