<p>I go to a relatively small school with about 120 students per class. I am not a shy person per se, because I speak my mind when I need to, I'm never afraid to talk when I have something to say, and I enjoy public speaking. But, I am a quite person, that being a more accurate term to use. I rarely talk, except in class, and have virtually no social life outside of school.</p>
<p>The strangest part is I have never, not once, been made fun of or bullied. I don't know why, I don't understand people in that regard. They tell people who aren't as popular as them "you have no friends," yet would never think of saying something insulting to me. </p>
<p>I don't know if it is just me and my personality that causes me to be so quiet at school, or if it is that I don't fit in at my school. I am first in my class, and everyone tells me how "extremely smart" I am (not very smart for CC standards). Everyone at my school falls into one of two groups: the emos and the jocks there is no in between. I don't really fit into either. None of the emos care about life in general. About 10% of the jocks actually do well in school, but only talk about sports, video games and girls. </p>
<p>I keep myself busy with schoolwork and extracurriculars so I don't get bored or depressed, but I'm worried that I'm letting my high school life slip though my fingers. No one has similar interests to me. No one is anything like me. Everyone's friendly to me, but I have no close friends. </p>
<p>In essence, my question is: Do other high schools have a broader range of students, with some of whom I might share similar interests or personalities? Is it that I don't fit in, or am I just to quiet to make friends?</p>
<p>“No one has similar interests to me. No one is anything like me. Everyone’s friendly to me, but I have no close friends.”</p>
<p>Story of my life.
I am not really a shy person either.
Don’t feel bad, you are not at fault.
You shouldn’t compromise who you are to fit in with a group.</p>
<p>I’ve given up on high school relationships. Superficial and not worth my time. :)</p>
<p>Thanks for your reply. I’m glad (well, not glad, but relieved) to see that someone is in the same situation.</p>
<p>I’ve heard mixed things about high school friendships, etc… Some say, like you, that they are superficial, while others say that they are some of the strongest you will ever build. Will the rest of my life be the same if I don’t have any friends in high school?</p>
<p>Anyone who wholly dismisses all relationships one has at any age as superficial should is going to find him or herself incorrect. Everyone, old or young, has some relationships that are true and some that are just the opposite.</p>
<p>I’ve heard my school is a little weird. When my sister explains her HS to her college friends, many of them are surprised that no one cares about the football star and the head cheerleader. We do have “jocks,” I suppose, but they play soccer, and almost all of them do very well in school. My school also has 400-250 students per class, usually about 325 for the senior class, and six classes, being 7-12, so it is bigger.
But I think half of the battle is getting out there. Part of thinking that no one has similar interests as you and that no one is anything like you is, almost always, a belief in your being special. I’m not trying to accuse you of anything; all people think they’re special. If anyone’s guilty of this, I am, so I’m not trying to be harsh; forgive me if I sound so. Part of viewing yourself as being the singular one with your interests is viewing everyone else is an undifferentiated conglomerate rather than as individuals. Analyze your own thoughts and see if you have that attitude toward your peers. If you find that you do, you can change. I mean, it might not result in anything, but you can. Everyone might already see you as amiable but not amicable. It might be too late to succeed, but it’s not too late to try.</p>
<p>It’s not too late to get out there. Join clubs. Try a sport without any real learning curve, like track. If there are people you just chat with in passing, talk to them more. Eventually, you’ll get invited to some event or another and fall in with a fun group of people. Even if your school doesn’t have kids like yourself, you can have a social life.</p>
<p>@Millancad: Thanks for your advice, but I’m not just closing my eyes. People aren’t like me, at all. No one at my school is not either emo or jock… and there are no deviations within those groups. I get involved, I try new things, but to no avail. </p>
<p>@glassesarechic: Thanks for your advice, but I’ve done all that. I’m part of every single club my school has. I’m secretary of my class. I run cross-country, do swim, and run track. I go to every school event. Nothing has gotten better.</p>
<p>it really isn’t your fault, obviously you’re involved in lots of stuff at school and are smart, so don’t worry too much about building good friendships with people at your school. just like Code H said, you really shouldn’t compromise who you are to fit in with them. Once you’ll get to university, you’ll be with people with whom you’re much more likeminded, and you’ll have more of a variety of people to choose from there too.
I just graduated from high school and i can tell you that i couldn’t handle the fakeness of most of my grade. i had a group of extremely close friends, and i didn’t want to compromise my morals/personality to fit in with the rest. you shouldn’t either.
also, even the closest friends i had in high school - those that i thought will be there for me forever - ended up distancing themselves because they moved on and really didn’t care about trying to keep the relationship going. high school relationships won’t be worth your time and sadness in the long run, believe me. i’ve found that out the hard way.
so focus on doing well in your classes, being active, and having fun doing what you want, not what will make you fit in with them. that way, i promise you you’ll be happier (and raise your chances of getting into a great school, where you’ll for sure meet much cooler people).
it isn’t worth your time trying to fit in. do whatever makes you the happiest, and eventually you’ll find people who aren’t superficial and who’ll actually be there for you.
good luck!</p>
<p>Do you think the situation would be better at another school? I don’t really want to switch schools, but if I had to, I could deal with it. </p>
<p>Also, my situation is somewhat unique in that I don’t get bullied at all. No one would dare make fun of me for some reason. Would this change if I changed schools?</p>
<p>I’m kinda like you… in some ways I’m a freshie, but I’ve always thought the drama was really immature. I have a group of friends at school, but I don’t hang out with them much outside of school.</p>
<p>Nobody bullies me, and I’m kinda the “inside loner”. I have fun at parties, but I can also have fun being home and watching tv with my family. I have friends that I can sit with during lunch, but we don’t have the same hobbies.</p>
<p>I feel for you But I wouldn’t switch schools unless if your really unhappy.</p>
I’m a freshie, but I’ve always thought the drama was really immature. I have a group of friends at school, but I don’t hang out with them much outside of school.</p>
But I wouldn’t switch schools unless if your really unhappy.</p>