<p>Why can't they just be straightforward and tell you what's on their mind???? To me, they seem to be emotionally confused individuals who don't know what they want in life.</p>
<p>Lol nice generalization there...certainly can't apply to any guys I know...nope, not at all</p>
<p>you mean to tell me that many girls are emotionally confused and reactionary? NO WAY</p>
<p>I second MightyNick's statement.</p>
<p>Dude, I never said reactionary. Problem is, they never tell you what's on their mind. They keep everything within (like if they like you or hate you). I mean, if i'm being a jerk i'd like them to tell me so i can stop acting like a weirdo. But if they think i'm funny and a jerk at the same time, i dont know what to do....carry on acting like that or should i stop. I see loads of guys acting like jerks all the time and the girls think its funny. So i get the impression that's cool and i try to act like these guys. But behind their back these girls are like "oh, he's such a jerk". So that leaves me confused. </p>
<p>Also, I hate it when you crack a really funny joke and the girl goes "okayyy" or "what"??? #(<em>(%&#</em>@_(%&</p>
<p>Just be yourself?</p>
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<p>That's the biggest myth I've ever heard. It never works.</p>
<p>Haha sorry but in my experience, guys are the same, if not WORSE! Clearly you're basing your generalization on a few girls you've met...because most of the girls I know are pretty damn honest!</p>
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<li><p>what you describe seems to be a situation where the girls may not be interested in/like you (maybe)</p></li>
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<p>many girls do like guys that act like jerks, but it can be a delicate balance</p>
<p>being yourself is always a good way to go if you want a real relationship, if not then i guess you can keep trying to perfect the jerk act (obviously many have and use it as a manipulation tool of sorts)</p>
<p>Works for me. Besides, what are you looking for? Just to impress girls? Sure, imitating other people would work. But are you just going to be someone else for the rest of your life? Yeah all this sounds very cliche but I find it to be true.</p>
<p>I'm pretty good at the whole letting a guy know he's being a jerk part...it's the putting myself out there about having a thing for them is what gets me. I have a really hard time opening up because of some stuff that's happened in my past with guys. </p>
<p>That could have something to do with your problems with girls. It's not easy to be open after being burned, you know...and we're just as afraid of rejection as guys are.</p>
<p>Guys are no better at letting girls know what's on their minds, though. It sucks for everyone.</p>
<p>If I were just myself, I'd be the most boring, introverted person on earth...and eventually a 75 year old virgin. Lots of people try to change themselevs. But when people say that you should just be yourself, I think that is completely wrong. You have to change yourself a lot of the times to make people like you...aka adjustment. </p>
<p>And I dont tend to be offensive, but the mindset of many girls is that there should be this "perfect guy" who understands her all the time. They're not willing to change themselves for the guy. For example....they want guys to start the conversation, be polite, considerate, funny, cute/hot etc. They expect too much!! And when guys do sometimes come out of their shells and start conversing, girls thing they're being too flirty or have bad intentions etc.</p>
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<p>I could care less about impressing girls. I'm just talking about being really good friends here, and eventually more than that. </p>
<p>I asked my dad and he said he became a totally different person when he met my mom. </p>
<p>But anyway, I'm trying to say that girls are never straightforward. Oh btw, I hate it when girls flirt on facebook, when they never actually mean anything.</p>
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<p>That could have something to do with your problems with girls. It's not easy to be open after being burned, you know...and we're just as afraid of rejection as guys are.</p>
<p>Guys are no better at letting girls know what's on their minds, though. It sucks for everyone.
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<p>Yep, I know your story. </p>
<p>I think its tougher for guys because we get all sorts of mixed signals from girls and we dont know what to expect. Most guys however are straightforward when it comes to "what the want".</p>
<p>Girls suck? NO WAY!</p>
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And I dont tend to be offensive, but the mindset of many girls is that there should be this "perfect guy" who understands her all the time. They're not willing to change themselves for the guy. For example....they want guys to start the conversation, be polite, considerate, funny, cute/hot etc. They expect too much!! And when guys do sometimes come out of their shells and start conversing, girls thing they're being too flirty or have bad intentions etc.
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<p>Not always true. The more I learn about and hang out with the guy I'm currently going after, the more attractive he gets. Even his nerdy little quircks and our silly competitions and play fights make me smile :) Usually that kind of stuff just irritates me because the guy can't keep up with me (he actually makes it hard for me to keep up for a change) or takes my jokes/teasing too seriously. lol </p>
<p>But yeah, with most of the guys before him as I got to know them better, I just realized how totally wrong they were for me. You can't really blame someone for pulling away because they aren't interested...it'd be worse for them to stay and lead you on.</p>
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<p>Yeah, I think it's tougher for guys in a way because we expect y'all to make the move and initiate the actual relationship. I have to say, though, that unless I've just dealt with too many shy guys, what guys might see as straight-foward doesn't always come off so clearly to the girl. Remember, a lot of girls think that they make it pretty obvious when they're interested as well.</p>
<p>What's even worse if you start falling for someone who's taken =. Then you're in a pickle.</p>
<p>Until they break up, anyway :)</p>
<p>Dude, guys have been trying to figure women out for a long time. I've been trying to figure them out for a long time.</p>
<p>My advice to you: We'll never know all the answers so it's useless looking.</p>
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<p>Sounds like you should find a nice GUY to date. </p>
<p>I'm one of those girls that's always "one of the guys", but a lot of "chicks" just don't appreciate or understand male humor. </p>
<p>By the way. You want to understand women? We're tricky, but not impossible. Just pay attention to everything. It's not hard to tell when a girl's saying the opposite of what she feels or saying nothing when she wants to scream. Use your eyes, your ears, your gut, and for chrissake, use your brain.</p>