<p>people praise you? </p>
<p>With college acceptances and colleges especially, it feels like my entire extended family is constantly talking about me and congratulating me and it's just weird. A couple days before christmas I found out about this big scholarship, and now that's all the old people will talk about at holiday parties and such. It's especially weird because I only told my parents and siblings, but word somehow got around.</p>
<p>Anyways, does anyone else ever feel the same??</p>
<p>I just say “thank you.”</p>
<p>yup
same happened to me</p>
<p>the difference is with people that I don’t really talk at school…
I felt extremely happy when my favorite teacher and closest friends congratulated me, though (:</p>
<p>Don’t feel awkward. Be happy that you’re making you’re loved ones proud.</p>
<p>I felt happy at first, don’t get me wrong! It’s great that they’re all so proud of me.</p>
<p>But they continue to congratulate me over and over again! I feel kinda dumb saying “thank you” a thousand times. :p</p>
<p>I have a genius cousin, so neither of us gets too much praise!</p>
<p>A little bit, yeah.</p>
<p>My family doesn’t really make a big deal out of it (I have genius cousins just like you Kangrui!), but I’m the most academically motivated in my group of friends so they’re all really impressed with me. It’s nice to have people recognize your accomplishments, but then they lay on the praise and I feel kinda bad, especially since I know that they compare themselves to me and that some of them struggle with schoolwork in a way that I never have. I don’t usually toot my own horn around them for that very reason, so when one of my close friends starts gushing about how smart I am, it makes me feel both proud and somewhat embarrassed.</p>
<p>Case in point: We got our PSAT scores back a few weeks ago, I went to sit with my friends at lunch and one of my guy friends grabbed the score report out of my bag. He looked at the number, his eyes widened, and he screamed (quite loudly, may I add), “Holy golden sack of balls!”</p>
<p>That resulted in more than a few heads being turned our way. And then all of my other friends started passing my score around, and saying how proud and how jealous they were.</p>
<p>I don’t like being in the spotlight. I’m really awkward, so I just blushed, said thank you, and let the conversation change course.</p>
<p>Its not as awkward as when people complement other things about you. Like when people call you pretty or gorgeous or something what exactly are you supposed to say? Its really awkward to say thank you because then you sound like you already know its obviously true and you are just acknowledging their complement that you must get all the time but if you try to deny it people you look that smug little jerk that everyone hates who is denying it to appear to be a nice person when really they are just being fake because they like hearing people complement them over and over again (“you’re so pretty” -> “stop lying, I look so ugly today” -> “no you look absolutely gorgeous” “realllly?” -> “Yes you are so beautiful both inside and out” -> and on and on). And if you do the easiest thing, which is smiling and not replying, people think you’re mentally challenge. Plus there’s always that unwritten obligation to complement them back and I never really know what to say.</p>
<p>I know exactly how you feel. For some reason, teachers liked to read my resume out loud to me when I gave it to them for rec letters. I felt so awkward! I don’t go around bragging about my test scores and other accomplishments, so to hear someone like brag for me makes me very uncomfortable.</p>
<p>It does make me uncomfortable expecially when they are my safeties.</p>
<p>Also, has anyone been congratulated and then told which they should attend? I don’t like that because it makes me feel like it isn’t my decision, the way they go about it.</p>
<p>Yes because I don’t know how to react</p>
<p>i’m trying to think if any compliments aren’t awkward. basically i think its best for teachers to say things like I enjoyed reading your essay, rather than that essay was so well-written, etc.</p>
<p>When teachers said something like that to me, it meant WAY more, because then the compliment wasn’t just about me, it was about how I affected them. </p>
<p>Mutual compliments like “we did so well…” are good for the same reason, because there’s the feeling that what’s being praised is how you worked together with the other people well :).</p>
<p>I kind of tend to just shrug it off. I almost feel bad because I’ve never actually put any real effort into school, it just comes naturally.</p>
<p>I hate getting praised! I took the ACT in October and some of my friends did too. When we got our scores back I got what was an ok score for me, but would have been an awesome score to my friends. They were all like, “omg!! congrats on your score!! you’re gonna get into like Yale or something for sure!”. Then I told them that I wanted to take it again and see if I could do better. This has sprung up some awkward moments because it’s really awkward when I’m not satisfied with my score, while they would take my score in a second.</p>
<p>I guess it depends on the situation. I mean, if it’s a big accomplishment, then there’s reason to be praised. If it’s done repeatedly, at least you know your accomplishments are noticed.It depends on the type of person you are; if you like doing things kind of behind the scenes, it might make you a bit uncomfortable.</p>
<p>Try getting in early to Yale and then having an assistant principal email the ENTIRE district informing them of that fact. It makes me feel awful because my best friend was deferred and has to hear the congratulations constantly.</p>
<p>My older brother snagged baylor college of medicine so whatever achievements I have they’re not good enough for my family till I get a good grad school or job. But at school yea I try to play it modest by saying anyone could be smart If they tried hard enough (which is true). I feel like a gloat if I just keep saying thanks haha.</p>
<p>@27
the senior valedictorian got into harvard, and not only did the principal email the entire district, but he also went up to the cafeteria during all three lunches and told all the students to aspire to be like her, then there were parties in like 4 of her classes congratulating her. </p>
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<p>Oh I’d die of embarrassment. I appreciate people being proud and acknowledging my accomplishments, but having random teachers and students congratulating me is honestly too much and makes other people feel bad about themselves.</p>
<p>What dfree said reminded me of an incident that happened after I got my SAT scores. They were good (650 cr read, 620 cr math, 570 writing), but my parents thought I could do a little bit better, and significantly better on my essay. Because of this I was little disappointed in my scores, and when this girl who I’m kind of friends with in my AP Bio class asked me what I got, I said I did ok but could have done better, and proceeded to tell her my scores. It turns out that her best score was on the writing section; and she did as well on that section as I did. Her math and reading scores were in the 500-550 range. The bad part about this? She had felt proud about her scores- and it seemed that my dismissal of my 600 range scores destroyed that feeling, even though she didn’t come out and say it. I felt awful after presenting scores in such a way to her after that.</p>