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<p>Depends on your income and assets. If you have low-income and negligible assets as defined by the gov’t then you are not unfair to expect some help from the gov’t via aid and loans. If things don’t work out as you planned, don’t eliminate community college as an option.</p>
<p>On the slim chance that OP is not a ■■■■■, all I want to add is that what comes around goes around. Buy yourself some LTC insurance, because your daughter shouldn’t lift a finger to help you when you are old.</p>
<p>The issue with the sports scholarships is that less then 2% of students receive them and even less receive a full ride. I have a good friend whose daughter was the top athlete in our state in her sport and got a $2,000 a year scholarship at a state flagship and just slightly more at a few private colleges. The coaches save their big athletic money for the kids who do poorly in school and are very gifted in their sport. If the kid has good academic stats they usually won’t get much athletic aid. </p>
<p>There was an article in The College Solution in January 2013 that stated there are only 6 sports that have any chance of getting a significant scholarship.</p>
<p>You are setting your dd up for better chances of good scholarships by having her focus on her academics. However, I have a dd who is also going to be a freshman next year and I think the merit money will be even less for her even if she gets better stats then her older sister (class of 2013). I’m still not sure how you think she’s going to pay for a $15-$20k a year school as the odds of getting a completely free full ride is less than 1%. Her borrowing will be very limited and full time jobs are almost non-existent for high school/college students.</p>
<p>Thanks for pointing out the grammatical errors in my post, moonchild. That’s what message boards are for, after all. I don’t generally proofread posts on a message board. (And fwiw, I make my living writing but don’t feel the need to criticize others’ posts on an anonymous message board.)</p>
<p>ColFever, interesting name as someone pointed out, maybe ColFever has already mailed in his deposit and is very bored, so is having some fun with us…</p>
<p>rockvillemom, I already have. As I said earlier, I am planning for an early retirement from my current career. Thus, I have planned accordingly. I will be able to live above the poverty level when I retire, work for pennies at my new job, and take care of myself when I’m old.</p>
<p>Don’t feed the ■■■■■.</p>
<p>I swear that every now and then a topic is put on up on CC specifically for use in a reasearch paper by a HS or undergrad student. </p>
<p>This thread meets the “funny feeling” criteria that makes me think that.</p>
<p>Please stop feeding this desperate cry for help.</p>
<p>Even if this is a ■■■■■, there have been other posts by students who have wealthy parents (i.e. no financial aid) who won’t contribute anything, but expect the student to go to an expensive prestigious college (i.e. not one that will give a full ride to the student) and take out huge amounts of loans to do so.</p>
<p><a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-search-selection/1486284-help-uiuc-vs-purdue-vs-uw-seattle.html[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-search-selection/1486284-help-uiuc-vs-purdue-vs-uw-seattle.html</a></p>
<p>Oh @rockvillemom, what makes you think the daughter will be there to help her mom in her dotage should her mom pay for college?</p>
<p>What’s perverse–and unsustainable–about the status quo is that it forces parents to choose between the welfare or their children and their own welfare in a future that is unlikely to afford the support infrastructure today’s elderly take for granted.</p>
<p>I think the OP–■■■■■ or not–is speaking to a hard truth many parents will face in the years to come.</p>
<p>Colfever- those parents who are planning on athletic scholarships to put their kids thru college are no more realistic than you are. I still don’t get the purpose if your post: you’re final question in the OP is, “am I being unfair?” And the resounding response has been YES! No matter what anyone here comments you don’t appear to consider other viewpoints. Since you seem so set in your path, there was no purpose to your post. Good luck to you and your daughter, and I really do hope it works out for her!</p>
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<p>don’t look now, but the support infrastructure that today’s elderly currently has is pretty darn ricketty. And chances are that much of todays “almost” elderly care will fall on those of us also trying to pay for college (says the woman who’s 94 year old father-in-law lives with her 6+ months out of the year and has a college freshman to support as well).</p>
<p>@vlines. Yes, exactly! I don’t know how upper middle class parents are to be expected to pay for their children’s education and shoulder the burden of their ever-aging, ever-living parents’ care AND provide for their own care down-the-line.</p>
<p>It won’t happen tortoise. We will all end up in padded rooms or on some version of welfare. Just the increased cost of one person in the house increased our food and utilities significantly. I was amazed at the difference in actual costs. Not to mention the drain on the personal time and energy and how that affects work and our own health and well being.</p>
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This is one of the hallmarks of the ■■■■■ post–along with dribbling out new “facts” to respond to flaws in the story. Sometimes I wonder if some of these posts are by kids whose parents are balking at paying for college, and they are looking for ammunition to use. Otherwise, anybody who was really smart would have spent ten minutes reading prior threads here, and would know what to expect from an incendiary first post like the one here.</p>
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<p>Good luck trying for an athletic scholarship. I live in a community where people spend lots of money on travel ball, pitching lessons, catching lessons, hitting lessons, etc. This is my 5th year at our high school and so far I have seen one kid get an athletic scholarship. The rest got nothing, and many of the kids dropped the sport due to burn-out. Every year I sit next to parents videotaping their kids in the hopes of getting some $$. Hardly ever happens. I truly feel sorry for the OPs daughter. She needs a back up plan in the event that her full ride does not pan out. There are lots of smart kids out there attempting to do the same, but I would imagine that most of them have parents who are more supportive financially. If this is real, it is very sad. I can’t imagine doing that to my kids.</p>
<p>Don’t worry twogirls, this isn’t real. But there are some kids in the situation where their parents can help but won’t, and make too much money for the student to get FA.</p>
<p>Of course, their parents aren’t high school trolls pretending to be highly paid professional writers to helpful posters. I’m sure that colfever (might that be short for college fever?) will get her wish to have a low income job, if she focuses on just being a writer in college, since jobs as professional writers aren’t lucrative nor easy to come by for a young graduate. Learning to waitress could be a useful skill.</p>
<p>Or euthanized vlines.</p>