So, I don’t particularly LOVE it here so much that I never want to go home but…
I’ve never felt at ease at home since coming to college. My parents make me feel really uncomfortable for personal reasons and my siblings are so close with each other that they exclude me… It feels isolating at the very least because I have nobody with whom I can talk… What’s a good way to make going home more memorable than dreadful? :\
Did you feel at ease at home before college or has something besides heading off to college occirred that is creating tension?
If you were fine before leaving and nothing really significant besides going to collegend has occurred, then the discomfort you feel maybe due to adjustment and shifting roles in your family. When you leave and carry on without your family and vice versa the family balance shifts and you and you family might feel awkward for a while when you do get together.
Ino contrast, if something has occurred that is significant and caused this tension you describe, then talking with your parents and working to clear the air would probably improve your comfort level.
Generally once you go to college and come back, parents afford you more freedom.
I would try to find a seasonal job if possible so you have excuses to be out of the house.
Make plans with friends, but also ask your family which days they would like to do things with you.
Also try taking initiative with your siblings…see if they want to go to a movie or something with you.
Do what all of the other college kids do: go out, to work, or spend time with friends during the breaks.
My kids come home from break and we rarely see them! Their high schools friends are available. They are ALWAYS busy. We have to “schedule” dinners or activities to get them all together at once. Sometimes they’ve run into each other, with their groups of friends, at restaurants, malls, or movie theaters.
Hey, thank you for the advice, everybody! I appreciate that you took the time to help me out.
The only problem is, I’m a bit of a loner. I didn’t make many or any friends in HS. It’s all right either way. I’ll just study for next semester classes up in my room if I start getting really lonely in the presence of my siblings or whatever…
Hope you have a good holiday break. Get some rest and enjoy being in your own room, house, and town. Even though there are issues with your family you may still enjoy their company and a change of scene.
I have a cousin who’s actually going through the same situation like you. Her parents are very supportive of her but she feels awkward with them so she seeks company to us, her cousins.
I guess what I can suggest is that you find something to be busy about during the holidays near your home(Part time job? Join an organization?). I mean, don’t forget the fact that you still have your family, of course. Make conversations with them. Involve yourself in the activities that they are having.