<p>My whole life is basically dedicated to studying for the SAT or ACT. While I want to do really well on the tests the first time (I'm taking them in about a month), I think its crazy that my mom is making me wake up EVERY morning of winter break at 6:30am so I can start studying at 7am. During winter break!! I have two Kaplan study books that I've been working on, and she also calls me throughout the day to check my progress by asking what chapter I'm on. Luckily nobody is around while I'm home so I have some freedom to goof-off, but I have to have something to show when she asks so she doesnt suspect I'm being lazy. I've only left my house about 4 times during break, and even then she gives me a guilt trip about how I'm wasting my time. If my friends ask me to hang out, she usually won't let me because "it's a waste of time when I could be STUDYING." Good god! I can't handle it anymore! I spent 4 hours on Christmas morning studying for the freaking SAT!! And now, dear mother has just informed me that if my friend invites me over for New Years, then I should let her know that I already have plans because apparently my friend asks me "every year" (it was only last year) and sleeping over there will "cut into my study time in the morning." Great. I'm spending New Years Eve/Day studying even more. I know my mom loves me and wants me to do my best, and "when I'm old and gray I will be thankful I studied for these tests." But honestly, is dedicating this much time really necessary? I am an AP and A-grade student, so its not like I'm struggling in school. I'm normally very mellow and dont do anything particularly wild, so I dont understand why she doesn't trust me. Is this normal parent behavior? Does anyone else have parents like this? Does anyone have any advice as to how I should handle this situation? Thank you.</p>
<p>oh wow thats tough.
for the SATs and ACTs, my parents just took me to the bookstore, and drove me to the test sight. They occasionally reminded me to study, but not nearly as much as your parents. I did take a course for SAT, so that may have been why they didn’t bother (that was all i did though, no other prep).
for the ACT,well…i did mediocre on that one.</p>
<p>is there another time of day you can study, so you won’t have to wake up that early? maybe tell your mom you’ll study the night before if you’re going to a friend’s house for the night.</p>
<p>She just cares, but that’s still stupid.</p>
<p>But the SAT is a reasoning test. I doubt much studying is going to help you a lot. You either have the logic already, or you don’t.</p>
<p>Stand up to your mother then. Let it all out.</p>
<p>It’s obvious that your academic success has been feeding her ego for far too long. Cut that connection loose. A mother should care, of course. But this goes beyond simple good parenting. It sounds like exploitation, to a degree.</p>
<p>The more you listen to her and study, the more you are reinforcing the notion that she is a good parent. Stop that now.</p>
<p>I agree with XX5XX</p>
<p>Tell her that if she really loves you, she’ll be happy whoever you end up being. I know that our society tells us we should respect our parents, but in cases like these it’s best to stand up for yourself.</p>
<p>Sometimes they are.</p>
<p>I hate my parents and family. My mom is a bipolar psycho *****. My dad is a typical Korean immigrant.</p>
<p>I’d prefer to get accepted to a college of my choice than keep my mom, to be honest.</p>
<p>^Please tell me you are NOT serious.</p>
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<p>I usually don’t get offended easily even though I’ve seen/read some pretty rude things, but this one takes the cake. How do you even have the heart to say that?! My own mother suffered from depression, but I love her for who she is and recognize that she’s contributed significantly to the person I am now. I’m almost certain that if you took some time to think it over, you’d be able to say the same thing for yours.</p>
<p>Actually, I wish my parents were more involved in my college choices, it’s frustrating that they’re not. I wanted to retake the ACT and my mom just said “why would you want to do that?” Maybe to get a higher score… haha. Also, anytime I get excited about a college all I get is a “oh, that’s good, keep looking at other ones too.” Also I get a “remember, it’s all going to come down to money”. So in other words I should not even consider any other school than the one that they think will cost the least (one that I don’t want to go to).</p>
<p>just remember it will all pay off at the end, plus you have many weekends left to go out</p>
<p>why does everyone study for the SAT…the only reason to study is if you suck hard.</p>
<p>I agree with fuzzleshnopps lol. Those tests are not something that you can really study for as far as information. The only reason one should “study” is to practice getting used to the test, that is the way to get a good score. If you are not used to that type of questioning or the time limits then you are not going to do well. Maybe if you explain that to her she will lighten up.</p>