<p>I treat any girl that deserves respect like a princess. If she makes no overt try to be mean or whatnot, I will open doors and whatnot for them.</p>
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<p>And to the OP, of course I treat girls differently. I don't know a guy who doesn't. I always try to hold doors and what not, guy or girl, but if I see it's a girl I will definitely wait that extra few seconds. I don't know why really, it's just engrained in me to be nicer to girls. That's not to say I can't disagree/argue with my girlfriend, but I would never be as harsh as I would be if she were a guy.</p>
<p>Duh. Of course. I imagine that the people saying no are really trying to say that they aren't demeaning.</p>
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<p>Good luck with such a screenname!
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<p>I've never heard anyone say that there is such a thing called a "p word".
:rolleyes:</p>
<p>being with a girl only escalates my temptation to use fart humor</p>
<p>See, as a female, as much as I wanted to be treated <em>special</em>, I want to be treated as an equal. I love the concept of southern manners but I always get the feeling that those things are being done because guys feel that women are inferior and they need to be treated differently from men. I expect to be treated with respect whether you're a woman or man... I'll come out and say it, I'm a big prude. I am really attentive to manners and most of my friends know to not to fart, burp, slurp their food, put their elbows on the table, curse excessively, etc in front of me. It's just a matter of how I was raised... I don't see that doing those things represents the type of person I want to be.</p>
<p>its not at all that we think yall are inferior... we just think that yall shouldnt have to do certain things, not that yall cant</p>
<p>I appreciate any effort a guy goes to to treat me with respect! There is nothing wrong with wanting to be treated as an intellectual equal and still have a guy show you some manners. </p>
<p>I really hate when guys are a**holes. It is so trashy for guys to act like they are with their frat brothers when they are hanging out with girls. I don't expect to be treated like a princess who can't handle a swear word, but please, save the fart jokes and explicit sexual talk for later! </p>
<p>I personally think guys who have gone to all-boys school are the epitomy of how men should act. They understand basic manners that so many guys are lacking. </p>
<p>Most girls are just looking for basic signs of respect: hold open the door, pay for the first date or so, and tone down the language a little bit. If guys would follow those simple rules, they wouldn't have to look so hard for a girlfriend!</p>
<p>i dunno, i'd prefer for a guy to treat me exactly the same. Crude talking and fart jokes don't bother me at all, whereas i would be bothered for being treated differently just because of my gender.</p>
<p>really, to each his [or in this case, her] own. some girls prefer guys who do open the door, act [somewhat more] polite around them, and abstain from fart jokes and whatnot. personally, the fart jokes, crude talking, as long as its not 24/7 or the only topic under discussion, isnt so bad. and i like a guy who goes slightly out of his way to be nice to a girl, like holding the door. besides that, id rather be treated the exact same, not inferior, say, in intellect or something like that.</p>
<p>I love it when guys open doors for me, etc. I think I should move down south!</p>
<p>what is with people thinking opening a door for someone is unique to the south? I have lived in the south all my life and clemsboro needs to stop making stuff up. First of all he says "we" like all southern guys are gentlemen. 9 times out of 10 these southern guys will be some frat guy jerks who are just worried about the next football game and getting laid. Why in the world any of you take him seriously is beyond me. I'm assuming from his name he's talking about Clemson. Well Clemson included in my generalization, as well as auburn, uga, and any other large school of that type. Don't move to the south if you value individuality, because it's extremely homogenius down here. If you go to UGA, about every girl will be the blonde/brunette skinny pretty stereotype, acting the same and doing the same stuff. Same with the guys mostly being of one type.</p>
<p>neobez, I agree that there are alot of southern generalizations being made but maybe that's the impression that most get when they visit. When I toured Clemson and U of SC I was shocked by how proper/polite the guys were. When I visited schools in Boston, guys were nice, but I felt more like I was being treated as an equal and special considerations weren't being made because of my gender.</p>
<p>k first of all of all, I admit I do treat girls differently, mostly due to a comfort issue cuz I know my guy friends better. I'm shyer around people I don't know as well, so I treat most girls different not because they are girls, but just because I don't know them as well.</p>
<p>The question I want to ask is why do so many girls EXPECT to be treated different, a.k.a. "better", from guys? I'm not really referring to when you're courting, because that brings on different rules of engagement and such, but when you're just in a big group of friends hanging out or whatever. If the guy was trying to get something going, then obviously there'd be different interaction.</p>
<p>The part I want an answer to is why girls need to be put on this pedestal to be considered "respected"? (I know some of you gals have stated that you don't need/want that, so I'm addressing those that disagree with my position.) If guys are supposed to truly consider men and women equal in their heads, why is something that's fine with their male friends suddenly need to be toned down to be suitable for their female companions? If someone can guide me through the logical reasoning as to why it isn't contradictory when women are fighting for equality and yet expected to be treated differently when it benefits them, I will apologize and change my philosophy.</p>
<p>Again, this isn't saying that I treat all girls like crap, cuz I don't. I just don't see the need to change my ways specifically around girls. Hmmm... after reading through the thread again, I don't see that many people with this thinking, but I guess I'm just asking this as a generic question because it's what I see in real life heh =P</p>
<p>ah! shadownife, thank goodness there are some guys like you...
people who expect women to be both "equals" and treated differently make me a little bit angry...</p>
<p>Finally someone said it. I hate that as well. It's a bunch of hypocrisy. A bunch of ******** in my book. You can't be treated equal but differently.</p>
<p>This may be a little off but one of the things that has always disturbed me is when I'm in the bus and you see all these women sitting down and men standing up. Well unless that woman is old or pregnant she can freakin stand for all I care, and that's only if there aren't any other open seats around. One thing I hate is when there are seats open but the woman stands right in front of where you're sitting expecting you to stand up when there's an open seat elsewhere.</p>
<p>And don't assume I don't have manners and that I don't know how to treat a girl. I do. I just don't stand for crap where they expect guys to do things they don't do in return.</p>
<p>Then they expect to hit us and us not hit them back. To hell with that I'll........ok I'm just kidding with this last part lol.</p>
<p>hah!!! Brown v. Board!!! yeah!!! take down that Sweat v. Painter!
no such thing as separate but equal!!
(okay, sorry...)</p>
<p>I don't think girls want to be treated differently in the sense that guys have to act totally different around them, but personally I think stuff like opening doors is common courtesy. I must say the bus thing is a bit extreme though.</p>
<p>I always thought it was funny how different guys act around girls than around guys. guys usually are way more open and more vulnerable to girls than they are to guys.. I guess this is just a stereo type and i'm sure not all guys are in this mold, but guys just seem more likely to talk about problems and stuff with girls than with other guys.. you know, gotta be manly or something. </p>
<p>and i hate it when they act different like dont' swear or tell dirty jokes or this or that or when they think you don't want to play something just because youre a girl. I like to play football just as much as the guy next door. and if you let me play QB, you'll get a perfect spiral right in the chest 9/10 times. Too bad people don't let me play QB often. (probably because guys throw a lot farther than I can. Cause you know... you'd much rather have someone throw the ball who can overthrow the runners and waste a down as opposed to someone who can put the ball right where they want it in the arms of the reciever.)</p>
<p>Man I love football.</p>
<p>I just went on vacation with 11 friends in May, and I can't tell you how many fart jokes I heard from the guys while we were there. It was great that we were all relaxed on the same page and nobody was trying to impress each other. And football on the beach was awesome. :)</p>
<p>usually if i go somewhere with guy friends, they hold the door, and i go through and i hold the next door for them (if there is two doors). I think that works well. .</p>