<p>Coolbrezze, I will try to provide a response drawing both on what I recall as a student being dropped off 3 hours from home, and what I am feeling as a parent about to drop off a student for the first time, and at an OOS school much further away. Others may chime in with very different views, as no right or wrong answer. </p>
<p>The easiest thing to address are the mechanics. If you are arriving on the 19th, try to get there as early as you can so you can get moved in, and leave time to quickly gather any basic necessities that you realize you need after seeing the room. Then maybe have an early dinner and get some sleep before your important and condensed registration. On the 20th, based on the Iowa single day orientation link, looks like things may wrap up for you as early as 3:30-4:30. So it may be possible for your mom to participate in all activities, have a bite to eat with you, and be on the road by 6:00. </p>
<p>Now for the harder part, you are touching on a topic that is very personal and family-specific. How drop-off is handled depends on the personalities and family dynamics. In general, I’d say the “typical” routine is student arrives with parent, moves in, possible quick bite to eat, followed by (possibly tearful) goodbyes. Tearing off the band-aid is in some ways easier and less painful than slowly pulling it off. This is what I am doing – arrive a day early, on move-in day I will be flying out that evening. </p>
<p>That said, your mom will very likely be feeling some combination of tremendous pride, excitement, trepidation, curiosity and very mixed emotions. The magnitude of each of these is very dependent on the individual and your specific situation. Speaking for myself, drop-off will be one of the proudest, happiest and emotional days of my life all wrapped up in one. I was going to use the word sad, but I think emotional is more like it). </p>
<p>So depending on many factors, she may feel more comfortable staying over night in a hotel, and then maybe connecting with you on Saturday morning to make sure you are all settled, especially since I believe neither of you have seen the campus. She may also be better off driving after getting some rest and not having to drive home late at night after a very draining experience. </p>
<p>At the same time, you will surely want to connect with your floor-mates, get books, explore your new habitat, participate in Saturday/Sunday welcome week activities, etc. You might think about something like this:
Thursday - move in, get room all settled – quick run w/Mom to Target/BB&B/CVS to get any last minute things you realize you need after move in; Early dinner; Explore campus with mom
Friday - Connect w/mom for breakfast and go through orientation; early dinner with mom, then you can hang with floor-mates if it makes sense, mom can get some sleep
Saturday - meet mom for an early coffee/breakfast and see her off. One things that may be fun for both of you is walk the route you will follow from dorm to classes and back to dorm. Helps you and she may somehow feel more connected. </p>
<p>This way you’d have some time with both your mom and floor-mates, and she would be driving home rested and in full daylight and knowing you are all settled. </p>
<p>Again, no right or wrong – do what seems right to you, for you and your mom. And make sure you wait and wave when she drives away. My sister didn’t, and my parents bring it up at every opportunity. As the youngest, I made sure to keep waving until the car was 3 miles away. :)</p>