<p>Yes... too many gifts will turn it into something that is expected and lose meaning.</p>
<p>I will say that one thing that doesn't get mentioned in the whole "who should pay?" debate is that it really depends on what kind of girl you're dating. I think girls who know the value of a dollar and have been taking care of themselves for awhile probably wouldn't mind splitting the bill. Girls who are used to being sheltered and taken care of, on the other hand...</p>
<p>Jason has a very good point. </p>
<p>Some people are just oblivious to the fact that there are people who don't get everything handed to them and work hard for everything they do get...or feel a sense of entitlement that's just plain selfish.</p>
<p>As for the who should pay debate, I always just pay even if they say they want to. Even if the girl is somehow quick/sly enough to pay, just slip her cash in their purse she's not looking. It really does give you a lot of bonus points if you're just starting to date.</p>
<p>I agree laserprecision that it's definitely a nice touch when the guy pays in the beginning... but after two or three dates let the girl reciprocate and pay if she so desires (don't ask her about it, but if she offers to pay, let her). I know for myself that if the guy pays for everything and feels obligated to do so, I start to feel guilty. Yes, there are girls out there who like to have their bf pay for everything, but there are also those who like taking turns... after all, why can't girls treat guys to dinner too?</p>
<p>I feel SO uncomfortable if when I am with any girl they pay for themselves. It seems so bummy. Whenever I go somewhere with my friend I feel I have to pay for her and the time I don't is when it is physically impossible. When girls pay for a meal, I feel like a guy on welfare living in his baby mommas house.</p>
<p>Gifts are different though. Gifts make someone feel special so I don't feel bad to get a gift.</p>
<p>If she digs you pay, if not dutch is the way to go or make her pay. Because if she doesn't dig you it's probably because your inner wuss is showing. </p>
<p>Pay for her if she digs you, if she doesn't don't waste your money and definitely don't try to buy her more stuff, that's just creepy.</p>
<p>If you can't tell if she digs you, she doesn't.</p>
<p>Become a student of human moves, if you can't tell if someone is interested in you by their body language, voice tone, and such you need to pay attention. Verbal is only 5% of communication, body language is everything. Words can be chosen carefully with logic, the body cannot be controlled because it runs much deeper. If her body is giving you all the signs, it is up to you to make a move. She wants you to, and she won't respect you if you don't.</p>
<p>Do you mean like presents or just things like food? When we go out to eat or anything like that my bf usually pays because he has a job and I don't. When I have my own money I pay for me. On the rare occasion I have money and he doesn't, I pay for him. It has nothing to do with gender. We're both poor students and we're both as generous with each other as we can be. He's paid for me to go see movies and all but that's because I'm usually broke.</p>
<p>As for gifts, he gave me a 50 cent bracelet as a joke once. I didn't get anything for my birthday because I don't care and I knew it would be really uncomfortable for him to try and pick something out. He did buy me lunch on my birthday though. I'd feel uncomfortable accepting fancy gifts from him, I like the things I get, it doesn't really matter what they are I don't need objects to understand he loves me. I like when he burns me CDs or whatever but I don't really care about getting lots of things.</p>
<p>my girlfriend considers of me.when i buy some beautiful clothes for her.she always refuse them.it affected me</p>
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