<p>No.
I dislike small humans.</p>
<p>Affirmative. My goal is to beat the couple from 19 kids and counting and hopefully get my own show. I want my future wife to have so many kids, that they eventually start walking out of her. jk.</p>
<p>I want my spouse to birth until a male is born. Ideally, male on the first try.
I just need someone with my last name to be my legacy.</p>
<p>“I want my future wife to have so many kids, that they eventually start walking out of her.”</p>
<p>Well, that was a mental image I didn’t need to contemplate.
It’s not like a daughter would <em>have to</em> change her name if she got married. I’d only change my name if my fiance’s name sounded better. xD</p>
<p>I’m getting married in a few months and not changing my name.
Nor will I ever.
And our kids are getting my last name (we’re in disagreement as to where my partner’s last name is going in our kids’ names). </p>
<p>I’m choosing career over kids but will still have or adopt 1 or 2.
It’s why I chose a partner who wants to be a stay-at-home parent. Huzzah :).</p>
<p>^ Oh my goodness…I’ve learned so much unsaid things about you in that post. Good Lord.</p>
<p>Well it’s clear who wears the pants in your relationship romani ;D
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…Clearly both of you, unless one of you really enjoys skirts.</p>
<p>He’d look better in a skirt than I would :o ;)</p>
<p>Good Jesus I am too slap happy atm.</p>
<p>I do want a husband.</p>
<p>Oh. Oh, yes.</p>
<p>I sounded just like romanigypsyeyes in my early 20s. Went on to quit work, have three kids, and stay at home! :)</p>
<p>Yeah, but ML, isn’t your husband all sorts of career-driven and ambitious? (In order to work in the field you guys are in, you almost HAVE to be ambitious and career-driven.)</p>
<p>I purposely chose one that wasn’t. If I was a SAHM, there would be no workin’ in our little family 
(I really can’t see my partner ever having a career. It’s just not in him to be ambitious. He’s happy as a clam to just work with kids for the rest of his life, and not in a way that could pay for OUR kids lol).</p>
<p>LOL, MaineLonghorn. If only all these kids know how many of THEIR parents said they didn’t want kids. My daughter says she is undecided. I file that under the “just smile and nod” catagory.</p>
<p>Romani, not all “families” have 2 parents. Mine is one, so obviously I was not a SAHM. Is there a reason you want him to be a SAHD?</p>
<p>My mom wanted lots of kids. </p>
<p>She got me and that’s it :D</p>
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<p><em>Sigh</em> Even on CC, a rather progressive forum, gender stereotypes continue to persist. Open your minds guys! Speaking as a guy, there is no division in roles between men and women. Each has equal capabilities and equal responsibilities. We shouldn’t let tradition stand in the way of opportunity and progress.</p>
<p>I’m not saying you guys are to blame, but I think it’s time that we change something. The indoctrination has gone far enough.</p>
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<p>I applaud you sir.</p>
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This is so not true. Both parents are equals in raising their children…but capabilities…really?</p>
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<p>Yes, I am well aware that not all families have two parents. Most of my friends growing up had only one (or three since many considered my parents parent 2 and 3.)</p>
<p>Yes, there is a reason. I had a stay at home parent for part of my life and I loved it. I like the model and it worked quite well for my family. I believe that I benefited quite a lot from my dad being home and would like that for my children. It’s really not complicated. I don’t care what choices other people make, but this is one of my dreams and the fact that I found a partner who wants to be a SAHD (that’s one of HIS life goals, long before he met me) is icing on the cake. I like the model of one career parent and one primarily SAHP. It’s a personal preference. As I want a career, the only way it would work is if I had a SAHP.</p>
<p>I also realize things change and many things are completely out of our hands. Trust me, my dad was never going to be a SAHD but a twist of life (and a drunk driver) made it so.</p>
<p>Thanks for the explanation Romani.</p>
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<p>Beyond biological differences, yes. I don’t think there should be any specific role for either men or women; it should be based on personal preference.</p>
<p>Are you trying to assert that one gender is more “capable” than another?</p>
<p>Well, you put aside biological difference, so no I’m not asserting that. </p>
<p>But with biological differences in there, one gender is certainly more capable than the other.</p>
<p>And in the case of adoption?</p>
<p>But biological differences don’t affect “capability” (which I feel is the wrong word for this). Yes, men generally have more physical strength, and females can give birth, but that shouldn’t have an effect upon gender roles, I don’t think.</p>
<p>As a matter of fact, there shouldn’t be gender roles at all. Just personal preference. And if someone chooses to break convention and try a different “role,” they shouldn’t be stereotyped for it.</p>