Why do parents?

<p>My parents do this all the time.
I'll bring home a math trophy, my report card, show them my class ranking, and it's like as if it doesn't matter?</p>

<p>So I'm like whatever and move on. But then, the only time they ever speak of it, is when I do something wrong. Like, I am working on something outside, yardwork, setting up something, who knows. They'll say oh well you have a 4.12 chuckle chuckle that will get you nowhere unless you can do these basic commands.</p>

<p>Then, the only other time they bring it up is when they WANT to brag about me to their relatives, or friends. Oh yeah my son rocks his class at his school, duh. But then, they really don't seem to give a ... anyways?</p>

<p>They have no clue how to react.</p>

<p>I just thought a simple congratulations or good job would work, I mean, I DID have to put in a lot of work to get those grades / awards.</p>

<p>Yeah, I have lots of friends with similar parents. Most are stereotypical asian parents, haha. </p>

<p>My friend won two different department awards at this awards ceremony we have at our school... out of, like, fifteen departments, each of which awards one student... so obviously, the vast majority of students get zero... but some other girl won like five, and my friend's parents were like "WHY CAN'T YOU BE MORE LIKE HER?!" >:/</p>

<p>Talk to them about it. Maybe they don't congratulate you because you all feel so alienated from each other.</p>

<p>i would be nice to get a good job, but i mean..parents are clueless oftentimes..my dad did that to my older brother, so i learned early on to NEVER show my parents anything. They tune in to me whenever I do well..but that may be b/c they have nothing better to do.</p>

<p>Liist, it's a great point.</p>

<p>I've never really felt like I've had a family, besides from my sister, who has been ruined, after getting into UCF and not having enough money to go because her father promised to pay for her college and then didn't come through. Kinda sucks.</p>

<p>^ouch!! that does suck..is this your dad too? better not get to close, doesn't seem reliable.</p>

<p>No, it was her dad.</p>

<p>My dad's kinda even worse, we don't exactly get along :)</p>

<p>Haha her dad is SO unreliable. There were times he's promise them to go camping and have them all ready and then just never show up. He was such a bad father I remember growing up seeing my brother and sister all angry he wouldn't be there.</p>

<p>My dad's just the bigot of the family. I really can't stand him. What ticks me off is he seems to be pretty smart, but the immaturity, and he dropped out of college, or else he probably could have made something. He's just a jerk. I'm moving to California hopefully for college is my plan and never looking back here.</p>

<p>No Bright Futures to cover most of the tuition cost? All you need is a 3.0 GPA and 970 SAT to have 75% covered.</p>

<p>LMU10, i'm sorry about your dad..seems like you shouldn't really care what he thinks about you and your achievements anyway..but i get it.</p>

<p>that's totally like my dad, expect i'm used to him, so i know what to expect...</p>

<p>;)</p>

<p>My sister had a 4.02 I believe weighted at the end.
He also promised her a place to live and a head start to get it going, but he didn't come through. She's in Daytona Beach after conflicts here caused her to move out. So, I mean, maybe she will just go to Daytona CC, I don't know yet. She lived in many houses her senior year just trying to graduate, it was pretty rough.</p>

<p>I'm unsure of her SAT score, but I'm pretty sure that she had over a 970.</p>

<p>Hopeful --
It's fine. I'll be proud to amount to something and say that my parents had no influence on it whatsoever.</p>

<p>I just hope that I can hang in this household as long as I can, brother moved out at 17, sister moved in and out 16-18, so we'll see. I have a few friends that their parents have invited me to live with them if it ever gets too unbearable. But I'm fine for now ;)</p>

<p>My mom does that, without the bragging. We don't have any family she talks to, and she's not really a people person so she doesn't have too many friends, although I think she brags behind my back (that sounds really odd...).</p>

<p>I think the nonchalant attitude is because they are so used to your freaking awesome academic talents that they feel as if they don't need to verify your greatness anymore lol. The 'chuckle, chukle' probably means they are proud and are joking around with you. They probably already see you going to the top schools and earning the higher paychecks. Saying that is sort of their version of an 'inside joke' like -You'll never get a date with that outfit (when you're in a really awesome outfit). </p>

<p>Bragging = ultimate parental means of showing pride. AKA My son is better than yours. </p>

<p>Not right, but they're old. And proud. Give'em a break.</p>

<p>(Don't ask me why I know so much.)</p>

<p>LOL, TNG what you said may be true for my mother, she's still a good person at heart.</p>

<p>My father doesn't see me going to the top school. He gave me a big slap in the face when he said well look at Cassie (my sister) she had all those grades and achievements and now she's at Daytona CC. And I got very angry because she's pretty much the only family I've ever had. He doesn't believe I'll go very far, but I'll prove him wrong like I said and never look back.</p>

<p>I know exactly how you feel! My parents won't really mention anything about academics/anything else cool I do, but if I do something "wrong" (Example - 4 on APUSH this year), they question what happened. At least from my point of view, I think my parents don't say anything on a normal basis because they expect it and know that I expect it of myself. My parents have never really put pressure on me, but because of that, I think I've put pressure on myself.</p>

<p>Guys, it's been like that since time began. Doesn't mean they're not incredibly proud of you!</p>

<p>I grew up in the 50s/60s and my (immigrant) parents were just like that.</p>

<p>That's exactly what my parents were like. It got to a point where I started not telling them my awards and trashing them, cause I stopped caring too.</p>

<p>don't take it too personally even though they're your parents
they love you
you should be proud of your accomplishments :D</p>

<p>Funny parent-related story. </p>

<p>I got into a fight with my mom last friday. Haven't spoken to her directly to this day. I know she's not completely furious with me because she continues to make my favorite dishes before I leave for college (her BEST way to show her love). But she's waiting for me to apologize...not going to happen. I know it's immature but screw it! I'm going to have to be an adult really soon so if I want to behave like a kid for the last few weeks until I leave then SO BE IT. </p>

<p>...I just want to see who's more headstrong. (If you haven't guessed, I pretty much inherited my stubborness from her ;) )</p>

<p>Pretty irrevelant...but idc :)</p>