<p>I'm a sophomore girl. This Fall will be my first time living on campus in a dorm. I commuted last semester (it's only 30 mins away from home). My roommate seems nice (I met her at freshman orientation last summer). She's kind of quiet and reserved, though. My other suitemates seem nice, too. I haven't met them yet but they seemed nice over email. One's a junior who is transferring from a junior college, the other is a grad student. My parents keep saying that they're going to miss me, but that it's a good thing that I will be living on campus so I won't have to rely on them for everything, and can be more independent. Which is really great and all.
Here's the thing, though.
- I've been shy ever since I was little. It's just the way I am. I'm nervous about move in day because my roommate says it's really hectic. There's going to be a lot of people moving their kids in on the same day. Judging by the move-in guide they gave us, it seems pretty hectic!<br>
- I didn't have too many friends my freshman year of college. I made a few acquaintances, but I didn't talk to them much because I was always studying! I ate lunch by myself a lot, mostly, and ate with other people (including my future roommate) a handful of times. I didn't get involved with campus life because I didn't live there. But now I'm going to and I'm scared!
- I DON'T want to cry when my dad moves me in. All four of us are moving in at the same time, so obviously their parents may come to help them. How can I keep from crying? I've tried to keep my emotions to myself, but lately I've felt angry for no reason, like crying for no reason, etc etc when I think about giving my dad a hug and telling him bye! My mom keeps saying "Oh, Jess, we are going to miss you so much. You know I don't want you to leave but we have to let you go. You're the first to leave the coop!" My dad keeps saying, "Do you miss me already? Because I do!" Honestly, it's NOT far at all from where I live, I dont' want to embarass myself by crying in front of my roommate. I think I might bring my uncle or sister to come with us so it won't just be my dad by himself to take me!
- Of course I know the main focus should be my studies. I'm just nervous about the whole change! I was excited to live on campus and make new friends and meet new people and now I'm nervous.</p>
<p>well there is the option of pharmaceutical intervention. “research chemical” retailers sell anxiolytics as do TOR hidden services like the silk road (psychiatrists also prescribe them… sometimes). and never doubt the potential of pharmaceuticals to provide immediate relief to the distressed individual.</p>
<p>i never had to move in but that would have been scary to me. i remember dreading it when i thought it was in my future. but it turned out it wasn’t. i would have been less scared had i known how to acquire anxiolytics back then and had the means to do so.</p>
<p>I understand that you don’t want to be too emotional during move-in, but know that it’s very common to be nervous and sad about moving away from home. Trust me, if you end up crying, you will be no means be the only one. I get that you don’t want to though, so I think the best thing is to have a definite plan of when you’re seeing your parents next. Since you live so close, maybe schedule a family dinner the weekend after move-in. That way, instead of seeing it as a major life change, you can remember that you’re only saying good-bye for a week, so it really isn’t bad at all. The great thing about living so close to home is that you can really ease into being away from them. Last year, my roommate went home almost every weekend at the beginning of the year, and as she got more comfortable she started to only go home on school breaks. So just remember that this is what you make of it and the fact that your family is so close means that you can still see them as often as you want.</p>
<p>So there are ways to think about it so that you hopefully won’t be upset, but if you end up getting emotional, just try to find a place where you can be alone and just be sad for a little while, and remember that this is a big change for everyone so it’s perfectly ok to feel the way you do :)</p>
<p>As for combating shyness, know that everyone there is in the same boat as you- most people who are just arriving at a college don’t know very many people and want to make friends! I’m shy by nature, too, so I know this is hard, but you have to just be able to go up to people you think look nice, or like someone you’d like to hang out with, and introduce yourself. You know your roommate, so that’s a start. Maybe you can go grocery shopping for dorm snacks together once you get there, or walk around and find where your classes are together. My friend and her roomie just hosted a movie night in their dorm to get to know girls on their hall. I know it’s difficult, but you just have to try to be more open! I think you’ll find that when you’re actually living on campus, it’ll be easier to make friends.</p>
<p>Thanks, smswhtslghtlydzed!</p>
<p>Thanks for the response, aleyna22!</p>
<p>I’m worried about this too! I move in next Thursday. But my parents are staying for the family orientation so they will be leaving Sunday evening. I am a very shy person too. I’ve always been shy and I was known as the “quiet” girl in high school. I kinda suck at making friends. I’m better at making acquaintces. Lol. My roommate seems nice but she’s a returning student so I’m sure she already has her own group of friends. I’m very very worried about crying when my parents leave Sunday. I don’t want everyone to think I’m a baby lol. I’ll be 4.5hrs away from home. I’m not worried about my studies since I’m familiar with the workload (I’m a transfer student. Sophomore.) Mainly I’m worried about making friends and crying when my parents leave. I don’t want to be homesick. I guess we both need to realize we will not be the only ones worried about making friends and crying. Other than this I’m VERY EXCITED about moving next week.</p>
<p>Good luck!!</p>
<p>When you move in don’t pass up chances to get to know people. Dorms will host all kinds of events to allow people to mingle and it is a good idea to go to as many as you can. Most of the people you meet will quickly be forgotten, just a face you wave to on campus, but it will be a chance to perhaps meet some people that will become friends. Keep in mind that even if everyone else around you seems confident and at-ease, you don’t know how they are feeling internally. Many are facing the same fears and anxieties, they just cover it with their “game face”. For that matter, you can bet that there will be other shy people that will see you chatting with some acquaintance and wishing they could be as outgoing as you!</p>
<p>Thanks, AEgirl! Your post made me feel better. With God’s help, we will have a prosperous school year, with great friends and a great academic environment. And we always have our parents to call if we do start to miss them. Good luck to you as well!</p>
<p>Just remember, when it comes to college life, your high school reputation means nothing. You’re no longer cool or a nerd. You’re no longer shy or outgoing. You define how people see you.</p>
<p>People may have their doors open in the beginning of the year… take advantage when that happens because it will NOT be like that all year! The first week, go around introducing yourself. One of my closest friends was on a sports team and wasn’t making friends that easily because of the time commitment, so she baked brownies one day and walked door to door introducing herself.</p>