<p>I was happy for him I guess, when he got accepted, but not happy about them going to the same school. Seems like a recipe for disaster...</p>
<p>I even half-heartedly tried to deter her from going there (mostly to see how determined she was..)</p>
<p>Before he got accepted, she even said to me that they were not planning on going to the same school, as they didn't think it was a good idea... then his Cal acceptance came in (a surprise)</p>
<p>she doesn't know many people that are going there and it seems comforting to her to know he will be there</p>
<p>Do you not like him? Were you hoping they would go to separate colleges and "go their separate ways..?" Not sure where you are coming from on this subject.</p>
<p>There's a lot of ways this could go. You need to encourage her to branch out (and his parents should be giving him the same advice) in school, activities and most importantly friends. I've seen plenty of couples go to the same school and a whole gamut of outcomes. The ones that do the best in my opinions are the ones who are able to disconnect from each other and make friends independently, even though it will be very tempting to spend all their free time together.</p>
<p>Berkeley is a big place though, and there will still be plenty of new people to meet--they can't take every class together, right?!. I would guess that they will grow anyway naturally and wouldn't worry about it too much right now...just encourage your daughter to go into college with an open mind and the goal of making lots of new friendships and it will probably be fine.</p>
<p>Cal is a big place. Even if the "worst" happens and they split up, it would be easy to avoid each other. If he is too clingy, she'll either get the idea herself, or else you may have to accept that she is getting something she needs from that sort of relationship. Sometimes, the devil you know is better than the one you don't.</p>
<p>I think advantagious is right on target: just encourage your daughter to go with an open mind and an eagerness for making new friends and having new experiences.</p>
<p>I think I understand where you're coming from. I'm glad both of my D's went to college without the encumbrances of a BF at the same college. I like the idea of the open mind and new beginnings. OTOH there are some people who are miserable to the point of major distraction when their bf/gf are at a different school and they don't see them enough.</p>
<p>I hope your D and her bf are at least in different majors and different dorm buildings or at least floors. If so, they'll have a bit of space but it'll depend on them.</p>
<p>Wecandothis: If it's not the BF to worry about, it will be something else. There are MANY distractions at college aside from relationships. Try not to worry or you will drive yourself crazy. I agree with all of the posts above, CAL is a big place and I'm sure she will find her place there--with or without the BF. :)</p>