<p>OP…where are the rest of your belongings? Surely you didn’t bring EVERYTHING with you to college.</p>
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<p>Do they have postal service? Send them a letter. Either they can’t find your mother either and are as worried as you, or they know exactly where she is and will gladly tell you. </p>
<p>Again, I feel for you, but it sounds like you are in control of the situation except for the money part. Figure out the parents part. Once you know the truth, come back, we’ll figure out the money part. Talking to the dean is a good idea. </p>
<p>I’m still not sure why you need a lawyer. You’re an adult, they are adults, etc.</p>
<p>Well, legally, I’m pretty sure I don’t need a lawyer. However I do need an investigator of some sort. I would like to find where the hell my parents are, and find out if they are still on board for contributing to college. If worst comes to worst I’m pretty sure I could cut my college attendance to part time to compensate for the losses, as I do have a job.</p>
<p>@thumper</p>
<p>All of my belongings are with me, including all papers and clothes.</p>
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<p>and I’m sure you want to know how they are both doing since the divorce because you love them both and care for their well being.</p>
<p>Good catch, ClassicRockerDad!</p>
<p>I am still having a real time believing this–it strikes me as utterly ridiculous. A classic fantasy/fear-- that you go to school one day to find when you come home your parents moved and left no forwarding address. Really now…</p>
<p>So… if your tuition gets mysteriously paid in small bills, maybe they are in the witness protection program.</p>
<p>EDIT: @ above post, I seriously doubt they are spies, in a witness protection program or some other cool ****. On the other hand, my bank account does allow my parents to deposit money directly. No money has been deposited though.</p>
<p>Now that’s where you guys are wrong.</p>
<p>Unfortunately I’m not the kid that “loved” his parents. I could care less about whether or not they are “ok” or are “doing well.” I wouldn’t want anything bad to happen to them but that’s about it. I care more about their ability to finance college and what not. Growing up they weren’t the best parents, and I wasn’t the best son. I’ve always couldn’t wait for the day I moved out of my house and get along with my life. I guess you could say I got my wish. </p>
<p>I don’t give a damn they divorced or even why they did it. The only thing I give a damn about is the fact that they didn’t tell me about their seperation me and abandoned me to pay for my college education in cold blood.</p>
<p>Ahh… and now we get the rest of the story…</p>
<p>Its beginning to make sense. Understand why they skedaddled and left no forwarding address…</p>
<p>All you care about is whether they will fund your education, don’t care if they are alive or dead, and you wonder why they have been hard to reach?</p>
<p>Ok… I also suspect a ■■■■■ – but to the OP – make a list of all the identifying info you have about your parents: their full names, dates of birth, birthplaces, etc. Do you have either of their social security numbers? If you applied for financial aid, it’s possible that some of that info might be on the FAFSA form or in other stuff submitted to financial aid (such as copies of tax returns). </p>
<p>Then – use a service such as Intelius to locate them – or learn more information. I’d suggest running their name in local public databases, particularly court records. They can’t have gotten divorced without a court filing, so their name should pop up fairly quickly there. As I recall, Florida has sunshine laws that make it particularly easy to access public records in that state (though I might be mistaken) – but you could easily take a trip to the courthouse and ask to see the court file from their divorce. That would tend to have a lot more information – it might also give you the names of attorneys who handled the divorce, and the attorneys in turn might have more information. </p>
<p>People don’t generally simply disappear and cut off contact with their family without something very extreme happening in their lives. But – assuming your story is true – I also find it odd that your parents left you with the money needed for a full year’s worth of expenses. I wouldn’t have trusted my own kids to manage the money for a whole year. In my case, I didn’t give them money (just paid the bills from the bursar directly) – but if I had, I might have given them a monthly allowance or even enough for the whole semester… but the whole year? As wonky as your story sounds, this does sound like something parents who were planning on dumping their kid and running might do (but it is more likely that they are “running” from something serious in their own lives – is it possible that they were in serious debt, and are avoiding creditors?)</p>
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<p>How odd. Most students do not take everything they own with them when they leave for college as freshmen. They have their high school “stuff”, collections of matchbox cars or Legos or teddy bears, out of season clothes, books, pictures on their bedroom walls, old report cards, …lots of “stuff” that is left in their rooms at home. That you have EVERYTHING with you makes me think that either (a) your parents packed up everything because they KNEW you were never going to be coming back to their house or (b) this story is just a bunch of garbage. </p>
<p>I’m sorry but I find it VERY hard to believe that you have EVERYTHING you have ever owned with you. Sorry…I lived in a three room apartment with my mom before college and even <em>I</em> left stuff behind in that apartment when I left for college.</p>
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<p>Actually, it sounds like they paid the full costs for your first year up front. You have reduced tuition under the Bright Futures program; you have a job; and you have plenty of time to plan for next year.</p>
<p>Do talk to the financial aid people at your college. If indeed your story is true, then you would be able to get a dependency override and will qualify for more financial aid next year (such as Pell grant).</p>
<p>If funds are a concern for you, how would you pay for a private investigator/detective?(post #14)</p>
<p>@Thumper…</p>
<p>Teddy bears? Legos? Match Box Cars? Out-of-season clothes?
Are regular kids some kind of pack rats or something?</p>
<p>It was me who actually didn’t want to go back to their house to begin with and I insisted on living off-campus and with all my stuff. I packed everything up, excess stuff such high school papers were thrown out. By the time I was done, my room and closet were EMPTY! I didn’t want to go back to the hell hole place I lived in. But that’s besides the point…</p>
<p>@Calmom, thanks for telling me about the dependency override. Didn’t think of that, a pell grant would be nice to have.</p>
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<p>Thank you for this clarification.</p>
<p>If my kids had the entitlement attitude that the OP allegedly has, I’d sell the house and skip town too! I would not leave a forwarding address either… :eek:</p>
<p>I would bet anything that this story is not quite true…</p>
<p>Good grief.</p>
<p>The OP’s parents have put money in the bank for him for this WHOLE school year. How would he prove that he deserves a “dependency override” given that his parents have provided for him for this year?</p>
<p>I have to hope that this thread is a hoax of some sort. I would hate to think that some college freshman out there only wants to figure out where his family is because they want MONEY. I would hope that the student would be worried about his parents and would want to know that they were OK.</p>
<p>Did your dad give you money to dump your girlfriend? Oops! Wrong thread!</p>
<p>LOL toledo!!!</p>
<p>toledo, I will be wiping diet coke off my laptop screen for the next weeK!!</p>
<p>But I am not worried about my parents. Where ever they are they are probably fine. I’m more worried about moneys. Regardless , it will probably be weeks until I find out what’s up… </p>
<p>In the meantime I will try to get more working hours and tough it out.</p>