Pickin up chicks: different in college compared to highschool

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<p>Ok, so i've had some time to think about this now that finals have been over for a while and i don't need to take a step onto campus until hell freezes over.</p>

<p>In highschool, i had good experiences with girls and i enjoyed loving relationships. From what i've heard from my ex's, i'm a "smart, funny, energetic guy who's full of spirit and potential". Ok.... i'll take their word for it.</p>

<p>No, my personality hasn't changed during my first year in college (i actually became a tad bit more mature... probably from studying stress..... stress tones you down ya know?). But in college, i'm having difficulty even STARTING relationships.</p>

<p>I can somewhat see the problem arising from me concentrating too much on studying (although that is what college is for). I'm not part of a frat or anything, and i rarely go to any full-fledged parties (except the occasional celebration drinking contests me and the buddies have after huge exams). So i guess i'm not opening myself to the nonacademic parts of college enough to interact with girls in the first place.</p>

<p>But you see, i don't want to switch around my lifestyle so drastically that i screw up academically. </p>

<p>Nah, i'm not that desperate. I just need some love you know? (just to clear things up ;) )</p>

<p>and what kind of <em>in signs do i look for? in highschool, i can find alot of time to talk with girls, get to know them, hang out, etc. You know the drill... she and you makes eye contact, both smile, find a chance to talk, get to know her, blah blah blah. But in college, it's like... </em><em>..... you're walking across campus to your next class and you see a hot girl pass by but you can't do *</em>* cause it seems like you're both in a hurry to an exam or something. It seems like college is so effin tense that no chick is loose enough to just perk up and atleast talk.</p>

<p>So how can i balance academics with chix? i'm not asking how i can become more social because i have a lot of dude friends, but only a few lady friends (all of whom i'm not sexually/romantically interested in).</p>

<p>and please do not reply with anything that has to do with "PARTIES PARTIES PARTIES" cause i've been to parties and wow, fun, but so *****in distracting! It's like crack... you do it once, and you have do it over and over again! </p>

<p>oh yah, and i'm asian, and i'm looking for asian chix.... incase that makes a difference???</p>

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<p>I had a similar problem my first year of college. I'd see girls in the cafeteria or something but there was simply no way to get to know them. What I've decided is that the best way to meet girls is through clubs or other events. For instance, I'm really interested in environmental issues. So I would keep an eye out for girls at these events and it ended up working pretty well. It's better than using parties because you already have something to talk about and you both know that you're interested in a similar subject.</p>

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<p>there's only so many ways to meet women. Through friends, in class, cold approach, and you already said no parties.</p>

<p>I don't think that your focus on academics is impeding anything. You just seem too timid.</p>

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<p>Yeah. I've gotten numbers off cold approaches on the street, in the laundry room, and in the elevator just by introducing myself and talking. Girls will reward you for just having some balls.</p>

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<p>yeah, it never hurts to at least ask. i'll pretty much never flat-out refuse a guy unless he's super sketchy. if some guy i'm not interested in comes up to me and wants to dance, i'll at least give him a song. and i don't really guard my phone number with my life either, especially with a few shots in me haha.</p>

<p>i will add, though, that the guys i met this year at parties, hooked up with (in various senses of the word), and then tried to date never worked out. i met my boyfriend in class and we talked every day for like 3 months before ever dating. it was an important lesson to be learned. haha</p>

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<p>Be more selective in your putting-outtage?</p>

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<p>I think the best advice would be: Don't actively pursue anyone. It will just happen.</p>

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<p>ouch easy. i'm going to ask a girl out tomorrow for lunch/dinner. and next week another girl. wish me luck</p>

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<p>Let us/me know how it goes. I asked out and went out to dinner with a girl last night. </p>

<p>I'd say I let up three earned runs, scattering six hits over seven innings. Decent outing, but not my best. </p>

<p>In any case, she's not as hot or smart as my ex. Bleh.</p>

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<p>Screw intelligence. It's not like you're gonna marry the girl, right?</p>

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<p>Right... and of course looks are paramount, but ceteris paribus, smart is still better than dumb.</p>

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<p>I would hate to date a dumb girl. Maybe a fling but the girl needs to have some kind of intelligence. Although I find it cute when a girl who is smart but has no common sense. And okay easy i will. She's like 3 years older than me though...maybe she's easy.</p>

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<p>I've got no time for dumb chicks. I mean, maybe if I was really desperate or something, but for the most part I've gotta agree with Henry Rollins:</p>

<p>YouTube</a> - Henry Rollins - Women</p>

<p>minus the drinking part</p>

<p>I think the best advice would be: Don't actively pursue anyone. It will just happen.</p>

<p>That mindset is why 20+ year old virgins exist. As a guy, unless you're way too good looking, you're going to have to pursue if you want to regularly date, or whatever.</p>

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<p>My only requirement as of now is to be at least a 7/8 out of 10 when it comes to looks (and be a girl of course... a girl by means of birth!). I'm as shallow as they come. Plus, usually when they're dumb they're much more easily entertained lol.</p>

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<p>I 2nd Russell's quote. It's not likely to "just happen" in college.</p>

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<p>i can't deal with dumb guys..i want a boy who's super smart or i get bored.</p>

<p>i dated this hardcore stoner for like a month this year and he was so stupid that by the end it was pretty much a joke between me and my friends. for a long time i didn't notice because i was always really blazed, too, but one night i didn't smoke with him and finally realized, "what the f--- am i doing?" </p>

<p>he also didn't know a thing about politics aside from drug legislation and kissed me on our campus in public after telling me i was "good for him" and invited me to come to europe with him on his parents' tab after we'd been casually dating for only like two weeks..scary scary scary</p>

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<p>hey free trip.</p>

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<p>It's not even that I get bored with a dumb chick; I'm just not that attracted to them to begin with. There's chicks that I can acknowledge as good looking, but I'm not attracted to because they aren't smart. There are also chicks that aren't great looking, but are attractive because of their intelligence. Mind you I'm still pretty pick with appearance.</p>

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<p>It'll change this year. Freshman guys never get any, anyway. As a former freshman girl, I can pretty safely say that when it came down to the 18-year-old freshman versus the 20-year-old junior, the older, "more mature" man easily won out. But next year, you'll be the "older guy" to a whole new class of women...I think your bad luck probably had more to do with your age than anything else.</p>

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<p>Yeah right. I probably had the most success in freshman year. I haven't felt any advantage being in 2nd or 3rd year.</p>

<p>His bad "luck" had little (if anything) to do with his age.</p>