<p>My friends and I were discussing this in class today--about someone who apparently "uses" all their "friends"--for grades, connections, etc.</p>
<p>Do you know of anyone like this?</p>
<p>haha yeah me.....but i give sometimes too</p>
<p>Of course. There are always people like that in the world. We had an interesting discussion, how even though some people are worse than others, everyone gets into everything in their own self interest. People in love, whats one of their reasons "i feel so good with him/her" or "s/he makes me better" "s/he makes me happy" etc etc. Same thing with friends.</p>
<p>Never! Letting people use me is so middle school. I have a substantially higher GPA and PSAT score than most of my friends, but no one ever guilt-trips me over it. I certainly could choose to hang out with people who would, but friendships are not based on competition. They're about emotional issues, and if you don't have that connection, they're not only using you, but you're letting them.</p>
<p>My friends are, for the most part, comfortable with themselves. I'm a better person for that!</p>
<p>I don't have any friends like that, but there's a clique at my school that is pretty much based on getting answers from each other. it's a bit sad.</p>
<p>law of unexpected consequences.</p>
<p>so long as you don't know the other person that well.</p>
<p>When I realize that I'm starting to "use" someone, I ask myself "is the person going to realize it?" and then I become a lot more cautious in my approaches to the person, in the case that the person may not have much use for me (expected or unexpected). Sometimes unexpected uses for me do come out, but most people don't expect those that much (especially since most people don't become a source of unexpected use - rather - it's that a person may find a source of unexpected use for say, 5% of his social network)</p>