<p>what is your situation like? do boys always buy stuff for their GFs? if you make out or hook up, who will pay the bill? are boys "supposed" to pay for girls?</p>
<p>Reading your question makes me think you are in H.S this is College Life.</p>
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<p>Well, the boy will, if the girl gets pregnant. But that's beside the point.</p>
<p>I think that you'll find some interesting responses in this thread:</p>
<p>"Should a guy always pay?"</p>
<p>birth control maybe....but if she gets pregnant u could always dump her</p>
<p>The person who asked the other out should pay in the beginning. Eventually, I think the guy and girl should trade off the bill for dates (or do something like he'll pay for dinner, she'll pay for movies, he'll pay for blah, blah...)...unless the guy has some sort of complex about the girl paying. Then it's his issue to deal with.</p>
<p>I never buy anything for a girl unless I'm getting some play, and when I do buy them something its really inexpensive. They want equality, well they can get a job. My sex life actually went up after I stopped paying for girls too; I think it builds interest when they think you don't like them enough to pay for them when you go out.</p>
<p>Honestly, guys don't buy things for their girlfriends because...we can't relate to the desire to have other people give us things. </p>
<p>I don't know any guy who needs little trinkets and symbolic gifts that show love and affection. We just aren't hard-wired that way. Eventually we put two and two together, but even then we're only doing it because we know she likes it.</p>
<p>Also, re: who should pay. It would seem fair to say that whomever offers to go on the date should pay. But...framing that in a social context...how many women seriously ask guys on dates? There are plenty of women who don't do it on principle; there are some who don't do because they don't have to. So really it's still a rule, even though people are trying to move it away from that, that the guy has to pay.</p>
<p>good point... yeah I hate getting gifts makes me feel wierd and uncomfortable... I really cannot relate to girls wanting gifts...</p>
<p>Are you talking about paying for dinner on dates or random "I saw this in the store and thought you would like it so I bought it" stuff? I've never thought that anyone "should" buy something for someone else if it's not a birthday or holiday, and the only time I remember other people thinking that was in high school. Personally I would be worried that people giving me "spontaneous" gifts expect to get something in return (and not another gift). My prom date gave me a gift once, which made me spend the next 2 months freaking out that the "going just as friends" arrangement wasn't made quite clear enough, and he was expecting something other than that.</p>
<p>I have this friend who is always buying random stuff for her boyfriend, almost every time we go into a store, she buys something for him. I'd say out of the stuff I've ever personally witnessed her purchase in the past 4 years, aside from food, about 75% of it is for her boyfriend, 10% of it is for other random family members, and 15% of it is for her. It's weird. She spends like $300-$400 on buying stuff for his birthday and then again for Christmas, and then probably that much over again in random things throughout the year. I know he takes her to concerts and dinners but I don't recall her ever mentioning anything about something he bought her. I wonder if it's some sort of weird motherly instincts thing...she doesn't have a kid to spoil so she buys s**t for him instead.</p>
<p>Yeah you should buy her stuff, but the level of purchases varies widely...one of my recent ex's spent several thousand on random gifts but I did the same so it evened out.</p>
<p>Birthdays? Sure. Christmas? Sure. Valentine's Day? Sure. In general, no.</p>
<p>Ok for 1) Guys should normally pay and 2) Girls should normally accept the gratitude and thank them, unless shes really into that whole equality thing but than again who dates those kind of girls anyways?
right right? No, Im just kidding :)
Or you could stick with astrife, cheapy</p>
<p>well nakedgirl, it's polite, and gentlemanLY xD, to buy something to their gf's. Or pay the bill, w.e</p>
<p>I think guys should buy stuff for their girlfriends once in a while out of politeness, but they shouldn't pay for stuff ALL the time.</p>
<p>also, the girls should not take advantage... rofl =P</p>
<p>You can buy stuff, but only when it is warranted and meaningful.</p>
<p>Do not buy a girl flowers and candy or either on your first date, talk about trying too hard. </p>
<p>You are putting her on a pedestal, it is only going to make her uncomfortable cause she can never live up to it. </p>
<p>Listen and when her birthday or Christmas comes around, you can get her something that means something, not just stuff.</p>
<p>If you buy her some stuff, no matter the price, she will not remember you.</p>
<p>If you buy her something meaningful, she will never forget.</p>
<p>On dates: Whoever asked on a first date should probably pay for it. After that, it should be fairly evenly split between the two people unless one person feels strongly that they want to pay. I tend to feel uncomfortable having someone buy me stuff. It makes me feel good to take someone on a date. I'm a girl BTW (although, I often date girls so perhaps that is different). It shouldn't have to do with being a guy or a girl or getting action versus not. If someone's dating you for your money, you should not be dating in the first place.</p>
<p>As for birthdays, Valentine's day, etc. I would think that both the girl and the guy would buy each other gifts..</p>
<p>i think not. i think it should be the other way around. girls should buy guys stuff. </p>
<p>my role model is salvador dali cuz he was in love with himself. glorified unrestrained sex, complete weirdness...although i dislike the part where he had sexual fantasies about hitler</p>
<p>btw, dali kind of looks like the actor adrian brody</p>
<p>just go dutch</p>
<p>Personally (as a girl), I find gifts to be a nice touch... but ONLY for special occasions/a spontaneous decision. It's a bit weird (and makes the girl feel guilty) if you show up with a gift on every date. I'd recommend reserving gifts for special occasions. </p>
<p>A personal example (in case "special occasions" isn't clear): my former bf was quite good at all this when we were dating. Both he and I saw no need to give one another a gift for every month we dated/every time we saw one another (long distance relationship). Instead, we reserved gifts for special events such as his/my proms and his graduation. We also gave one another the occasional spontaneous gift or two... for example, he brought me flowers to surprise me the first time he came up to visit and I brought him back something from Europe when I went over there for two weeks during a vacation. </p>
<p>The moral of the story: gifts are a nice touch and can add specialness/spontiniety to a situation, but should not be overused.</p>
<p>Also, in relations to the other point on this thread, it's only fair to take turns paying for dates... that is, unless one party feels strongly that he/she MUST be the one to pay (surprising, considering the usual student budget isn't high, but it happens).</p>