<p>I agree with cynicalspaz, my parents are pretty good friends now that I live on my own so far away from them. I don't mind telling my them about some crazy night where we got really drunk and did something stupid, or about some issue that I have. Being totally honest with them is pretty nice, I think that we get along alot better now that they know exactly what I am doing. (Plus now when I go home they let me walk around the house with a beer in my hand :-P)</p>
<p>Your parents have a good 30-40 years of experience on you, and hopefully college experience too, so it wouldn't be bad to ask them for help or advice, they really just want to help you.</p>
<p>That said, time always helps. I have really good friends at university now, but it took halfway through the semester to figure out who my true friends were. Adjusting was really hard and I really missed my highschool friends. I knew a ton of people, more than in highschool, but everything was superficial and they all felt like mere aquaintances. However, with time, I learned a lot about people and friendships, and have a few great friends that I wouldn't trade for anything. Just wait, there are people just like you that haven't found their niche, but it will happen, try not to worry about it.</p>
<p>Aw yes, I was so shocked to go home for Thanksgiving, and be offered a glass of wine. I'm not much a wine person so I declined, but the thought was there. And as far as friends from high school, I was home for a week for Thanksgiving and I was hating it, I wanted to be back "home" at school, with my new friends. Everyone adjusts at some point, it took me 3 months to finally adjust to everything!</p>
<p>I totally agree! My home is at school now, and while I miss my two best friends, I don't miss the entire "group" or whatever you call it. We all got together and everyone was so immature and acted like they didn't care about anyone, it really sucked. I hated going home for thanksgiving and I am not looking forward to Christmas, Madison is my home now.</p>
<p>Yeah, exactly. I have my 2 close friends, and they come and visit me, and I see them regularly back home. But other than that, I really don't talk to anyone else unless through the occasional email. People definately change, or even worse they don't change, and it's like you're still in HS. Personally, HS sucked.</p>
<p>I had some issues at the beginning with certain aspects of college life, but I've learned to deal and found some pretty close friends. My mom thinks everything is going perfect, I let her believe that.</p>
<p>They pretty much usually know what's going on- good and bad. I don't really let them in too much about my grades, just a general idea. I've become a bit more open lately knowing that they are not in the same room as me so they can yell at me. They pretty much trust me because I have high standards and I do what it takes to meet them. As for weekends, I just give them a laundry list of what I did- nothing specific, just because they really don't need to know every single little thing in my life. </p>
<p>Of course, they worry a lot. When I was in the ER a couple days back, my mom got so worried that she offered to drive up today (I'm 2 hours away) and I assured her that I'm recovering nicely and don't need her when my friend is taking care of me. </p>
<p>We also e-mail each other on weekdays and call each other on weekends. So I'm much closer to them now than I was before. :)</p>
<p>I was always of the opinion that if I was doing stuff I couldn't tell my family about (there's little I would tell my siblings and not my parents) then I should seriously rethink doing it. So when my parents ask what I did last weekend I'll tell them I was at a party or hanging out with my boyfriend and when they ask how my recent tests went I'll tell them... because honestly now what would they do anyway? They're not partial to stop paying tuition unless it's for a dammed good reason and it's not like they're going to punish an adult a hundred miles away from where they are.
I've noticed that since I left home, for the record, it's shifted from criticism to advice from my parents when it comes to dealing with stuff. Plus if I said things were always well they'd begin to get suspicious...</p>
<p>My mother definitely knows everything and my father probably knows most of my problems, but not all.</p>
<p>I tell my mother everything, as she is pretty much my best friend (plus, she reads my online journal). I try not to say too much about my problems to my father, since he has plenty of his own (he has a number of health issues), but my mother probably tells him whatever wouldn't make him worry too much.</p>
<p>They aren't paying for my tuition, so what they think doesn't bother me; however, it's not like I'm doing anything that I would really be embarrassed about--and even if I was, I would still end up telling them. That's just the sort of relationship we have.</p>
<p>from a mom's perspective: if your parents respect you and vice versa, you are lucky. Consider them a resource of wisdom and advice. If you have a problem (sex, friends, substance abuse or the tempation to use, etc.) share it with one or both of them. You may think they'll be angry, but they are primarily concerned about your well-being and safety, and you just may be surprised at how they respond.</p>
<p>Now, here's my question to you: If you leave your journal out in the open, are you hoping we'll read it? Or, is that your demonstration of your trust in us?</p>
<p>cynicalspaz, don't say highschool sucked just because going back home and reliving the highschool experience sucks. Highschool was awesome, but it is behind us.</p>
<p>I tell my mom pretty much everything. I don't drink or party much either, so I don't have to really worry about her being upset with me. I do tell her that I'm not happy though. She knows. Sometimes I feel bad being so negative when I talk to her, but sometimes I just don't have anything positive to say. She's very supportive, though.</p>
<p>Um, in response to baseballmom, I rarely leave my journal out in the open, but if I did I wouldn't want anyone to read it. It seems to me like if there is something you want your parents to know, you tell them. If you feel like your son/daughter is trying to tell you something but doesn't know how to bring it up, maybe you should just ask them if anything is bothering them. It might open up the door for communication. That's my opinion on the matter.</p>
<p>I haven't spoken to my parents since they dropped me off, so the only communication we have is by email. They knew that I had midterms (didn't know that I almost failed one), and I sent them a few pics of my room. Other than that, they know almost nothing.</p>