<p>So there are a lot of things I've wanted to do but had to pass up because I couldn't find anybody to go with me. It seems like none of my friends at school like the music I like or wants to go to comedy shows, plays, etc that interest me. And even if they did, I still have the problem of wanting to enjoy a bowl before a concert and go high, whereas my friends at school do not approve of smoking and most don't know I do.</p>
<p>So my problem is I've missed a few concerts and shows I really wanted to go to b/c no one else was interested. Do you think it's ok to go to such things on your own? I've gone to see a comedy show on my own, and I felt a bit weird but I don't regret it. However, I feel as if it's different for a concert and while it's ok to go to a play or movie by yourself (since you're quietly in the dark), you can't really do that at a concert.</p>
<p>Also, I'm a bit of a foodie and like going to nice new restaurants, but I'd feel bad dragging people to a nice $30+ dinner when they complain about $10 Panera. Is it unacceptable to go to a sit down restaurant alone? </p>
<p>I just feel robbed of experiences/life because I have different interests than others and am more liberal with my money.</p>
<p>I’ve been to two concerts on my own. Both were incredibly awesome and I would have kicked myself if I hadn’t gone just because my friends couldn’t/wouldn’t go. I’ve also been to nicer restaurants on my own (same problem you have, most friends I have don’t wanna shell out a lot for a meal. It’s not like I go to them often though).</p>
<p>Basically just start feeling comfortable with yourself and you’ll enjoy doing those things, with or without friends. What are you gonna do after college if, say, you move to a new town where none of your friends live? Obviously you’ll try and make friends but in the meantime I would assume you’d still go to concerts and restaurants.</p>
<p>Also, don’t get high and drive to a concert on your own.</p>
<p>I’ve gone to plays and food stands by myself, and it was fine. People were particularly friendly at the food places and I actually ended up making friends with them- of course it didn’t hurt that they gave me freebies all the time:)</p>
<p>Don’t skip out on doing something just because you have to go alone- you may end up meeting people while you’re there.</p>
<p>I don’t think it’s weird at all. Most people prefer to go places with someone, but sometimes you just gotta say screw it and do you. And honestly I highly doubt you were the only one there alone either. </p>
<p>Actually last week I couldn’t find anyone to go to the mall with, and I REALLY wanted to go, so I just went by myself. I thought I’d feel awkward and stick out like a sore thumb, but I actually really enjoyed it. It was more time for me to take my time and browse what I wanted without worrying about anyone else’s time or needs.</p>
<p>I don’t get what’s the problem with going out by yourself. Some people are very needy and they feel insecure if they’re by themselves, but it’s totally normal. I actually prefer going by myself from time to time because I need ‘me-time’. I don’t get people that has to drag along a whole group of people wherever they go- even walking to class or going to the library.</p>
<p>Totally go by yourself. It’s better than missing it and doing nothing. Try being a bit friendly at places like a concert because maybe you can meet someone there who might want to go to other concerts with you You just have to not make it all weird for yourself by thinking how weird it is that you are there alone. You’re the only thing stopping you :)</p>
<p>Going out and doing whatever you want by yourself isn’t a big deal. As long as you enjoy it, it’s fine. I tend to do a lot of things by myself. It’s not really weird… It’s kind of awkward if you’re at an amusement park or something by yourself, but that’s about it.</p>
<p>There’s a great short film on Youtube called “How To Be Alone” by user andyradorfman. Go watch it; it talks about a lot of the things you brought up. It’s actually really inspiring in a strange way.</p>
<p>Definitely try doing these things you want by yourself. It’ll teach you how to be comfortable with yourself and you may find that you make some new friends who are interested in the same things you are. </p>
<p>I’ve been in similar situations as you have and had to miss out on shows or events because no one I hung out with wanted to go but eventually, I got sick of missing these things and went by myself. Now I find myself having a much larger circle of friends since I’ve met so many more people. </p>
<p>I went to Boise State and it leans more on the commuter university side but I still found it managed to have a great student life. You’re not locked down to only the circle of friends you have now so it’s great to go out and explore. Maybe checking out the Beyond the Blue program that Boise State runs might give you some ideas on how you can get out there (beyond going to these events you want to attend alone)? Check out the site: [Beyond</a> the Blue Faculty Podcasts - Boise State University](<a href=“http://beyondtheblue.boisestate.edu/]Beyond”>http://beyondtheblue.boisestate.edu/)</p>
<p>I gotta say it’s funny how we all see going to the movies alone as something you simply don’t do. Yet every time I go to the movies with friends, it’s almost as if I’m there alone (at least during the actual movie). IDK about you guys but there’s nothing I hate more than people who talk during GOOD movies and thankfully my friends feel the same way.</p>
<p>I’d go to the movies with my roommates from time to time and I absolutely despise it. They talk and they were so obnoxious one time that people started to complain. I’m one of those people that has to hear like every single word that’s coming from the movie. I stopped going with them.</p>
<p>I’d go to the movies alone if it were a really good movie (to me) and none of my friends liked it. I suspect this will be the case when I go see Tim and Eric’s Billion Dollar Movie in March. I actually feel this one is the least weird. Why can’t you enjoy something like Inception by yourself?</p>
<p>I don’t know if I could go to a restaurant alone UNLESS I was in a foreign country/city where I could pull off that “mysterious stranger” allure. Otherwise, chances are that I’d see someone I knew and I’d feel a little awkward.</p>
<p>I’ve been to two concerts in my entire life, but I can remember seeing people there who just showed up for the experience and bonded with their fellow fans who they didn’t know beforehand.</p>
<p>If you listen to music by yourself, why would it be bizarre to see a band/artist that you liked by yourself?</p>
<p>maybe restaurants are just a very normal thing for me (my family loves going to restaurants) but I just can’t comprehend why some people don’t like going to restaurants alone. yeah, I’d prefer going somewhere fancy with someone but I have no problems with going to IHOP or some casual sit-down restaurant by myself.</p>
<p>I used to go everywhere by myself. I’ve gone into NYC, gone to a museum and a nice restaurant then seen a show at night by myself. I’ve gone to disney world by myself. There’s nothing wrong with doing stuff on your own, it might feel awkward at first, but you’ll get over the awkward feeling and have fun.</p>
<p>Back when I was still friends with lame people, I did all of those things alone all the time. Now that I do have people to go with I still go alone very frequently… dinner and a movie alone can be the most relaxing thing in the world. You don’t realize how much other peoples opinions can affect how you feel about something until you try something like that without anybody else to change your perceptions-- sometimes it’s really nice to try that new restaurant you’re excited about by yourself, or see that movie you’re pumped about that your friends don’t get. And it’s good to learn to be alone!</p>
<p>I do stuff alone ALL THE TIME! I got used to it from high school because I often did stuff out in the city and none of my friends would be up for any of it. I even go to the movies alone. I admit, though…it does bother me sometime, but honestly, no one really cares if you’re alone or not. Spending time alone is a great time to think about your day, problems, or just think something out. I really cherish my personal time now that I rarely get any of it due to schoolwork.</p>
<p>You haven’t gone to a concert until you’ve gone to one alone. That is bit over an exaggeration - but really, going to a concert alone is not weird and its a lot more fun than you might think. I have a lot of friends I enjoy doing stuff with, and its always fun to go with a group (I like being social with people), but I never let it stop me that I have to go alone. I used to before - because I was afraid what people would think… But then I went to a movie alone and really enjoyed it, moved on to going to a concert alone and had SO MUCH FUN. And now it doesn’t bother me at all :)</p>
You just have to not make it all weird for yourself by thinking how weird it is that you are there alone. You’re the only thing stopping you :)</p>