Don't know what do to about friend

<p>Hello all, I think I need some advice. I have a friend who I am worried about academically and physically. They are a close friend, and I don't really know how to best handle the situation that is happening. I feel kind of weird explaining all of this on a website, but I would like this to be anonymous.</p>

<p>Anyways, I have a friend who wants to be a film major. She is really good at what she does, and has much talent, but I am worried about her academically. She was the kind of person who did not study in high school and came here thinking she also wouldn't have to study. As a result, her GPA is very low and her parents have threatened to pull her out of school many times. She has this bad habit of staying up almost all night on weekdays (literally, until seven or eight am) messing around on facebook and youtube, and she says that she apparently cannot sleep at night so she messes around on the computer. Then she will somehow fall asleep and miss her classes repeatedly. It's gotten to the point where she hasn't gone a week without missing at least one or two classes. I tried telling her to get another alarm (she says the one on her phone doesn't wake her up) and she said she thinks there's an alarm clock in her car, which she never got out.</p>

<p>She also never studies. She asked her parents for textbook money, and they said to ask a relative for the money. An uncle gave her about four hundred dollars, and not a single textbook was bought with that money, which is now gone. One time, she told me she had an exam and said she planned to start studying around ten pm the night before the test. It took me a couple of seconds to realize she wasn't kidding. She then gets stressed out about her low grades even though she doesn't sleep at night and doesn't study.</p>

<p>I have tried suggesting studying with her, giving her study tips, telling her what I do, and she seems appreciative of it, but never follows through. I know she really likes going here and would hate it if she had to drop out. I just worry that she will not make it through and waste a lot of student loans for nothing, and it has actually been frustrating hearing all of the time how tired she is and that she missed class again. I hope I am not being too critical of her, but I just want her to be happy and get on a normal schedule. What should I do?</p>

<p>There’s nothing you can do. She is who she is–take it or leave it. She knows what she should be doing, but chooses not to do it. All of the excuses are her way of justifying her bad decisions. Some people choose not to take personal responsibility for their actions. Unfortunately, it may take failing out of college for her learn from her mistakes.</p>

<p>To answer your question–“What should I do?”</p>

<p>Answer: Focus on your own academics and future.</p>

<p>You have been a good friend, modeling and suggesting tips. She needs to take it from here, or take a break to mature.</p>